I have a very high sex drive and my husband complains about me wanting sex all of the time. There are times where he'd prefer to masturbate then to have sex with me. I'm tired of this run around and tired of having such high sex drive, when the one person I should be having sex with....prefers to masturbate to other womens pictures or porn videos. Does anyone know of some kind of pill, that I could take, that would decrease or totally eliminate my sex drive? No I will not take the depo shot and no I will not divorce my husband to be with someone else. Please no arrogant advice....serious answers only.
2007-03-12 09:50:31 · 7 answers · asked by cekret77 2 in Health ➔ Other - Health
Working out only increases my sex drive, yes it temporarily distracts me, in the long run it just makes me want sex more. As for trying anti-depressants, I've was on that before, not cymbalta so I'll look into that. As long as the cymbalta doesn't put me on a wild hormone ride...lol. I would hope that he doesn't have another women on the side. I've already told him that if he thinks another woman will make him happy, to just let me go and he can go do what he wants. He has also gotten me a vibrator, it just doesn't really do the trick for me. I would rather have the real thing. I've alraedy asked my doctor about something, she told me there's nothing that she knows of. As for doing exactly what he does, if I was to do that and he finds out, he'll say that's more of a reason why he does what he does.
2007-03-14 03:18:04 · update #1
No I have not gained weight. Besides being pregnant 3 times and losing two out of the three. I did get back to my pre-pregnancy weight. As for fun & making things interesting, I'll do anything except for watching porn. There's no reason why I have to be forced to do something that I don't want to do. There hasn't been a compromise in a long time, regarding sex. Most of the time I have to wait for him to be ready. As for looking for satisfaction elsewhere, he would be very mad if I suggested that. Yes, I'd prefer to take a pill to decrease my sex drive. If I can't get it from my husband, than there's no reason for me to have a sex drive.
2007-03-14 03:24:57 · update #2
Anti depressants will kill your sex drive. I am on cymbalta and would rather eat worms than have sex.
2007-03-12 09:55:08 · answer #1 · answered by GI 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You want sex often but your husband doesn't? I don't intend to sound smug, but you are suffering from what many men see as a bit of biological revenge. We reach our sexual peak in our teens. Women peak much later. What you are going through now we had to go through starting at about age 14 and continuing well into our 20s. Now it's balanced out a bit and you're wanting.
There could be a number of reasons for this imbalance in sexual drive. Most common would be that he's not sexually attracted to you anymore. Have you gained weight?
Another reason could be that you aren't sexually interesting. Are you willing to fulfill fantasies, use toys, make things fun, etc.?
If you want it a lot and he's doesn't then you have to talk about it and make some sort of compromise. You could ask for it less and he could make an effort to ask for it more. Perhaps he'd be more willing if you watched the porn together? Either way, you need to work it out through discussion.
Lastly, marriage is an agreement to do your best to meet the needs of your partner. It is completely reasonable for you to want to engage in sex with some degree of regularity. It's a physiological necessity and you probably are not out of line in wanting it as often as you do.
If he is unwilling to work with you on making a compromise of some sort, then I think you're 100% within your rights to look for that sexual satisfaction elsewhere. Perhaps you could even come to an agreement with your husband about this. "Give it to me or I'll get it somewhere else." Some men are actually excited by this prospect. Regardless, this should obviously be a course of last resort.
I can't believe you would rather take a pill to reduce your sexual drive than you would be to do other things, like masturbate, experiment, cheat, etc.
You are reasonable in requiring sex from your husband. It would be one thing if he were incapable, but if he's masturbating all the time instead of giving it to you then you have reason enough to Dump The Muthrfer Already.
Whatever you do I wish you the best of luck with resolving your problem.
2007-03-12 10:08:48 · answer #2 · answered by Peter D 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The one who needs the help is your husband. You are fine but if a man would rather masturbate then make love to his wife when she wants it has a serious problem. Is it possible he has another woman on the side?
2007-03-12 09:55:12 · answer #3 · answered by lynda 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm the exact same way!! My guy keeps saying it's annoying and such.
He got me a vibrator with different heads on it and different vibrations and that's suppose to make me not want him...just makes me want him more. so his plan backfired.
I honestly don't know what to say....I've just dealt with it and no longer tell him when I want some. Sometimes I just jump on him when he least expects it and get it that way.....
I feel like the man here tho :(
2007-03-12 09:55:21 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Asking your doctor would be the first step to helping your craving. If your doctor does not know what to do, I would suggest to do what your hubby is allegedly doing.
2007-03-12 09:55:51 · answer #5 · answered by Hugh Jass 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
start working out
2007-03-12 09:54:22 · answer #6 · answered by ♥I_rock_you♥ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my problem is oppiset.hubby has high drive and mine is gone.
2007-03-12 10:02:12 · answer #7 · answered by toomuchpain 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋