Am I being used by this girl? if so should I just forget about her? even though I like hanging out with her?

Question

I've known this girl for a couple of months now, and we have hung together a couple of times and we have had fun when we did hang out, but lately I'm starting to think she might be using me. When we do hang out she has offered to pay but I always pay because I think I should since I'm the guy. when she needed a ride to school I gave her a ride, when she needed cigarrets which I don't like when she smokes, but I bought her some. I have sent her two texts these past few days and I highly doubt she is busy all day every day, she hasn't returned my text to see if she wanted to hang out. I really like hanging out with her, but I'm starting to think she dosen't like to hang out with me that much. I'm tempted to just delete her number so that I can just move on from her, but I really like her and its really hard. What should I do? I'm hoping she calls or texts me back, but if she dosen't should I take a hint and just forget about her?

thanks

Answer 1

I wouldn't call what she's doing using you per se, because you say that she has offered to pay for her self, but I would say that she's not interested in you. A lot of girls have a difficult time telling a guy to his face "I'm just not in to you", so they do things like ignore phone calls. Believe me, when a guy I'm interested in calls, I call back, generally within one day, always within two days.

I think you're better off just moving on.

Answer 2

Sounds as if you are the only one who sets yourself up to feel used. When she offered to pay you declined, then you willingly bought her cigarettes. You seem to have a problem with trying to buy someones affection, then later question if they are using you. Next time ask if she can split the cost. See what she says. She just might understand and come through with her end of the money. If not then you will have to decide if you are willing to pay the bill of all the times you two hang out. The decision is yours. Best of luck in whatever you decide.

Answer 3

You are right on with your thoughts. I recently went through the same situation. I made the mistake of following up when I didn't hear from her. Don't waste your time. If she likes you she will respond. You have put forth a good effort to let her know that you want to continue the relationship, so now the ball is in her court. Maybe right now, she doesn't realize what she has in you, so stop texting and let her go. If she misses you and wants to continue, she will contact you back. I know its hard and you want to know what she is thinking, but she is telling you how interested she is by not responding.

Answer 4

There is a possibility she could be using you, but then again she could be busy and just forget to text you back. Does she act like she's interrested in you when yall do hang out? Don't always text her call her first.. don't always offer to buy her cigs. If she knows she can use you she will.. just give it time. I wouldn't delete her number. Don't plan your life around "maybe she will want to hang out today" dont sit there and wait on her to say she wants to hang out. You go do your thing..Good Luck

Answer 5

First of all, I would like you to congratulate your decision to not smoke! Back to business, I don't think you're actually be used. I'm not trying to be mean but you need to get a life. By your point of view, you seem like you're waiting on her hand and foot. If you're friends, use advice above. If you're dating, something's probably up. Try to talk with her at school.

Answer 6

This was a long question for something you answered yourself at the very end. Take the hint, move on, and forget about her.

Answer 7

Well, the hole paying for stuff for her sounds like she really wants to pay for it and she is happy that you are nice to pay for her. But I think she might not like you that much yet. She likes you enough to go on a date, but not enough to love you forever.