Someone like me who has a good job and is not afraid to pay the way at least most of the time. Also, I would treat you like a person, not a prize. I've never cheated and never will.
Or would you rather date someone who has a good job but if stingy with his money. Someone who treats you like you should just be happy you're with him. Someone who would cheat if he had a good opportunity.
Or someone with no job or lousy one who either can't even pay his way or makes you pay for all of it. Someone who thinks you're just a piece. Someone who cheats every chance he gets.
I ask because I always get dumped for either the second or third type of guy. It sucks. Follow up question: Can anyone tell me why I get dumped for these losers?
2007-03-12 09:52:04 · 37 answers · asked by toxicity_inour_city 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I know I forgot some details. Here they are: All of the women I've dated have had the same problem with me. They say I'm too nice. I don't smother them, but they say I'm too nice. I'm a sweet, funny, caring guy. I've dated different types of women. Gold-diggers (which I was glad to get rid of), goody-two-shoes, I even dated one girl who was my complete opposite. It's not like I date the same type over and over again. I'm not the jealous type. The only time I start "worrying" is when they stare at a guy too long. Even then I don't say anything. I just go get a drink or something, ya know? Anyway, I'm not sure of anything else I can tell you all.
2007-03-12 10:30:23 · update #1
i suppose some women like the bad boy type of guy, just because thats the type we've grown up idolizing. i think if you find a woman and she leaves you, thats her problem. im sure if you just keep on trying, then you'll eventually find someone that isn't going to make the foolish decision to dump you. good luck!
2007-03-12 09:56:37 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Nice guy syndrome..... Sorry to say it being that me as a women shouldn't be going against my kind but the worse you treat someone the more they want you. Although this is true most of the time it never ends in a happy relationship. Just keep doing what you are doing and the right girl who finally realizes she picks the wrong men and gives the nice guy a chance will win your heart and you will have hers as well. By then she will be able to appreciate you.
2007-03-12 09:58:53 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let me help you here. All of those answers that the rest of the women gave you is what they would say if you would ask them out but lets face it, they only will want you for a short while then like those other girls you have dated they will dump you for the other guys. Do not trust those answers you know that the rest of those answerer's will dump you. The problem with you is not you but them. For some reason we women are becoming dumber each year but you cant blame us its nature, female animals in the wild would usually go for the toughest males. That's why women dump you because niceness is sort of a sign of weakness and most women don't like weakness and because your nice they think you're weak.
2007-03-12 12:25:58 · answer #3 · answered by Blueberry. 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When I see these type of questions it sounds to me like you are trying to make yourself believe that you got dumped because you're a nice guy - it makes you feel better to think that. Relationships don't work out for various reasons and sometimes it's nobody's fault, you just aren't a good match.
Personally, I don't care about a guy's job or if he pays for stuff. I like a guy who is confident, outgoing and funny. And, nobody knows at the beginning of a relationship if their bf will cheat on them so it isn't even a factor to consider.
2007-03-12 10:04:17 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
obviously the first! also look at your personality traits that arn't the best. from what you wrote my first thoughts are "maybe you're egocentric" and "are you the clingy type". those are the two things that get on my nerves the most. make sure you're giving the girl some space, yet letting her know you enjoy spending time with her. compliment her, and make sure you both are having fun while you're together.
not everything is about money i noticed that was a big thing when you were describing the other guys. it's also nice & i appreciate that you also talked about how he treats her. that's quiet un-common now.
2007-03-12 10:21:43 · answer #5 · answered by E-Z Beth 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sometimes guy two and guy three are just good enough liars to get a girl hooked in, then once they are comfortable in the relationship their true colors show. I know I would always choose someone like you over the other guys, but sometimes you don't know who a person really is until after you're with them. I really don't know why you would get dumped for guys like that... sometimes I just don't understand girls at all because I would never do something like that.
2007-03-12 10:00:41 · answer #6 · answered by Green-eyed Nikki 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have dated guy 2 and 3 and believe me its not a picnic. Someone like you is who I'm with now and I'm marrying him in 2 months (although he could open the doors for me a little more, but hes getting better). I don't know how old you are, but when I was in high school is when I dated the losers. Girls like to be with guys who are and can make them popular. But no matter what, you will find someone who will take you for who you are and love you no matter what.
2007-03-12 10:57:02 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow I've never heard of someone getting dumped for taking care of, paying the way, and actually treating you like a person. It had to be something you said!!! Oh, and by the way me, myself I would like to date the fist guy. And on top of that he has to have manners and respect for his mother and father. I know that sounds like a cliche but that's what I'm going for and I really don't want to wast my time on ANY person who doesn't have those qualities!!!
But you sound like a nice guy, she's somewhere out there for you!!!
2007-03-12 10:03:15 · answer #8 · answered by Freckel Face 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The first guy. I know many guys who have gone through the same situation. They are the greatest catches in the world, and they constantly get tossed in the pits. They're the ones who have their heart broken the most. There's nothing you can do but continue to be who you are. I am 100 % sure that you will find that one person who will appreciate who you are and love you for it. Love hurts. But don't let that keep you from standing up and searching for it again.
2007-03-12 09:55:37 · answer #9 · answered by Rewind 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would date someone like you, personally. As to why you get dumped, all I can say is to take heart. The right woman is out there for you. Sometimes the good guys finish first and one day it will be your time.
2007-03-12 09:56:59 · answer #10 · answered by Julia Sugarbaker 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋