And the babies dad lived a couple states away because you guys just moved. And he says he wants to be there for the baby and your daughter would you let him move in with her???
2007-03-12 09:11:16 · 12 answers · asked by lost_in_love_still 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
I would probally let him move in as long as he found a job maybe after school and did not have sex with yuor daughter in your house.
I do think it is important for him to be there for the baby and your daughter sense he is the father of her child
2007-03-12 09:16:10 · answer #1 · answered by crazziegrl14 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Well... if shes still under your roof, it is your decision. He doesnt have to and he could still visit. DO you like him and is he going to be able to be "livable" with? If he will only make the situation harder or stressful, or unsafe in any way = no. Maybe he is a good guy and feels he owes this responsiblity to the child and your daughter. Sometimes when a situation comes up, people can mature drastically. It may make your daughter mad, that you question it, but tell them that you need to have him visit and get a big family meeting going. Tell him what you expect from him and because your daughter is still younger and he is too (?) that you need to be ok with all of this too. At the meeting, he needs to be able to talk to you , not just your daughter. Tell him rules, like if he wants to help out being home at 3AM isnt ok, no drugs, etc... he is to be respectful and he can be kicked out if he doesnt go by these simple rules for peacful living.
2007-03-12 11:03:24 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on how old he is. If he was over 18, he'd be in jail!!! If not, depends on what kind of person he is and if he would do right by the child, thats what it's about. Your daughter is 16, she doesn't need to move out, she needs your support ad she doesn't need to be living with the guy who got her pregnant. She is only 16.
2007-03-12 09:16:42 · answer #3 · answered by BeThAnY 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It should be discussed with everyone involved; daughter, boyfriend, yourselves, boyfriend's parents. A few months' wait is probably a good idea, as mentioned. And some definite prerequisites, like him getting a job, staying in school, etc. I think it shows a lot in his favor that he's willing to go this far to be in your daughter's life, and his child's. With some guidance and motivation, they might have a better chance of making it than most young couples who find themselves in this position. Best wishes to all of you!
2007-03-12 09:22:43 · answer #4 · answered by LaundryGirl 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Thats a hard one to answer. You obviously know that they already had sex but me personally I wouldnt let them until the baby was here and he could be responsible for both the baby and your daughter. And if he is the same age I would think you would need to have his parents permission.
2007-03-12 09:20:55 · answer #5 · answered by shorty 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ask her why. tell her it is going to break her existence continually. make useful she knows the household initiatives and effects. she would be able to in all probability omit promenade, social activities, when you consider which you is merely no longer there to babysit, in case you do no longer agree. additionally remind her approximately how difficult a existence the youngster could have being raised by way of a new child themselves. in case you merely say no, it is going to in basic terms intend to make her do it greater. you would be able to desire to gently clarify to her why that's a bad determination. even maybe get her to computer screen the secret existence of the american teen because of the fact then she will see what quite happens while childrens get pregnant.
2016-10-02 00:23:08 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
thats supposed to be his job. I'd be happy he was responsible enough to make that decision and he'd be far more applaudable if he sticks to it, gets them through school, has a decent job, and shares his portion of baby responsibilities. There are grown men over the age of 30 who wouldn't even step up like that and this little boy hasn't dumped her or told her to abort the baby. he seems like a good kid. give him a chance.
2007-03-12 09:19:56 · answer #7 · answered by LoveLeighe 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Considering that they are both minors, then no, I would not. It would be his parent's responsibility to take care of their son's transportation for visits. It's also the parent's responsibility to find a solution if they want the son to live nearby for the birth or rearing.
2007-03-12 12:04:40 · answer #8 · answered by XilaMom 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he got a job and adhered to my house rules, then yes i would consider it. Sometimes that is better than the alternatives. She is lucky to have a guy that is willing to be there and support her and their child, far too many guys would not. Congratulations, grandma :)
2007-03-12 09:16:47 · answer #9 · answered by Amber 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I would not let her carry to term and destroy her life by having a child at such a young age. End of discussion
2007-03-12 10:27:33 · answer #10 · answered by jimbell 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋