I meet this guy at work and we were great friends at first. After a while we both knew that there was an attraction there and although he asked me out i brought up excuses not to go out with him but i didnt say NO. He was a little bit younger than me. It was his age that was making me to think about it. Months went by and we were even closer and the flirting was more obvious. He is a great guy. He did a lot small special things for me and after a while we went out. I meet his parents as well. We got closer (no sex) and started to spend time together.
One day he called and said that he is affraid that if this turns into a relationship it might not last and he wants to have me in his life for as a long as he can.
He was very in to me and i had no doubt about it and he has a very good hart.
I am sorry if this is so long but i am very confused. Y would he pull back?
2007-03-12 08:16:12 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Maybe becuase you turned him down before when he asked you out. Now he is afraid that you don't really want to date him. You may have made him insecure about things. He sounds like a nice guy and a keeper if he treats you nicely all the time and not just when he thinks he is going to get some. I would say that maybe you should keep in there as friends.
He may very well be afraid that if he tries for a romantic relationship you will back off from him. I think this will turn into something more than a friendship. How is open is your communication? Can you tell him you want more than a friendship with him? I wish you both luck!
2007-03-12 08:28:31 · answer #1 · answered by Pooky Bear the Sensitive 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What you describe is not necessarily "attraction" but rather sounds like "familiarity" which happens between coworkers because you spend so much time around each other. He is right, it probably won't last if it becomes a relationship fro the same reason office affairs are what they are. Remain friends, you need them more than a fling that will make everything else uncomfortable.
2007-03-12 15:31:22 · answer #2 · answered by billnrhonda 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are the problem, not him! you saw he showed interest. He did things for you and he pressed in to get the thing started. but you kept shying away and shucking and Jiving with him its like you were giving mixed signals. so he backed off because you backed off first. you, if you want him, must go all out and tell him how you really feel
do that and you will see him possibly change
2007-03-13 10:05:01 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he is afraid that he won't measure up in your eyes....Maybe he fears he'll out grow his feelings for you and is just being honest with you. I think you should ask him why he feels this way.Most guys ,if they really care,will give you an honest answer.If he's waited this long(and you), he probably
does have deeper feeling for you.Evil side....Maybe he found someone that he didn't second guess and jumped right in...You don't know if you don't ask.
Good luck!
2007-03-12 15:25:47 · answer #4 · answered by Jim J 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he was afraid that you wasn't as in to him as he was you and felt as if he was gonna get rejected so he did it first before it happen to him.
2007-03-12 15:25:17 · answer #5 · answered by 2sweet4u 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋