would you go outside of marriage to have some fun?

Question

If you both agreed..would you go outside of marriage for a little fun?

wow....thank you all for your answers, I think alot of people should come look at these answers...well a few answer weren't nice....so many marriages could be saved if they'd just go out and look for help instead of just jumping right into something that can ruin thier marriage..there are so many super good answers that I don't even know which one to rate the best...and I didn't say we are having the problems.

wow....thank you all for your answers, I think alot of people should come look at these answers...well a few answer weren't nice....so many marriages could be saved if they'd just go out and look for help instead of just jumping right into something that can ruin thier marriage..there are so many super good answers that I don't even know which one to rate the best.....yes it is hubby and i who are have this problems and i'm reaching out for help...we both grew up in a very strict christian home but christians get into trouble to...our situation is complicated..and nothing has happened yet and i'm so glad i came here to ask this question even more so that i asked it under Religion &Spirituality...thanks again.

Answer 1

It's interesting that this question is listed under religion and spirituality, so i'm thinking you are looking for a good and evil discussion on religion vs. general ethics and morality. From a Christian perspective, I don't think you can do it, both Old and New Testaments are pretty specific about adultery and what it's consequences are. From an ethical point of view, since it's supposedly been agreed to, why not? It's obvious that the marriage is missing something at this point. But if it's to the point where someone wants a fling, why be married at all? Extramarrital sex isn't likely to make the marriage stronger, it's more likely to develop a wedge between the husband and wife.

Answer 2

Of course not. What seems fun to some, is only destruction , death, chaos.
As a Christian couple, we know the only real love is within the confines of marriage, where love and respect and honor are freely given. We are Gods gift to each other, being fully blessed. We believe in God, and we love HIm enough to obey Him, knowing He knows best.
Look around you and ppl who get into all this you mention. After awhile, do you see all the trouble it brings them? Destruction. God says obedience leads to blessing and disobedience leads to curse. Your choice...
We choose blessing, and He blesses us even more.

Answer 3

There are two kinds of extra-marital sexual activity: consentual where the involved parties are aware, and non-consensual where one person is being dishonest (cheating) on the other. There are thousands of instances of consentual affairs that don't negatively affect a marriage, while most instances of discovered cheating will do permanent damage to the relationship.

The damage that can be done has nothing to do with sex and 100% to do with trust.

Answer 4

in the beginning, make certain your companion knows which you take excitement in harmless and exciting flirting. Secondly, be sure you draw the line and ensure the guy you're flirting with knows that the communique is barely for exciting and for that 2d in straight forward terms. you have those 2 circumstances in place...then pass out and have some exciting. in assessment to a pair misconceptions, flirting may be an surprising thank you to socialise and meet some superb acquaintances. i've got observed women understand the belief somewhat properly, yet some men constantly tend to think of that flirting constantly leads "someplace" else.

Answer 5

Nope, never! Marriage is between one man and one woman, period. If you two wanted other partners then you should have never married. And generally both do not agree, one person is made to feel like they have to do this or risk losing their spouse. Its just a bad idea all around.

Answer 6

I wouldn't go for an open marriage/swinging, not my thing. I suppose if it's mutual at least it's honest. However, I believe those vows are sacred. If you want to play the field, be single and don't marry.

Answer 7

I think that's terrible. People should love one another and drink from each other's wells and not go to foreign bedrooms. A Marriage is a mutual relationship and the highest form of love between a MAN and a WOMAN and anything that breaks that vow is just terrible.

-sirK

Answer 8

A marriage with two people who can't find enough fun between them isn't a marriage. Dedicate that extra time to your spouse, and you'd be surprised what kind of fun you can have.

Answer 9

No, absolutely not. That is the worst thing a person can do.
If both agree to do that, then they should divorce immediately, because they obviously have no concept of love and relationship.

Answer 10

Flower,

Been there - done that. I don't recommend it for everyone, as the risks for problems far outnumber the opportunities for fun, but then, people have gone bankrupt prospecting for gold and gambling in Vegas.

Who am I to say?