Usually my boyfriend and I get along really well. But then it's like out of nowhere he'll just get grouchy and give me one word answers to everything. This has happened every day for the past 3 days. He'll just leave the room or sit there and not talk. I try asking him what's wrong but he won't tell me anything. It happened while we were out to lunch today. We were having a good time. Then he all of a sudden didn't want to talk anymore and was just like "fine, whatever" to everything I said. So we came back home and sat on the couch. I told him that I feel like I always upset him somehow and because of that I feel like a bad gf. He wouldn't say anything to that so then I started crying (like always do in this situation, I don't know what else to do) So then he got to leave. Then he basically said he wasn't mad until I started crying. But what else am I supposed to do? I feel like I'm walking on eggshells around him. Is this just how guys are? What can I do to make things ok?
2007-03-12 09:14:46 · 12 answers · asked by Stephanie M 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Look, some people don't like being all talkative and sensitive and 'couple-y' all the time. It sounds like your boyfriend may be one of those people. When you call attention to his behavior with a "It makes ME feel like I'M a bad girlfriend", you aren't saying you're interested in finding out what he's thinking--you're saying he should be thinking more about how to make you feel more secure and a needy, dependent girlfriend is the last thing most guys want/need.
When he gets like that, just walk out. Tell him, "Call me when you're feeling better." Either that, or turn on the tv. When he's ready to discuss it with you, he will. Until that time, though, putting on the waterworks is only going to make him frustrated and angry with you and make you feel worse.
2007-03-12 09:26:09 · answer #1 · answered by shoujomaniac101 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well there could be a few reasons why he is doing this. He could just be stressed out about certain things ..you know ..lots on his mind and stuff like that. He may be trying to get you to break up with him so he does not look like the bad guy. If he really means a lot to you then you need to sit him down and force him to listen. Say something like these past couple of days I have really been worried about you and if you keep acting like this then i dont think we can see each other anymore!! If this does not get him to listen then you should leave him because he really does not care about your feelings.. You are not doing anything worng by asking him why he is being mean or why he is in a bad mood. The only thing that you might be doing wrong is that you may be baggering him about this all the time which may make him angry at you. Do you bring this up to him a lot or just when he acts like that...?
2007-03-12 16:25:10 · answer #2 · answered by philip p 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
omg girl that happends to me sometimes. me and bf we get a long perfect but once in a while hell get grumpy all of a sudden for no reason at all. and ill ask him whats wrong and hell say nothing. the other day he got upset over somehting we had already discussed and he had said he had understood so i started crying. ( i also do this in this kind of situations) and then he got nice again and said he was sorry. and yeah i dunno wuz up with that. he ll be fine one minute and the next he'll be all mad. i dont think is a problem of if he loves u or not cuz i know my bf loves me. i think is just how men are. i know my brother does that to his wife and i know he loves her so. i dunno i actually stopped getting scared over it. i used to be like omg he is tired of me. rite now when he is like that i just leave him a lone for a while until he comes talk to me. is working until now so maybe u should try that. instead of been there asking him whats wrong tell him ur gonna let him be alone for a few minutes and that when he is ready and in a better mood he can go talk to u and ull be ready to listen. is the best advice i can give u. good luck!!
2007-03-12 16:27:28 · answer #3 · answered by Blondie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I DON'T KNOW IF THIS HELPS
This happened to me a lot...
but the other way around...
I would get all sensitive and I would answer with one or two words. I mainly did this when I felt my bf was doing something wrong... and I wouldn't even tell him what was wrong... he wouldn't cry, but he would get really frustrated.
I think I did that because I couldn't express what I was feeling or thinking. Slowly I've learned to express my feelings and thoughts. More than anything this was a problem I was creating because, if I would've just told him what was wrong he would've done something about it... and I would've felt better... and he wouldn't have felt frustrated.
MY POINT IS... it's not your fault, it means something is bothering him and he doesn't know how to express it...
and don't think it something big, don't scare yourself too much, it could be something really small that can be fixed.
2007-03-12 16:22:44 · answer #4 · answered by Estrella 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't seem like he cares about your feelings very much. No, this is not just how guys are. I think you would be much better off finding a new boyfriend than trying to make things OK with this one. If he treats you this way now, it will only get worse the longer you are together.... trust me.
2007-03-12 16:20:16 · answer #5 · answered by maggielynn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are telling to to talk to you about his feelings and he chooses not to act on that then there is nothing that you can do! Leave him alone, don't push the issue. When he gets this way you need to get up and say, I'm leaving I hope you mood gets better. You are not put on this planet to make him feel better.
2007-03-12 16:20:28 · answer #6 · answered by WENDY G 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not how guys usually are. It's how guys who want another girlfriend act. If you want to keep him, next time he is over, just act completely different.... Make him talk.. Chicks have done this to me and it works believe it or not. Just act totally different and he'll be like "whoa, whats gotten into her and ask you questions and stuff. One word of advice.. be very vague on your answers adds a hint of mystery to relationships. Keep him guessing.
Personally I love when a chick surprises me with who she is..
2007-03-12 16:20:56 · answer #7 · answered by GuitarJammer 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like he's just playing on your emotions to make you feel bad about something you did, or he feels you did, wrong. we do it a lot, and because your emotions are so fragile, it takes quite a bit of skill and adeptness to play the game without going to far. just give him great sex every night and he'll get over it. if he doesn't, then he's considering breaking up with you.
2007-03-12 16:19:19 · answer #8 · answered by Pyromaniac 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just let him do whatever he want...he just want u to turn arround him,don't let this happen just be cool and dont let him to play your emotions...When he see that u don't care and not sorry about it any more he will feel bad...Be strong and don't try to make things ok by yourself as u can't do this by yourself,let him alone to understand this situation and make him to worry about you
2007-03-12 16:32:04 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I do this to my boyfriend sometimes too but i only do it because i love him so much and i get to thinking and i think about what would happen if we broke up and stuff and get all sad and mad.
2007-03-12 16:18:16 · answer #10 · answered by Shibby 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋