Long story/question--- I met my ex here where I live because he was visiting from Miami (about 3 hours from where I live). He stayed up here at his cousin's house for 3 weeks. I met him the 1st day he got here, we started going out for days later April 25th or 26th (one of those).When it was time for him to leave 3 weeks later we knew we were going to have a long distance relationship. which from the beggining i told him it wasnt going to work out but I decided to try it. 2 weeks after him going back over there he cheated on me several times and i didnt find out until July 1st...I was devasted and I still am. we stopped talking for a little while but then he started calling me again in the middle of august. He asked me if I would give him another chance.we got back together in September.on 02/28 I find out he slept with a gurl and he told me he just found out she's 4months preg. Today I find out he moved in w/her. He still wants to be friends. Im not strong enough what should i do?
2007-03-12 08:41:40 · 10 answers · asked by ? 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
The sad reality is that even though I want to get over him ...i still check my phone to see if he called and i dont want to be like this anymore..the more i talk to him, the more depressed i feel. But Im just so confused.
2007-03-12 08:50:16 · update #1
oh he said this: " I cant do this anymore"
Feb.28th which is when he ended it. and supposedly the girl he has now knows everything. But he's only w/her because of the baby...bullshit.
2007-03-12 08:59:03 · update #2
girl , have some pride for your self and say no i know what you're thinking easy said than done but a lil step at the time and before you know it you be taking a big step for your self, and you'll see what im saying , i broke up with my ex because i know it was the right thing to do and at first i wanted things to be ok and for non of that to be happening but i was like no , it does hurt a lot but i gotta say no and my heart healed in time and now that i got a new love i look back and i realize how strong i was and im proud of my self for that so i hope u do this for your self , step up and say no , cuz you're worth a lot more , you got feelings and its time for your feelings to be taken seriously , so enough is enough right?
2007-03-15 09:40:02 · answer #1 · answered by Nashira 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh honey, do not let this guy back in your life in any capacity. He's toxic, sounds like he's a liar and a manipulator. Cheating on someone one time is an unfortunate error in judgment, what he's doing indicates a serious character flaw, you don't need someone like that in your life.
Send this oversexed jerk packing, screen your phone calls, change your number if you have to, it may not seem like it now, but you will find someone else and you definitely deserve someone much better.
If you're really having trouble letting this go it would probably be a good idea to talk with a counselor, check with your school or with your HR department at work, a lot of places offer a few free sessions a year for just such issues. Everyone goes through hard times and there is no shame in getting a little help to get through them.
2007-03-12 08:50:53 · answer #2 · answered by Laureling 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Since he's broken the trust of your relationship on multiple occasions, while you can forgive him, it's going to take a long time before you can fully make yourself vulnerable to him, if ever. This man seems incapable of any kind of deep and meaningful relationship that you may desire. I'm not sure of his meaning of "friends" but to me it seems he wants you on the side lines as a "back-up" or for some excitement when he's away from home. If you don't mind playing second-fiddle to his prego girlfriend, then you can play in his games, but keep in mind, you may be setting yourself up to get hurt again.
The better solution is to tell him exactly how you felt when he betrayed you and that you deserve to be treated better. Tell him that it would be unhealthy for you to be in a relationship of any level, let alone friends, that is based on lies and deceit.
Get out now while you can. This guy is no good.
2007-03-12 10:54:51 · answer #3 · answered by Big Blue 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
HELL2THA NAW!!!! Sorry but no I don't think you should waste your time..you have feelings for this man and he broke your heart obviously so I would just keep it moving ..Once the trust is broken why bother! He has no respect for himself or anyone else for that matter! I would not be bother by him..no matter how bad it hurts...just keep in mind all the bad things he did to you and what has happened before when you gave him a chance before and cut all connections OK...you deserve better and believe me there is better out here...don't settle and be a fool... I think he has enough!
2007-03-12 08:49:26 · answer #4 · answered by Mia-Mia 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i've got been thro that too and it grew to become out that he somewhat purely wanted to be acquaintances and not something, different than that as quickly as we broke up he got here back the month later made me have faith that he nevertheless cared approximately me and we had intercourse and then he in no way talked to me back. So I say yeah specific be acquaintances with him yet do no longer provide him your heart back he would not deserve it. He probable purely needs a one nighttime stand or purely have a back up because of the fact the female he might like might say no and he has somebody to pass cry/use later after rejection desire that enables
2016-10-18 05:11:21 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Say no joe, not for me. He is a flirt and doesn't give a dam about any female. How do you think that pregnant chick is gonna feel when he is out with you? Is there some reason you can't see that this guy is a definite jerk?
2007-03-12 08:55:58 · answer #6 · answered by ButwhatdoIno? 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just keep a distants and never forget what kind a real person he is. Never trust a word he says. Sounds to me like there a quite a few people he's not being truthful to.
2007-03-12 08:47:32 · answer #7 · answered by lilrahl3465 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have every right to just say NO. unless you want to say YES.
2007-03-12 08:47:08 · answer #8 · answered by Ryoudan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i gotta a new gf now but i dtill wanna be frnds with my gf
2007-03-12 09:07:32 · answer #9 · answered by Angad 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he just wants to nail you again!!! Find a new friend
2007-03-12 08:50:47 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋