Can I get a girls point of view plz?

Question

I met a girl at a friends wedding about a month ago - she seemed really positive and fun and we talked a bit (mostly about her) and i notice she kept sitting next to me, coming outside when I was..etc

she crossed my mind a few times since then so I got her number from my friends new wife, and gave her a call. She was driving at the time so I told her I'd call her back in 15 but she didn't answer. i text her to say i don't understand what i said in the matter of minutes to make her ignore me and that i would take it as if she is having a bad day... she text me back to let me know she was having a bad day and that she would be free the next day should i wish to call. i was busy all week so i called her at the end of the week but no answer. she text me a few days later apologising, & she was having it hard and busy with work, but saying i should call her sometime during the day. considering the trends so far i am no fool - she will not answer.

what the hell went on?

Answer 1

please don't take this the wrong way!
but here are my personal views
1. you didn't get the number from her so why are you calling if she was me i would ignore you too! that makes you sound shy and desprate getting number from some one else shame on you stand up for who you are and be proud of that
2. she was driving so you are going to call her back in 15 minutes I assume she told you she would be done in 15 minutes or so. <-- i'm sorry i'm still hung up on why you didn't ask me for my number again if i was her!
3. texted back "i don't understand what i said in the matter of minutes to make her ignore me and that i would take it as if she is having a bad day... " taking note of everything i am doing are you a stalker?
4. She should of told you she was having a bad day and didn't want to talk but as you i think there is more going on here!
5. goodnews she must of wanted you to call her at some point or she is being supper nice to you because that's who she is or because she didn't get to know you much cuz she did nothing but talk about her self that she is scared of you because she knows not much!

dude what do you see in her? damn i would rate her out at that moment all she does is talk about her self!
okay so lets say you like that sort of thing!

I do sence your aggreseive once you think you got an in! i would calm it down a little and just relax give her a call and if she says she is busy say okay then you have my number rock on! check ya..
and move on!
I personally think you can do better no offence on her but with your personality type you need to talk about yourself too shouldn't be one side! and sence most humans have your personaly type they would want the same!
Best of luck

Answer 2

If she was just ignoring your messages, I would say that maybe she was not into you. But given her behavior at the wedding and the fact she has replied and apologized about her lateness, maybe she is really busy.
There have been times when I've been so busy and scatter-brained.
If you are really into her, give it one last try.
Call or email her, and this time actually suggest a set day(s) and time(s).
Mention these times are flexible. Suggest an actual activity, even if it just coffee or drink after a hard day's work.
Being specific shows your seriousness into getting to know her more. Being flexible shows your considerate of her and her schedule.
After that, the ball is in her court.
And if she is still flaky or unresponsive, then its her loss.

Just FYI:
My friend was in a similar situation where she met a great guy and they played email/phone tag for legitimate reasons. In the end, she decided not to return his calls because he never suggested a set date or time to get together in person (and she is not really a phone person).

Hope this helps.
Best of luck!

Answer 3

you could be looking into too much, she said to call her the next day and instead you waited almost an entire week, she could really be busy. It sounds like she does like you, try calling her again and set up a date, if she says no then you know to move on, don't assume that only you can be busy and caught up for a week. You could really be calling at the wrong time. Give her another chance see how she reacts then, and if you get the same treatment move on!

Answer 4

No, don't jump to conclusions. I say slow down a bit and make sure your expectations aren't unreasonable. Things happen..life happens, we get busy. Look, you got so busy you couldn't call her til the end of the week. How do you know she isn't reading or interpreting THAT as you not being interested or you playing games? If you come across as understanding about her work schedule she'll probable like that about you---if you come across as angry, resentful or 2 aggressive, it will most likely turn her off. why don't you give her your email and suggest that, when she has time, to email you at HER convenience. Just be positive and friendly. Don't stress or over-analyze. Good luck

Answer 5

i dont think she's playing with u or is trying to make u a fool. why dont u really think she was having a bad day or it was always ur bad luck to call her at a bad time. maybe the reason she asked u to call her during the day was that she probably doesnt want her family to know. and i think u should give it a last try as she asked u to call her, herself. call her and c how she talks with u, and then u can really decide wat u should do. and if it was going well, ask her if u can meet her any time. and in that time, try to open the conversation and c if she has a boyfriend or even if she's any interested in u or it was just a misunderstanding on that night.
good luck!!!

Answer 6

First off, a girl hates it when a guy calls and then has to go, and then also, when they don't call when they say they will...I know when a guy tells me he's going to call, and doesn't then calls another time, I give him the cold shoulder, and even well most of the time, I don't answer just to let him know he's not the only one interested in me, even if he is.....it's pride, and it's stupid and games, but, also, it sounds to me like if she's having a bad day all the time, do you really want someone who is, bringing something negative into your life...was she drinking at the wedding, or not?? She might have a boyfriend and can only talk at certain times, which you don't want her there either...I would say, call one more time, if she doesn't answer, and only text, why can she text you but not call, think about that...but, if you talk, ask her if she would like to have a date with you and see what happens, see if she agrees and you both keep the date, and go out in public, that's a sure way to know if she already has someone or is just a tease...alot of girls/women are teases and want just the attention and love it when they are getting it, but, it doesn't necessarily mean they want to go out with you...call her one more time, see what happens, and I will just tell you it's all a game for girls/women to do..which isn't right or fun, but, it's what most of women do, because we don't want to look like the first to make the move, and it hurts our feelings when they don't call when they say, and then her texting, why isn't she calling..something isn't right..so if you go out, go out and have fun, but, make sure you go out to a public place to see if she has someone and then talk openingly, but, not about ex's and such, have fun, and see what happens, good luck., but, I think forget her...there are always more out there that I'm sure you want to go out with...but, if not, do like I said, and see what happens..maybe you just got off wronge, and she didn't want to look like she was sitting there waiting on you to call..and be there when it's convenient for you, and visa versa, so good luck

Answer 7

I think you overreacted with the first phone call, to be honest. Why would you immediately assume, when she didn't answer your call 15 mins after the first call, that she was ignoring you? You sound kind of paranoid.

If someone had accused me of ignoring them that quickly, I'd think they were crazy. She obviously liked you to begin with but you sound like you're acting very strangely now.

Give her a call and leave a friendly message if she doesn't answer, asking her to call you if she fancies a drink some time. If she doesn't return your call, just leave the poor woman alone, and try not to be so paranoid another time!

Answer 8

i don't think she would tell you to "call her sometime during the day" unless she really wanted you to. do you know what she does for a living? is it completely inconceivable to you that she actually may be having a hard/busy week with work? i think you should try at least once more. if she doesn't answser, leave the ball in her court - remind her that you really enjoyed visiting with her at the wedding, leave your number and ask HER to call YOU sometime if she'd like to talk. This may work better than trying to guess whether or not she wants to talk to you. If she does, she'll call.

Answer 9

What you need to do is tell her to call you when she has free time since she is so busy. And she actually may be busy. You do not know her situation so do not assume she is just ignoring you. Also since she seems to respond to text messages maybe you can since her one sporadically saying hi and that you would love to have a convo with her or something to that affect. If she does not call or does not respond to your text messages then she is probably not interested.

Answer 10

Ya'll schedules just aren't coinciding...If she was really blowing you off or not taking you into consideration she wouldn't text you at all. But being as she is a friend of your friends wife ask her to call her out to her place while you are going to be there so ya'll can talk in person with people around and stuff so it isn't formally a date but more of a get together.