Can anyone help me solve this problem please!!! My fiance has been playing this game with a girl that is 17 and from florida. She mananged to get his email address and they talk everytime he is on. She says that she loves him and he does not deserve to be with me and if he got with her she would move to kentucky to be with him. He also tells her that he loves her but he tells me it is only for a joke. We have a one year old son together and I hate to loose him because of some girl over the internet what should I do?
2007-03-12 08:29:39 · 22 answers · asked by april h 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
First of all what your boyfriend is doing is wrong. He is lying to the girl from Florida and playing with another persons feelings, which are real. Plus there is probably something wrong with your boyfriend if he is in a relationship with you and feels he needs to "play" at having other relationships on line or otherwise. You and he need to sit down and have a very long discussion about this situation. If possible you should go to couples counseling to explore his issues. If he is willing to lie to the girl in Florida, what's he willing to lie to you about? How'd she get his e-mail addresss? They aren't posted anywhere. And what is he telling her about you if she feels he shouldn't be with you and she should? Good luck to you and God Bless.
2007-03-12 08:35:58 · answer #1 · answered by tersey562 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
How old are you? How old is your fiance? And, why in the world is he communicating with a 17 year old girl? It's not a game, is decietful, dis-respectful, and potentially damaging to all of you.
I can't believe you would stand by and just let him continue this. He is emotionally cheating on you with a teenager who is "stroking his ego" right now. Evidently he is not satisfied by having a fiance already and a child.
He needs help, and you do too if you would stand by and let this happen. Sorry, I don't mean to sound cruel, but it is the reality of it. Do yourself a favor and let him know you are prepared to walk, if he doesn't end it. Even so, he sounds like the type that would say it's done with her, and yet, still keep in touch without you knowing.
There is so much better out there for you and your child.
2007-03-12 08:36:12 · answer #2 · answered by Singthing 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Either way he is cheating on you emotionally. Sorry but it is the cold hard truth. LEAVE his a_s.. You have seen that he tells this girl that he loves her.. Whether he does or not you will never know. He has been talking with a girl on the net do you not think that there maybe a physical relationship going on with someone else. Hun, he is a cheater and you are best to get out now.
2007-03-12 08:35:45 · answer #3 · answered by Dee 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your boyfriend sounds not to be yours in the first place, other than you having his child, so how can you lose him? If he were committed to you he would have married you and not be playing these games with that other girl on the internet. The only one that can stop him is you. If you can't stop him then that should tell you how little respect he has for the relationship he has with you. It will then be up to you to decide if this is what you will settle for. Best of luck to you!
2007-03-12 08:35:38 · answer #4 · answered by pictureshygirl 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is really bad. Your guy is definitely not ready to get married. He is a player am not sure why after you got to know all what he has done u are still with him.
What you have to understand is its not that girls fault cause a decent man would not cheat on his finance who he is about marry.. He is the one who you should get mad at not some girl he gave a chance to flirt with him. If you get married to this man how on earth are u ever going to trust him again . Whatever he is doing is not a joke and you know it.This must be a sign for you to move on and leave this jerk right now before you get married to him.
2007-03-12 08:41:44 · answer #5 · answered by julia1975 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your leash is way too long. You need to drive home the fact that your relationship is no joke and that even time spent on the Internet communicating with another woman affects your relationship. It seems like he is entertaining some fantasy that neither of them have thought through. This is how people end up separated or cheating. This is unacceptable.
2007-03-12 08:38:03 · answer #6 · answered by Wes 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Think of the pros and cons. If you stay and let him sneeks behind your back and turns around and lies to you. It'll will be a very bad influence on your child. If he can't face you and tell you the truth about whats going on, know there is truly something wrong and only think about what kind of influnces he showing your child. I would also try to get in touch with the 17 yr-olds parents (if she really is 17 and let them know about the ordeal their daughter is getting into.)
2007-03-12 08:37:22 · answer #7 · answered by lilrahl3465 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow. Your fiance sounds like a real sleeze. If it really is a "joke" like he says, then tell him it isn't funny and that it needs to stop. If he wont stop then, well, it doesn't sound like a joke anymore does it? No matter what, things of that nature really aren't appropriate, especially for a father of a one year old child--who has a wife.
2007-03-12 08:34:20 · answer #8 · answered by Michael C 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hummm sounds more than fun n games I think this girl is serious I dont want to say this but Alot of men leave for a girl on the internet Can you some how get her to stop If you need help you can email me ill help as much as I can
2007-03-12 08:33:29 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Internet infidelity is still INFIDELITY.
How old are the two of you? If you're both in your mid to late twenties then not only is he a cheating scumbag, he's a pedophile cheating scumbag!
You are NOT losing your mind. But if you have any sense, you will lose HIM.
2007-03-12 08:34:28 · answer #10 · answered by notsoswan 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋