My friend likes my boyfriend! Me and her liked him together and we would giggle about him (a year ago in April 2006). It was really fun. She has liked him for five years and I have liked him for four 1/2. (we are 14). The thing is we three (me, her, my bf) were all friends then...we would all hang out and talk and stuff...but then I started wanting something more w/ him and my friend wasn't doing anything to show her interest in him--so I started flirting a lot with him and he flirted majorly back. And then we started going out and being bf/gf a few months ago. The thing is we three don't hang out anymore (we were in drama together not this year though) and my bf is coming to my drama rehearsals tomorrow...where my friend will be and I know it will hurt her b/c me and him will be hanging out and I know he doesn't like her more than a friend b/c shes not his type and she's a little chunky...help! What can I do so she doesn't find out that he is my bf?!?!
2007-03-12 08:40:45 · 15 answers · asked by horsesareforever 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Your friend needs to except the fact that only one of you were lucky enough to get him and she should now find a boyfriend of her own. If I were you, I would not discuss anything about yourself and your boyfriend with her. The negative will only give her ammuniton and the good stuff will only make her jealous. Good luck hun.
2007-03-12 08:46:13 · answer #1 · answered by asoldierswife 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Actually, you should *NOT* try to keep it a secret from your friend. Trust me--she will definitely prefer to hear it from you over some random person (which she would eventually. Unless you and your bf and she all live in caves away from other people.) But acknowledge her. Say, "Look, I know this hurts you, because you've liked him for so long. But I would really like it if we could all still hang out together. If that's too hard for you, I understand. Help me to know how I can make this easier on you." Don't let her guilt you out of your relationship, but let her know that you are AWARE of her feelings and want to help minimize the pain. That's a sticky situation, though! Good luck! :)
2007-03-12 15:50:38 · answer #2 · answered by elusiveoptimist 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I don't know if you know, but. . . . Everything in the dark comes to the light. You can't hide that he is your boyfriend. Especially from you're friend. We'll just call your friend "Prue" in this answer...
If you don't want Prue to know then you and "Boyfriend" need to breakup. If you two are seriously going out, then it should be pretty obvious; especially to a friend who knows both of you pretty well..
All I can say as good advice is to tell Prue that you two are going out. If Prue is such a good friend, she'll understand, and she'll support you.
However she's liked him since she was like 10 (which is really weird!!)... So her long-term affections will definitely play a role in how she accepts this.
Good Luck
2007-03-12 16:15:45 · answer #3 · answered by ~luminary legacy~ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I really don't understand why you keep using the word friend, when you clearly stabbed the girl in her back. Friends know the rule: Never let that of the opposite sex divide you. Now when he decides to leave you, and he will leave you -- because you are only 14 -- and just learning about "relationships". you will be without a boyfriend and a girlfriend. Just had to have it all I guess -- in the end you will have NOTHING.
2007-03-12 15:52:25 · answer #4 · answered by Quest 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
She will find out whether you tell her or not.
You don't need to try to protect her feelings. It's better to honest with her so she knows not to waste her time.
Yes, she'll likely feel hurt and angry partly because you have withheld the truth from her all along.
If you feel you can't be honest with a friend then there's not much of a friendship.
You may loose a friend but learn from this and always be honest with your close friends about your life.
2007-03-12 15:50:18 · answer #5 · answered by KathyL 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Why don't you want her to see you with him? Could it be you feel a little guilty? Bite the bullet and tell her, if you are going to loose your friend its best to loose her by doing something right (telling her) then another thing wrong (continuing behind her back).... By the way he is 14 he has no idea what his "type" is..... Be careful if you want to keep your friend.... good luck..
2007-03-12 15:48:24 · answer #6 · answered by M B 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
what???? your friend doesn't even know the two of you are going out? hmmm...if this guy knew the two of you liked him before you started going out with him, then he might be playing you both....for all You know, he could be going out with your friend at the same time
~at your age, you shouldn't be dating. Focus more on school. Boys will come and go. I hope you're not doing you know what with him cause it's not worth it one bit. Kick his a$$ to the curb if he ever pressures you to:-)-
2007-03-12 16:50:14 · answer #7 · answered by Ghanaian Princess 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Better tell her sooner or later taht way its less of a shock compared to five years from now when she finds out you have been dating him for 6 years
2007-03-12 15:46:07 · answer #8 · answered by Dillon C (who else) 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you consider her a real friend then be honest. It's better to hear it from you than a bunch of gossip. She'll be hurt no matter where she hears it, but it might sting a little less coming from you.
2007-03-12 15:47:14 · answer #9 · answered by luckford2004 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
child this is just a fantasy with young girls your age. you must realize that all girls like each others boyfriends and boys just eat it up. act like you don't even know him for awhile and do your own thing like hang out with your girls and just wait and see what happens. chances are you will end up being the mature one and he will come around. Anyways enjoy you young years, they go by to fast.
2007-03-12 15:49:03 · answer #10 · answered by K.Heat 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋