How should a 14 year old boy cope with a overbearing, rude, seemingly cruel teacher?

Question

This teacher is the kind of person who really embellishes the double standards that adults put between kids and themselves. She wont wait in line at the lunch cafeteria like all the kids do and most of the other teachers as well. She physically grabs kids and tosses them around and gives out undo harsh punishments if any one stands up to her and she is always yelling. I hope I get some good answers, not like 'tell the principle or tell your parents' because thats all been done already. And she goes on like everything is fine. She laughs at our problems and acts so unsympathetic. Problem is, it seems only us kids care about this. A lot of teachers act this way and it really bothers me. So I dont do well in school. Maybe thats why they say 'SCHOOL SUCKS!'.

Answer 1

Aloha from Down Unda!

At 14, it's about time to realize that there's gonna be plenty of troubling situations to deal with much more severe than an uncaring teacher. Suck it up! Consider the source. Life sucks but the WAY it's dealt with will result in lessons learned to overcome all the obsticals.

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Answer 2

Well, I have 2 things I have to talk to you about. First, that's not cool if she is physically pushing kids. It's also not allowed. I think you could probably check with the school board and file a complaint or you could talk to someone she has grabbed and see if they want to file an official police report so that the incident is on record and they could press charges for assaulting a minor. Try these options first because that is really a problem if she is laying her hands on anyone. The rest of her behavior, while it may be unfair and uncool is not anything that you can do about so stick to your guns on the important stuff.
The second thing I want to tell you is that it is not your teacher's fault if you don't do well in school. You study harder and work more and do better so that she won't have any excuse to yell or give you a punishment. If you outsmart her she will just end up looking stupid when you have everything done you are supposed to have and when you do well in your classes.

Answer 3

At your age, this is tough. Because you are not as mature as an adult is. Not incuding this teacher. Because you are still growing, you could be more emotional from one day to the next. This is a part of growing up. What you obviously don't need, is this teacher being mean to you. So, here is what I suggest. You have a cell-phone, hell ALL kids have cell-phones! Hopfully, you have one with a camera. Just wait until she says or does something you feel is way out of line. Then, FILM her *** doing it. Post that ***** on YOUTUBE, and then watch the crap fly! Or, if you really want to start some crap with her, accuse her of sexual harrasment! You have to understand you have the power here. You are a young person who doesn't know everything yet. She is an adult, who knows more than you. Therefore, if she makes a mistake, it will be much harder for her. Use this to your advantage. Set her up if you have to, talk it over with your friends. Find out what her daily routines are, memorize them, look for a weakness that you can exploit. Then , when the time is right, nail her butt to the wall.

Answer 4

Tell parents, tell the principle, tell the school counsellor, tell the school board, News Media does wonders if the principle and school board do nothing, and so does contacting the police and file assault/battery report on her with them. A teacher cannot use force on anyone or everyone they please. That's for your own and others protection.

Keep accurate records of each incident. The time it happens, the day and date. What happened (as in what lead up to it), and what was said/done, witnesses names. All those things are important. So have paper and pen on hand every time it is seen, heard or when one is around it.

Some people don't need to be teachers, or they have just lost their patience, maybe even their mind to continue to teach. I know I had one that taught a 5th and 6th grade class some years ago. He was going through a divorce - and took his anger out on the kids in the classroom. Our problem had its resolve when we went to the school counsellor. The counsellor took over the class, and the teacher got the boot.

Answer 5

My friend you will find out that life has many many of these types of people. You must watch and learn from her. Use her as a bad example. You will have to do your homework but why dont you start by looking up different types of personalities. Perhaps some studies you find will help you understand why she acts the way she does. You are in a learning experience that will benefit you in your future life if you understand how to make the experience a learning one. You now have a chance to take this example and use it in a Psych class later on. It will make for great discussion. Now buick up so your grade doesn't falter.

Answer 6

yeah, school does suck.

well, the general response i'd give is - just wait it out. the time spent in school, in relation to the grand scheme of things (your life as a whole) is pretty small. the amount of time you'll have this teacher is really small, compared to the time you spend in school as a whole. so, all in all, if you can tolerate her "crap" for a while longer, you've got it licked.

also, realize that this is a big preparation for you in the workplace. sadly, there are always ****** bosses to deal with.

if the administrators aren't already wise to her game and planning to take action...then they probably won't unless your parents call. or, if you talk to the student body government? or if you drop some anonymous notes to the principal?

keep in mind, too... never know what has happened in her life... what goes on in her life right now... perhaps she is abused by her husband. perhaps her husband died. or she has had major stresses and hates her life and then takes it out on the students. it's not always easy, but trying to view things with a compassionate eye might help give insight into what's going on in her head/heart.

and then there's always the "killing them with kindness" approach. be overly nice (not kiss-***, but, show a genuine interest in her as a human). ask questions like "how was your weekend" or "did you see XYZ on tv...what did you think." or stuff like that. all too often teachers are put on pedestals and treated like "others" when in fact, they are one of "us."

hope this helps. :)

Answer 7

Carry around a recording device with you to record some of her cruelities. Then, go to your guidance counselor or principle. Sometimes, a soft answer will turn away wrath, but not always. You students should all ban together and go as a group to the principle if all else fails. Teaches need not be rude. And, if she/he grabs students, that's assault and battery!!!! and there's a law against that.

Answer 8

Get ya mum or dad to help you write a letter to the Education Mp and theyll soon sit up and listen. If youve already tried all the other methods and failed I would write a letter outlining the problems, and the discrimination you are experiencing.

Take it further because people just cant go on accepting that kind of behaviour

Good luck

Answer 9

Maybe have students all document everything she says and does. Be specific, like the time and date and why it was said or done. It may take some months to compile, but you need evidence of her bad behavior. Make sure you have some parents on your side and have them present the evidence to the school board. I don't know if it will help, so maybe have your parents look into.

Answer 10

If you are able to, take a small digital camera w/video capabilities and film her doing rude things etc...
Make copies. Make a detailed list of the infractions. Send one copy to the superintendent of your school system. Keep copies of everything. Most importantly, you must tell your parents. Worst case scenario is they can get you transferred to another teacher's class.

You can also contact a news station that has a human interests story. As long as you have a valid complaint as it pertains to education ; it is quite possible you can get someone to take notice.