My boyfriend's ex-wife keeps coming around and thinking that she is still friends with him. He can't stand her but the only reason he still talks to her is because they have 2 kids together. How do I know if she is coming around just for the children or if she's coming around because she is still in love with him? I know that he is completely over her but it still bothers me. Help!!!!
2007-03-12 09:37:18 · 5 answers · asked by sbooth17554 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If you trust what he is telling you don't worry about it. She will ALWAYS be a part of his life because of the children. Trust me on this one, I have been there.....done that. Unfortunately, I couldn't handle it.
Good luck to you and if you trust him, don't worry about it.
2007-03-12 09:51:33 · answer #1 · answered by alli224 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your boyfriend naturally is gonna tell you that he can't stand her, even though he does not tell her this when ever you are not around. Because they have children, the only relationship they need to have is because of the children. Why she always has to come around is a puzzle to me. Some women do this to frustrate the new girlfriend and look upon this as a game. He must also be doing his part of encouraging her to come around or I doubt if she would do it. This is a red flag to you. before you get involved with any man who has an ex wife and children with her, then you need to think about if this is what you are willing to deal with for the entire time of your relationship with him. If not, then move on. I personnally would not want to. Best of luck to you!
2007-03-12 09:53:49 · answer #2 · answered by pictureshygirl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to sit down with your husband and be 100% honest about this issue and your feelings.
That's what people do in healthy relationships.
Your feelings need to matter to your husband far more than his ex.
Just because they share two children is no reason for her to come around. Your husband either lacks backbone if he is afraid to tell his ex not to come around and that he will see her when he visits the children or picks them up.
If he really can't stand her he wouldn't put up with this. The ex knows she can get away with coming around or she wouldn't do it.
Her feelings really don't matter. Your husband's feelings and your feelings are the only ones you need to consider in a marriage.
There may be a part of your husband that likes the idea of his ex still showing interest but only he can tell you.
In conclusion: Talk to your husband!
2007-03-12 09:51:56 · answer #3 · answered by KathyL 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well talk 2 ur bf bout it.and her 2.theres really no other thing 2 do, unless u just go kick her *** and threaten her...but i dont think that will solve it.
2007-03-12 09:51:03 · answer #4 · answered by Kandice 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if he has no interest in her.. then why are you so concerned?
do you not trust him? ?
my guess is you have some insecurities.. try your best to deal with them and realize thats all they are.. and it will be easier to get pass this
2007-03-12 09:44:36 · answer #5 · answered by steph 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋