ok, so heres the story.... i have been bestest friends with this guy since we were 13 (we are now both 27) and we have finally decided to try a relationship. problem is, he lives in oregon, i live in ohio, and we each are ending a marriage PLUS he has 3 kids and i have 2. this isn't a sudden thing, it's been developing over a period of months and we're both nervous.... so is this right or should i bolt??
2007-03-12 08:29:20 · 8 answers · asked by ? 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
You will need to talk about a lot of issues early in your relationship, such as where you would want to live, child custody and raising, and how much each of you are willing to sacrifice to be together. You should both always put your children's interests and needs before your own and consider them before you make any decisions which could affect them in the future. Start slow and see how your relationship develops as each of you proceed through your divorces. Don't make any hasty decisions and get to know each other's position before you continue. Maybe you will find that your future is meant to be spent together and maybe you will find that you are meant to continue as friends, at least until your children are older and you are more settled in your lives. Sounds like your future is too much up in the air for you to make any plans now. Keep in touch and develop your friendship long distance until you can move forward, whether together or apart. You should continue with the friendship you already share and let time determine the outcome. Always put your children's needs before your own and things will work out for the best. Good Luck.
2007-03-12 08:46:13 · answer #1 · answered by suctioncup83616 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
although he has been a good friend, he is carring alot of baggage. If it was just for a visit with no commitment then i would go for the sex and that is all. However if he has alot of money, send the kids to private school and have a hell of a good time on him. It's very hard for a long distanst relationship to work, however i am sure the guys in oregon are alot better then the ones in ohio.
2007-03-12 15:40:35 · answer #2 · answered by K.Heat 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Each of you needs at least a year POST the final divorce decree to get your act in gear. Whoever of you, or if it's both, has custody of children, shouldn't be dating at all. It's time to not be selfish, the kids have been through a lot - and you need to concentrate totally on them. You can date when the youngest is 18. Just be a good mom/dad.
2007-03-12 18:01:04 · answer #3 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should ask each other these questions and see where you agree.
# 1 where would you live together
#2 how do the kids get along together
#3 how do the kids feel about moving
#4 How do you really feel about each other
#5 how do your kids like him/and his like you?
#6 and hows vistation set up for your ex's will their be a problem that you/he couldnt handle
2007-03-12 15:43:29 · answer #4 · answered by ghos_t 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely stick with it! Why did your first marriage fail? Did you have the kind of relationship with your ex like you do with this guy? He's been your friend all this time for a reason.
Imagine what it would be like to fall in love with your best friend?
2007-03-12 16:53:05 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go for it!
You guys have a history and it sounds like you are great friends. Ive always heard that your best friend is supposed to be your husband or wife.
But follow your heart and dont rush into it too quickly.
2007-03-12 15:39:00 · answer #6 · answered by *Kara* 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"bestest friends"? And you're 27?
2007-03-12 15:41:09 · answer #7 · answered by Just tryin' to help 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
follow your heart an know someone is going to have to move
2007-03-12 15:33:15 · answer #8 · answered by rodeogirl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋