Wedding rings should match?

Question

He got my engagement ring at the Shane co. He picked it out. I had no idea he was even looking. He got white gold. Now he is saying he wants yellow gold. But I think our bands should match. Both be white gold to match my engagement ring he bought me. What do I do?

I just think that they should be the same color. White gold is what he picked out for me. I think it look funny to see a husband and a wife with different color bands on.

Yes Bubbles that is what Im wanting. The same color.

Answer 1

Traditionally you are correct they should at least be the same metal color. It's not a must though but it sounds like that's what you really want them to match. Maybe go to the store and ask them for help and have him try on some white gold ones and see how they look. Also they have titanium which is stronger for men and they are white gold looking.

Answer 2

Your rings don't have to match. He should get whatever it is he likes best, and you pick out whatever it is you like best. No, it's not "funny" to see spouses with different color bands, I assure you that most people will not even notice. It doesn't matter, and is hardly worth a thought. You can pick a wedding band that matches your engagement ring, but even this is not exactly necessary. My engagement ring is white gold with blue topaz, and my wedding band is a plain gold band; they don't match - so I wear my engagement ring on my right hand, and my wedding band on my left. It's not a big deal, I like both rings, and wouldn't trade them for anything. Look at the big picture, and don't get bogged down by the unimportant details. Congratulations.

Answer 3

The great thing about weddings is there are no rules ... if you like the look of white gold and he likes the look of yellow gold, then I think you should both get what you want and feel comfortable with. They don't have to match by any means ... and most of the time they won't match. A lot of couples have different style opinions, so it just depends.

Answer 4

Well, matching rings is more like a “fantasy” that everybody likes to live. But in reality, there is no real rule about matching anything. In fact, instead of rings you could get earrings, or toe rings, or nose earrings… even a onion ring like Homer did to Marge in The Simpson… LOL

It is all more about tradition, and what your dream of a “perfect wedding” has been. But at the end, is you and your boyfriend the ones that get to decide what to do.

For example, I got my girlfriend (now my Wife) an engagement ring that is actually half white gold and half yellow gold, and has a very particular shape very difficult to match. At the time, I loved it, and so did she. But then we ran into two problems:

First, the ring was very expensive because it is made of 18 K gold (not 14 as most are) and was made in Italy. I will not disclosure the size of the stone, but it was expensive. The problem: because is more pure gold, it would get scratched all the time. She had to send it to polish one time, but after that, we decided that it was better not to use all the time as it will get scratched again, and if you keep on polishing it, you keep on loosing gold. Not good.

Second problem: when we went looking for wedding bands, it was mission impossible to find a matching band. And at the end we didn’t.

So we came up we a better solution. Since she was not wearing the good one, I got her a regular 14 K yellow gold with the same size stone engagement ring so she could wear it all the time.

Then things turned ugly again: we decided to go for white gold wedding bands instead of yellow. We are crazy, right? But we did. So at the end we did not match her rings at all. And worse, we couldn’t agree with the new rings styles, so we ended buying two different rings from different stores. She go what she want (still white gold) and I got what I want too (matching gold, but different shape).

Did it matter? Nope. Almost 10 years later we are together and happy. I wear my band at all times, sometimes I wear other rings as well, but never take off the wedding band. She always wears her as well, and sometimes she puts on her other hand the original engagement ring (the most expensive of them all) like when we go out for a party on the weekend, and sometimes she puts on her newer engagement as well. She just loves them all.

BTW, she also got me a ring that I used it as an “engagement” ring before we got married. I now wear that one sometimes too.

Good luck and congratulations!

Answer 5

I understand exactly where you're coming from. I prefer white gold jewelry and my husband-to-be prefers yellow gold. I made a big deal about the bands matching too. But I came to the conclusion that since I wasn't going to budge on what I wanted then he shouldn't have to either. So the band we got him in the his band to my her ring. However, it's yellow gold. It doesn't matter if the rings match or not. You should let him have the ring that he will be happy with and not necessarily the one you'll be happy with because he has to wear it. So let him get what he wants.

Good Luck

Answer 6

Your wedding rings don't need to match in fact some people don't even have 2 ring ceremonies. My husband and I picked different designs by what we liked my husband is allergic to gold so he was getting a different ring anyway I ended up picking the same material because its stronger than gold(its TUNGSTEN)Mine is a brushed look because I like that and his is shiny.It doesn't make the feelings any less because they don't match and that is what matters the feelings.
By the way no one ever looks at your rings when they meet you on the street and says oh my those don't match hmm I wonder what that is all about.

Answer 7

How about 2 tone? My husband and I wear two tone rings with yellow gold on the outside and white gold on the inset, I love our bands. I can understand that you want them to match, I prefer that look too. If you choose 2 tone you could both be happy with what color of gold you want and everytime you look at it you will be reminded that compromise is a big part of marriage!

Good luck, I hope you guys can decide what you like together!

Answer 8

Well though I agree, I would want me and my husbands bands to be the same color, not necessarily match the same design, I don't think it's a mandate. I like white gold, my fiance likes gold (though he wants our bands to be a matching set so he's wearing white gold as well). What is most to remember is he has to wear his ring for the rest of his life too, he should get to wear something that he'll like. Certainly you don't want him walking out the door without his ring because it doesn't match or he doesn't like it, right? So let him wear whatever he wants, it can't be all about you. Good luck.

Answer 9

They dont have to match. I have some friends & her ring was yellow gold & his was yellow gold & then 7 years down the road she up-graded & got a white gold ring & he just kept his original ring. It perfectly fine & doesnt look bad at all. Unless you are OCD & every thing has to match & be perfect. But just remember the ring is just a symbol of yalls love for each other not a fashion accessory. Just wear whatever unless he wants to get matching ones.... I hope this helps! Good Luck :)

Answer 10

It totally doesn't have to match - it's not like you two will always be side by side for people to compare. C'mon, the bride gets SO many things her way, buy him what he wants. He can buy you white gold to match your engagement ring. Besides, yellow gold is classy and durable, and requires no maintenance - unlike your white gold. That's great for guys. I have yellow gold, too, because I'm really active.