Ok I met this guy I work with a couple weeks ago. We hung out Thursday and ended up making out. He initiated it and I wasnt uncomfortable so I was okay with it. This is definately not an ordinary thing for me. I am a virgin so definately not easy. I just got along with him great and it felt right. However I have been questioning if it affected anything the past couple days. I saw him at work Saturday and Sunday and he did talk to me and went out of his way on breaks to come to my department to talk to me. He said he might call last night but he was tired. He didnt which was fine bc I was tired too. He hasnt called yet. We both are 20, work part time and go to school full time. Should I be worried yet?
2007-03-12 09:16:19 · 8 answers · asked by annoynmus 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
and when do I have the right to ask where this is going? I am definately looking for more of a relationship
2007-03-12 09:17:37 · update #1
we were both sober and yeah I'm just gonna wait it out
2007-03-12 09:21:14 · update #2
Listen, it means more to us than to them in my opinion. Alot of my guy friends say what's the big deal we kissed, or what's the big deal, it wasn't like we are dating or anything? you see? at the same time it doesn't mean he doesn't care about you or like you. It's just that by not calling to him doesn't mean that he doesn't like you, it means just that, it means that he was busy or got distracted. They don't think of the message it sends out. Don't worry i honestly don't think it means anything at all. Just wither wait till he calls, or call him, and have something to say, because guys hate when we call and have nothing to say, luckily i can talk my *** off. lol anyway, also it may be hard but they also hate when we call to talk about stuff they don't care about. so if you are going to call,, think of something interesting to talk about, like maybe what you did last night or ask him what he did, but they definitely don't want to hear gossip, about what he said she said . ya know?
2007-03-12 09:23:38 · answer #1 · answered by Lovely 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds all good so far. I'd give it more time to see how things develop. If this were a full time job and a career choice, it might not be a good idea to date a co-worker. But your situation sounds more temporary and if you click w/a co-worker probably no harm done. He seems like he's interested and is trying to be attentive. You should probably bring up the issue of having a physical relationship (or not having one as the case may be) before you make out again so he doesn't feel like he is being misled. I think you should express your feelings similar to how you did in your question...that you are a virgin, intend to stay that way, but enjoy kissing and teasing with one another. Ask if that would be okay with him and go from there. If he's just wanting someone to have sex with, he'll probably be offended and blow you off. If that's the case, then good riddance. You have nothing to be ashamed of. Stand your ground. If he's the right guy, he'll be willing to wait until you both are ready. Try to learn more about him before proceeding though. There are alot of scary people in the world. Good Luck & Enjoy the new guy.
2007-03-12 09:25:39 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Myspace is lame. Whomever is doing the looking, all that concerns is as long as she's no longer obtrusive at you with some form of disgust, it would be extra useful in case you moved seats. take a seat a pair chairs away, and strike up a communique with reference to the readings, homework, lab, despite the fact that. If she's involved, she'll connect you in the communique. If she's no longer, she'll say some words and probably take a seat someplace else during the subsequent type. The worst that would happen is you will discover out she wasn't that involved. there is often somebody else and you would be able to provide your self some credit for no less than being brave sufficient to purpose.
2016-11-24 22:55:22 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't start worrying yet - that and asking where this is going right of the bat are the two quickest ways to run off a guy! Just chill out and see what happens.
2007-03-12 09:20:04 · answer #4 · answered by I See You 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First you need to evaluate the situation. Were you both drunk. People do things when they are drunk that they do not do when they are sober. Girl if he is interested he will call you. If he does not then he is just not that into you. Do not go all stalker on him. Chalk it up to some stupid fun and get over it.
2007-03-12 09:20:41 · answer #5 · answered by Lady A 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't be worried at this time. Just give him space and time to do the things he is committed to. He obviously is interested in you. Be patient.
2007-03-12 09:21:35 · answer #6 · answered by Jan C 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him what you wrote here. The only way to get an answer is to ask HIM. I mean, he will give you the best one...
2007-03-12 09:24:17 · answer #7 · answered by dude from bosnia 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i wouldn't assume he's lost interest but don't push anything or you'll end up pushing him away.
2007-03-12 09:23:41 · answer #8 · answered by smethansmee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋