I've been seeing the same guy for almost 10 months & he saids that he's afraid to answer my phone calls because he thinks I'm going to make him feel bad. He said that he knew we weren't on the same page to begin with ( I want a committment & he wants to play the field) but I still burden him with my feelings and such and he said that he doesn't want to hear it anymore. He said that I make him feel bad when I tell him how I feel about the situation because he does care but he's just not ready for that type of relationship. He said he loves women, talking to them and being in the company. Different women mind you & he said he isn't going to change any time soon.
2007-03-12 08:55:21 · 16 answers · asked by geminig 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Move on. You can't change a man unless he's in diapers! Find someone who wants the same things you do... you'll be a lot happier!!
2007-03-12 08:59:33 · answer #1 · answered by Just J 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I DON'T GET IT EITHER...
This story sound so familiar...
Here's the truth he probably does like you but he's not ready for a relationship...
It's been 10 months, I know, you would think this relationship would be somewhere else... You need to move on...
This guy doesn't care too much for you, otherwise he would try to have a relationship with you, and I'm not trying to make you feel bad, but you're probably not the only one he has feeling like this... I'm sure there's one or two other chicks out there that are thinking just like you...
DO YOURSELF A FAVOR... MOVE ON with out him.
2007-03-12 09:07:18 · answer #2 · answered by Estrella 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey stop chasing him. Do you really want to be with a guy who doesn't care how you feel. Burdened??? Isn't that what a relationship is??? Having someone there who loves and supports you- who wants to be "burdened" by how you feel regardless? It sounds like your guy is interested in himself and you are definetly more mature. You need to find guy who is more on your level, who is ready to commit. If he has already told you this then you know where he stands, what are you waiting for?
2007-03-12 09:04:31 · answer #3 · answered by specklesanne_13 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let him go. He is being totally up front with you. It's not a case of him saying one thing and meaning another. He means it.
Let him know that you have appreciated your time together and that you wish him nothing but the best. Then cut off ALL communication with him. Don't get your hopes up that he'll see the error of his ways and come on back crying. He won't.
Allow yourself time to be a little sad, and go find someone who is on the same page as you.
2007-03-12 09:01:54 · answer #4 · answered by kriskabob 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-01 21:38:48 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ooooh, I know that you're in a difficult position because I've been there myself! But he is never going to be interested in seeing you exclusively if you'll let him get away with more. So you have to be strong and give him some space. If he's smart, he'll realize that you're for real and he needs to grow out of playah-mode. If not, I PROMISE it will only hurt more if it happens later. And you want to be in control here. Don't let him toy with your emotions. You have to be strong, here! Back off and wait to see if he'll come back to you...it SUCKS, but it's the only way to get him to wake up. And anyone who tells their gf that she "makes them feel bad" on the phone has some serious issues to grow out of!!! Good luck to you!
2007-03-12 09:01:38 · answer #6 · answered by elusiveoptimist 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think if it is going this way in your relationship then it has to be over. or try ignoring the problem yourself... there will be times that u will be sad an your relationship but hey u have to also be happy... u choose waisting your time with the guy and waiting for a change, ignore the problem and have fun with the guy, or move on to someone who wont treat u the way he is treating u.
2007-03-12 09:03:37 · answer #7 · answered by MIMI LOVES WHO?? 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You've clearly already told him how you feel. You know where he stands. Honestly what more needs to be said. He's not the only single man left. You need to pick up the pieces and walk way. Find someone who is more than willing to love you and only you.
2007-03-12 09:02:20 · answer #8 · answered by Danisha R 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why the heck would you even want to call this guy, let alone date him? He's a player and he wants to play. Of course you're making him feel uncomfortable. He doesn't know how to handle emotions...that's why he's a player.
MOVE ON!
2007-03-12 09:05:42 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dang girl, you need to find another boy friend. He is admitting he is a player and doesn't want to date just one person, so if you want to be in a different league, you have got to let him go!
2007-03-12 08:59:37 · answer #10 · answered by bina64davis 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋