Her maid of honor is moaning about everything to do with the wedding, she is causing trouble with all the other bridesmaids starting fights, the only thing is she can't stop her being maid of honor as she is part of her close family, it is making my wife to be very ill as she does not like upsetting people. I tried talking to the maid of honor myself and she put the phone down on me, what do we do she is upsetting the woman i love.
2007-03-12 08:15:32 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Don't let her condition as a family member allow her to emotionally and socially blackmail you into giving in to her immature and selfish conduct. Whatever her issues and/or reasons are, she will see to it that it is a living hell from here on in. Your soon to be wife doesn't have to put up with her obnoxious behavior. Simply get another maid of honor and that's it! As much as it will upset her and the family, it is either you or her.
2007-03-12 08:23:19 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
See, here's where your wrong. Your fiancee can stop her from being the maid of honor. It's her wedding, therefore her choice. Who cares if she's close family. There's no rule saying that close family must be part of the wedding party.
She should tell her maid of honor to get her butt in line, to stop complaining and starting fights or she won't have a choice but to be replaced.
2007-03-12 08:32:15 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I recently was part of a bridal party and decided to drop out (my decision) because the drama that was playing out was more than what someone would see on a soap opera. Everyone was complaining about everything from A - Z. I said enough is enough. This maid of honor obviously likes to start trouble. Why? She's probably jealous.
As for not being able to stop her from being MOH because she's part of your fiance's close family, thats bull. Family member or not, if you're being disruptive to the whole marriage process you don't deserve to be any part of it. Kick this MOH to the curb, get a replacement MOH, and move on with things.
This is exactly why my husband and I eloped and didn't do the whole "big wedding" thing. Too much friggin drama. Who needs it????
2007-03-12 08:23:07 · answer #3 · answered by Kimmy 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all when you have something important to say to someone you do it face to face, not over the phone. Next, why not ask her mother (the maid of honor's) or the bride's mother to speak to this person. Explain that her constant turmoil is really ruining what is supposed to be the most exciting time in the bride's life. If after being spoken to face to face she doesn't change her tune, I'd say go ahead and ask her to resign as maid of honor. The bride is entitled to a wonderful wedding, and her feelings come first being the maid of honor. Good luck and God Bless.
2007-03-12 08:23:55 · answer #4 · answered by tersey562 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am in a similar situation right now except I am the maid of honor and it is a bridesmaid that is driving me and the bride (my sister) nuts. The bridesmaid is a close friend of mine and my sister's but she is such a control freak about everything she is driving me, my sister, my future brother-in-law and even her own husband crazy. I think it is better if you put a little distance between yourselves and this woman until the wedding. Good Luck to you!!
2007-03-12 08:58:14 · answer #5 · answered by Michelle 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can understand the feelings, but please, try to understand the Maid of Honor's position, too. Is your wife-to-be a bridezilla? You she hear I went through being a maid of honor...I was treated very poorly. Now, if your fiance' is not like a bridezilla, then I would just tell her to get rid of her as the maid of honor. Trust me, people do it a lot more than you think. She should just call her and let her know that "things aren't working out." It will save both of you guys many heartaches and tears.
2007-03-12 08:21:02 · answer #6 · answered by jessiekarma 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
She CAN be kicked out of the maid of honor spot. All you need to do is put your foot down and kick her out.
If your fiance is getting sick because of her actions it is time to say "here's the door". Especially if she just hangs up the phone on you when she is confronted. Perhaps a face to face encounter kicking her off the wedding party will make her realize her actions are hurtful and totally inappropriate.
2007-03-12 11:32:14 · answer #7 · answered by Terri 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't matter if she is family, FIRE HER!!!! My sister is my maid of honor and if she started acting that way I'd slap her in the face and send her packing. Your wedding is sappose to be happy. Tell the maid of honor this: "This is my wedding and I want it to be happy. You are causing the love of my live to be misrable, stop fighting and moaning and act responsible or don't be in my wedding." If she throws a fit or doesn't start acting better tell her your sorry, but she can no longer be in your wedding due to her inmaturity.
2007-03-12 10:01:55 · answer #8 · answered by CJ 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If shes really causing that many issues then she shouldnt be the maid of honor and even though your wife doesnt want to to confront her she should because this girl could ruin her special day and your wife will remember that forever. You dont want this chick ruining your wedding so you need to take action now. Even if its hard it will be for the best.
2007-03-12 08:19:16 · answer #9 · answered by ♥♫♥ Crystal ♥♫♥ 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Your soon to be wife needs to talk to her. It may not seem right to not make her the maid of honor, but your "wife" needs to think about this.....Is she acting like a "maid of honor"??? Nope, so she needs to make a rational decision. I sure wouldn't want someone like this to be my maid of honor.
2007-03-12 08:19:38 · answer #10 · answered by ParisLynn16 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋