this is the thing the love of my life proposed to me a few months back and i am really nervous now that the big day is almost here. We have everything set up and it's like i can back down....i am realllly scared and i dont know if i am doing the right thing, he is my every i just dont know if i want to get marriged right now. I need advice........***sigh***
2007-03-12 08:31:38 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Okay, calm down. Take a few deep breaths or have a small glass of wine. Now think....is this just ordinary cold feet or do you have reasons to not want to go through with the wedding? Has anything changed over the past few months, is your relationship still going strong? If the first answer is no and the second is yes, then you just have cold feet, nervousness. It'll go away, just stay calm - call your MOH and tell her how you are feeling, she should be able to talk you down. If something happened to make you feel this way, either he did something or you did, then perhaps you have a valid reason to be scared. But honey, if you want to put it off or even call it off, then do it. Everyone will just have to get over it. Do NOT do anything you don't want to do, no matter what. Forget about costs and food and plans, those are small compared to the problems you'll have later if you go through with the marriage knowing it's a mistake. Again, talk to your MOH, your mom or even your fiance (if you think it won't freak him out). Good luck.
2007-03-12 08:40:32 · answer #1 · answered by Brandy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Calm down and think about it you always have a choice. You can back out if that is what you want. No one says you have to go through with it just because it is set up. Believe me I know I had everything set up 1 time before and say I couldn't do it. Now I'm engaged again and would marry the one I'm with now. But we have been engaged for 2 years and waiting on our house to be finished then we are getting married. Just eloping no pressure. Some people get cold feet. I cant tell you what your feeling but if your having second thoughts maybe you should hold on and just delay it for right now.
2007-03-12 08:39:14 · answer #2 · answered by gizmo0013 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is normal for me it didn't click in until I heard my dress zip up.(We already lived together) My husband was nervous all day and shaking. I think if I would have seen him I would have ran away to see such a big man scared. (Probably why you aren't suppose to see each other before the wedding) My husband nearly fainted I actually saw his eyes roll back wards while we were doing our vows . So I though I need to get us both threw this and I squeezed both his hand and in my most clear voice belted out my next set of things to say.I don't regret it for a second and honestly not that much really changes. Talk to a female family member I'm sure there are a few with similar stories.
congratulations
2007-03-12 09:19:42 · answer #3 · answered by emmandal 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The "sigh" says it all....take a deep breath. In fact, take two - they're small. And realize that what you're experiencing is commonly referred to as "wedding jitters." It is perfectly natural and I would be more worried if you WEREN'T feeling a little crazy right now! You're going to be fine.
If you love this guy and he loves you and you're ready to spend the rest of your life with him, then there's nothing to worry about.
And if you feel that this is absolutely, positively the WORST thing you could be doing, then by all means cancel! Canceling a wedding is way more cost effective than a divorce...and less emotionally devastating too.
But it doesn't sound like you want to back out...you just want reassurance that you're doing the right thing. Follow your heart...your head is a little nuts right now!
Good luck!
2007-03-12 09:12:19 · answer #4 · answered by Brutally Honest 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should have a good "cry it out" with your soon to be mate for life. Let him know how you feel. Know how he feels. What if you both feel the same way...wouldn't you like to know?
I'm getting married in 6 days. All the wedding planning has be burnt out pissed off and emotional! We have been together 4 and a half years...we have a 8 month old baby. We got preggers 3 months after we got engaged in 2005. That really sealed the deal for us...lol We love each other...we fight but then get along again.
If you know you want to have this mans children that should be all the need to know , that you need to know...know what mean? lol
Have heart to heart...if you can cry tears of joy about htis wedding with your fiance then it's ment to be.
2007-03-12 09:23:19 · answer #5 · answered by A Person I am 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Aww what your feeling is normal. Relax, go to the spa, go out with friends. Just think of it as a huge party that you and the love of your life are throwing. But if you really don't think you're doing the right thing call it off. But if you know you can't live without him and he's the one you want to grow old with and have a family with. Then you're doing the right thing. Can you imagine your life without him??? Enjoy your big day. All eyes will be on you, and it'll all be ok. Congratulations!
2007-03-12 08:42:17 · answer #6 · answered by Jessica 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What you are feeling is normal, everyone has pre wedding jitters and doubts. Just keep reminding yourself why you said yes in the first place and all the wonderful things he does for you. If you are not absolutely sure about getting married, put it on hold, but make sure you discuss it with him first adn tell him everything you are feeling. Sure you may lose a little money on deposits or whatever, but it is far better than being miserable the rest of your life or paying for a divorce.
2007-03-12 08:37:24 · answer #7 · answered by Kevin J 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
in line with danger that's barely the time shrink that's bugging you - that during a feeling you're being "compelled right into a decision" - having been divorced from a marriage I felt pushed into - i might say do no longer enter a marriage at the same time as feeling compelled to accomplish that - in spite of how surprising the guy,as you will resent it and sense it grew to become into no longer your determination. you will possibly be able to desire to be unfastened to return to a decision without the rigidity of a ticking clock - yet given which you have a ticking clock you will possibly be able to evaluate no count if the two or extra years you will possibly spend no longer being married make any odds - in case you have been to get married after 2 years,why no longer do it now? in line with danger the alleviation of understanding she would be able to no longer choose for good will assuage any doubts. you're certainly being your very own worst enemy. purely make certain that's no longer a marriage of convenience.
2016-10-18 05:09:50 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just breath and feel blessed that your marrying the love of your life. It's a big decision, but worth it. Just ask yourself this: Do I love him and can I imagine living the rest of my life with out him? If the answer is yes then get married. If the aswer is no to either part of this question then tell him. lol
2007-03-12 09:55:06 · answer #9 · answered by CJ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is normal. I went through it myself before I got married. I kept thinking to myself "what if I say 'no' instead of 'I do'?" I think pretty much everyone goes through this. Just calm down, don't worry. The wedding just one day and it will all be over before you know it. The next day should be just like normal
2007-03-12 08:44:43 · answer #10 · answered by Jennifer S 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋