My daughter attends a daycare, Friday she came home with a bruise and she told me the name of the kid who hit her, this kid has ADD or something I don't know what but he needs to be controlled if he can't interact with other kids and I'm having a meeting with the mother, and daycare provider today,before I move my daughter to a different daycare this needs to be addressed it became my business the moment I saw this bruise. How do I take care of this without getting hostile? Any suggestions?
2007-03-12 08:26:48 · 8 answers · asked by 00666 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
The child is jumping off the walls all the time, the mother acknowledged the autism problem, but states that she does not believe in medicating her child. This has now affected my family and she needs to do something.
2007-03-12 08:37:12 · update #1
both my daughter and the boy are 3 years old
2007-03-12 08:43:59 · update #2
In response to the first answer I recieved. I believe that my child shouldn't come home with bruises, the bruise was on her lower right side of the back clearly this was not from playing, and If you feel its OK for your child to be bruised in this manner than there is something wrong with you.
2007-03-12 08:47:29 · update #3
I do not feel that this should be a meeting with all of you. Your problem needs to be addressed with the daycare provider and the daycare provider needs to address the problem with the other family. You discussing the issue with the other parent is not going to accomplish anything other than getting you more upset. You need to make it clear to the provider that if they can not ensure your child's safety around this other child you will remove your child from care and that's where your part should end.
2007-03-15 22:33:59 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think first of all your doing something positive by having BOTH the parent and the day care provider present... Be extremely cautious in how you word things... a parent that feel's they are being attacked or being told their kid has issues will not respond well. There are more parent's in this world that will not believe that their child could ever do anything wrong...
I would try an approach such as.... When Johhny and Joannie were playing the other day, some how Johnny's body came into contact with Joannie's...and it left her with a nasty bruise. Joannie and I have talked about it... she didn't feel it was accidental... and I just wanted to bring it to your attention.
I know I have a son with mild CP.. he dosen't always know where his body is in relation to others.. it is something we are working on... and it takes time.. if you approach the parent in the above manner... they may be more open to looking into the issue... It could be a motor control issue.. or it could be an impulse issue... You don't say how old the children involved are... for ADD or ADHD testing they must be at least 5 yrs of age to get an accurate diagnosis.......
Good luck I hope the meeting goes well.. and all works out.
2007-03-12 15:41:43 · answer #2 · answered by gin_in_mi 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand your frustration, but it's just a bruise! Your child is learning how to interact with other "people" her age and will understand different behaviors soon enough. If I had a meeting everytime something went wrong at day care for one of my two...I would never work! I don't like the way they feed him, I don't like that he isn't getting enough nap time, I don't like it when I think they should play outside, and not to mention the bruises they get just from playing!
2007-03-12 15:46:31 · answer #3 · answered by Mom to Foster Children 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well, kids do get hurt sometimes no matter where they are. it just happens, however, if you have it from the teacher that the boy that hurt her is to aggresive and he is hard to control then it is up to the daycare facility to conference with his parents. they have every right to refuse him entrance into the program especially if it is not geared for kids with special needs. it's not right that you should have to take your child out of the program but if they won't do anything more you have no choice. don't get personal with the boy's mom. she's probably very sorry that this has happened.it's no one's buisness if she chooses not to medicate her son even if it's needed. it isn't your place to tell her how to handle him either. the school has to do that. relax. the worst thing you can do is get nasty about it. no need to be hostile. wait and see what the daycare is going to do about it.
2007-03-12 17:14:26 · answer #4 · answered by racer 51 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think your addressing it the right way. Having the child care provider present is very important. They are responsible for maintaining a safe environment. If there is a 'problem' child it needs to be addressed with that family. If the situation cannot be fixed that child, not you should be removed from the school
2007-03-12 15:33:17 · answer #5 · answered by luv2syd 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I'm surprised that the child care center is meeting with both parents.
The way this supposed to be handled is that you contact the center and provide whatever FACTS you have. They then need to investigate, including letting the other parents know that A PARENT (but not which one) reporting this problem.
It's not appropriate for a center for bring together parents like this, unless both parents agree. The center should do the talking... not you.
2007-03-12 15:36:15 · answer #6 · answered by Jay 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Just keep calm and be objective. I would be infuriated too if I were you but you must keep your cool in this situation. It will be easier for both of you. Good luck.
2007-03-12 15:35:43 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
its just a bruise! they r both kids! you making big deal.he is just a little boy!!!! not some kind of criminal or mad needs to be controlled! and control with what??who r you to tell to another parent to drug their child?shame on you.he is just a child
2007-03-12 15:31:33 · answer #8 · answered by \ 5 · 2⤊ 3⤋