Living together, things are great now, but for how long?

Question

My fiancée have been living together for almost two weeks now. We've know each other for approximately 30 months. I must say that things are extremely good at this time. I don't think I could be happier! People say that when you start living with someone, you learn a lot about them that you didn't know. Things that might make you think again about getting married. In our situation, I've learned more about my short comings and things that I have to work on, and more of how wonderful of a woman she is. And she keeps getting better in every way. We fully intend on getting married in June of next year. That's quite a while from now, but she wants to have a nice wedding and wants to save money for it. We're Christians, me more so than her. I feel bad about the situation, but because I'm so happy with her, I don't that much. How much longer can things go well when I know that I'm in a sinful situation? I don't want to lose what's happening here.

Answer 1

if your a christian and you want God to bless your relationship then you need to live separately until marriage without sexual relations,you should know better,besides you are being a poor witness to unbelievers and young kids in the church who are being taught that this is wrong

Answer 2

Personally I think it's a good thing you chose to live together before getting married. That way you know for sure whether or not you *can* live together once you're married. Studies have shown that pre-marital co-habitation actually results in longer lasting marriages. That's because those who co-habitate and go on to actually get married know what they're getting into beforehand. Whereas those who wait to co-habitate until marriage may find out after the fact that they made a terrible mistake.

Answer 3

Be NOT unequally yoked with one another.

In all of history, in all of romantic unions......the courtship time of euphoria and blind love WEARS OFF!~ When "real life" sets in and you have children, you will undoubtedly FIGHT about how and in what schools to raise them. You do not need to even go hat far into the future to know that there will be irritations, and agitations that will INTERNALLY be mounting, and coming to a head....irritations about your nightlife, where you spend your time, pleading with her to "just try my church" out this once!?

It will not work out. I'm telling you. Beauty can quickly turn ugly in the midst of differing human wills. The LORD (BEING THE ALL WISE BEST FRIEND OF ALL) KNEW what HE was saying when HE admonished us to only marry other Christians.

Save yourself and her the heartache of continuing something that the ODDS are stacked heavily against; BUT! MORE IMPORTANTLY....this thing that GOD clearly warns us about.

Step away from your heart, and think with your logic for a bit; you'll see that you may be saving the two of you from heartbreak that can and will be much WORSE!

Sorry. The WORD is uncompromising, as is the LORD. He is the WORD! (Jn 1:1). God Bless you. I'm sorry.
~SeVeN

Answer 4

First of all, why are you questioning the situation when everything is going well? You are "borrowing" trouble. Stop thinking negatively about the situation and start working towards a wonderful, long-lasting relationship.
If you feel so strongly about living together as a sin, why did you move in together in the first place?

Answer 5

My wife lived together for 16 years before we tied the knot, no big deal!!

Answer 6

Finances, sex and in laws are the first problems people have. If your religion would split you then you have not found how to compromise.

Answer 7

Get married now.

Answer 8

when the infatuation ends