Question for people who have been in a long distance relationsip?

Question

Ok this question is only for people who have been in successful distance relationships because if I ask the people who haven't been in one they are going to be harsh and won't understand.

Ok I have been in this long distance relationship with a man who I love very much. I have plans of being with him next year. The thing is that we were just friends at first and he came to me in a time when I felt very lonely and depressed, he was with me in my good and bad times, now that we are a couple I feel very happy with him, we are honest and tell each other everything, but the thing is that because I feel happy all the guys are noticing that and I am attracting male attention.

When I was feeling lonely no one would notice me, and now that I am in a relationship now all the guys want to be with me, and I think it would be unfair to cheat on him because of this, he is the one who have been with me when I most needed him and not those guys. They would have come to me when I was alone.

I don't want to leave him, I think that would be a huge mistake. We have tried to broke up a couple of times but we always come back together. I bet that if I broke up with him all those guys who are noticing me all of the sudden are going to dissapear. I can be faithful. I am not going to be going out with those guys, I just feel very uncomfortable with all these male attention that came out of nowhere.

Have you been in this situation? Even if it's not a long distance relationhip. Can you tell me something to feel better? Thank you very much.

Answer 1

If you really care about this guy, then don't rock the boat. That would be really ignorant to break things off with a guy who obviously cares a great deal about you, and has stuck with you through thick and thin. Just because you're getting extra attention, doesn't mean it's the go ahead to pay attention back.
Trust me-long distance requires a lot of faith and patience. Obviously this guy has patience and faith in spades. Long distance is definitely worth it. I'm in a long distance situation where the distance will only be a factor for another year or so myself, and now that there's a "countdown" it makes it so much easier-there's so much to look forward to!
If you love each other, and are willing to be extra tolerant and positive, then you CAN make it work!

Answer 2

Being happy and having confidence is a very good thing. Remember who helped you get there and stay true to him. If you don't like the male attention, you could always make it very clear that you are happily in lovel, and when he comes to visit you go out and flaunt how much you love each other. I don't have any words of advice except for that. Maybe the reason why you don't like the attention is because you are afraid that you are going to be tempted? If so, you have to stay committed and true to your man and yourself and do what is right for you.

Answer 3

I moved away from my girlfriend in California in the beginning of February and I moved to Georgia. There is a three hour time difference. She is SO pretty and she could get ANY guy she wants. I am coming back in April so it's not THAT long of a time. And I don't really have the problem of female attention because I'm not that attractive >.< But I can tell you that I don't care WHO looks at me, flirts with me, or wants to be with me. I don't care!!! I am with my girlfriend and she's the ONLY person I'll EVER want!!! We date so we can see who we want to marry, or who we don't want to. And to see how compatible we are with others. If you SERIOSULY want to be with this guy, and he SERIOUSLY wants to be with you. You guys CAN wait. Plane tickets don't REALLY cost that much if you buy them FAR in advance. And you guys can visit each other through-out the year. If you guys wait for each other, you both know that each of you will be loyalin a marriage.

Hope this Helps

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-sirK

Answer 4

makes you wonder where they were when you were single doesn't it? I was in a long distance relationship with my wife, for over a year,, it does work, just takes patience and communication. As soon as I was engaged, even girls I had asked out in the past came out of the woodwork. It's almost as if it's a test, since you are committed to someone. Or like a game ,something you can;t have. If you really want to be together, hang in for the long haul and talk to egether alot. best wishes.

Answer 5

i think of you owe it to your self to be certain the place this finally ends up in. you ought to no longer assume too plenty out of it yet in some cases long distance relationships are completely very well worth the soreness. The extra you be attentive to the guy and the extra you like them, then possibly there will be a great destiny...only go and spot her and spot the place it takes you yet do no longer positioned all your faith in it only in case....i'm in an prolonged distance r/deliver and that i plan to opt to it...i've got been so for the previous 5 years...and that's working for me

Answer 6

dump him

Answer 7

what?