ok ladies, i have a question for you. if you were to break up with a guy that you really loved and then over the next few months you started to see a lot of changes in him that he has made for himself and it turns out that he wants everything in a relationship that you do, do you think that you would regret it if you didn't give him another chance? Do you think that you would always be having these "what if" feelings and wondering what could have been if you didn't give him another chance?
2007-03-12 09:07:56 · 13 answers · asked by frankfurter27 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I wouldn't have "what if" feelings if the guy changed and sincerely expressed an interest in getting back together.
It really depends on what negative things he used to do. Beat me? Drink too much? Sell drugs? Rob banks? Smoke?
It is impossible to tell if someone has "changed their ways", unless you are around them 24/7 to see the changes.
Therefore, if he had changed and I wasn't around him to see it (he was with someone else), I probably wouldn't believe that he had made any changes, and be glad that we still weren't together.
Many women regret dumping guys, even if the men haven't changed at all. However, in my world, if a guy has changed and wants to get back with me, and I am available, then I would take him back.
My husband drank a lot right before we met. He was drunk ONCE around me, and got such a bad reaction from me that he never drank too much again.
He told me that he hated his life before we met, and couldn't imagine life without me, so now he only has a couple drinks a month.
2007-03-12 09:17:35 · answer #1 · answered by gg 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would 100% give him another chance, I dreamed of my ex showing me a change
2007-03-12 16:11:38 · answer #2 · answered by Peggy C 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes, of course. When I see that I've given up on someone I really loved and found out he has changed I would defianately give him another chance if he wanted one.
2007-03-12 16:11:52 · answer #3 · answered by *Breath* 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
MAybe he needed some alone time to set his priorities straight. If he wants to get back together and you feel the same way- then give it a go. At least you're both now on the same page.
2007-03-12 16:11:42 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you the guy? Are you really changing? If so, tell her I said you deserve a chance.
2007-03-12 16:11:15 · answer #5 · answered by NakasEvilTwin 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the changes are genuine, yes a second chance is in order, if it's not too late. Sometimes it's just too late........
2007-03-12 16:16:18 · answer #6 · answered by Jewel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would of wished that i never broke up with him trust me i have been there and done that but I'm dating him again and everything is cool we could not stay friends we love each other to much so yeah i probably have those what if feelings
2007-03-12 16:13:29 · answer #7 · answered by MS.NEISHA-BOO SUCH A KUTIE!!!!! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if i hadn't moved on... it really depends why she broke up with you in the first place - if it was because she wanted different things then yes, the 'what if' feelings would be huge. if this was just an easy way out, then no.
best wishes with it x
2007-03-12 16:11:56 · answer #8 · answered by aria 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes!
2007-03-12 16:10:42 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well to be honest it depend..if i still love/like him why not..but if my feeling is gone...most definitely no...cuz it will be unfair for both of us..
but oneway of knowing it is to open up and show it to her...but if she gave you that second change...dont break your promise....cuz she will feel bad and you will break HER HEART AGAIN!!!
GOOD LUCK
2007-03-12 16:15:45 · answer #10 · answered by angel 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋