My daughters are 9 and 6 years old. They fight more than they get along. My older daughter doesn't act as though she loves her sister. She doesn't look out for her like my sisters did for me when I was a kid. Isn't that what big sisters are supposed to do? She is moody and never wants to be bothered by her little sister. Now my youngest is no picnic...lol. She can be obnoxious and loud, but in a playful sort of way. They both just have such different personalities that they often seem to clash. I want them to be close and to be friends. I have two older sisters and growing up it was us against them(the parents). My girls don't seem to have that bond....they can't wait to tattle and get the other in trouble. Am I doing something wrong? How can I help them become closer???
2007-03-12 08:34:15 · 3 answers · asked by Linnygirl 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
No, it's not just the 3 of us...their dad lives w/ us too. :) He works a lot so i'm home w/ our daughters most of the time. They don't get a lot of time alone with me, but I will take turns taking them w/ me to the grocery store or other errands.
2007-03-12 08:59:12 · update #1
I have the similar problem, and I recently read in an article that I am encouraging the tattle tales but responding. The article said that if I try to stay out of their squabbles unless something physical is imminent they will learn to work it out. I also make sure to give them equal time with me as much as possible and as much time with the three of us. I also tell my older daughter that the younger one only tries to be like her because "imitation is the highest form of flattery". The article also said if one comes to you with a complaint, you should ask them to go back and see if there is something the two of them could come to agree upon to settle the squabble. Good luck and God Bless.
2007-03-12 08:41:48 · answer #1 · answered by tersey562 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing you can do to make them become close, but what you can do is refuse to listen when one tattles.
Is is just the 3 of you? Because it sounds like they might be fighting for your attention......do spend good quality time with
both of them? Together? Individually??
Kids dont just do stuff.......they learn by example.
You have to teach them how to have a positive relationship, but also remember......you are remembering the "good ole times" with your sisters.........they are older........call them & ask them what it was REALLY like. All siblings fight......
its life.
Good luck
2007-03-12 15:47:07 · answer #2 · answered by Trish 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well call both of them and say them with love that u shouldnt di that.
2007-03-12 15:43:18 · answer #3 · answered by parvez d 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋