I was just wondering about dating... I naturally attracted to beautiful and intelligent women (with beautiful personalities) of any race. I really don't care. I've dated women from different races but when I would date someone outside of my race I would sometimes get hassled. I would even receive harrassment from close aquaintences, friends, and family members. Do you think that I should continue my ways?
2007-03-12 08:15:14 · 46 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
YES! Why not? This is America and in this country everyone has that right.
It may be frowned upon in some states and even some members of a different race. Too bad! You should be able to date anyone you want.
My daughter came home with a African Canadian male and I thought Th's was great. I realized that she was confident enough and had taken the time to listen to me when growing up that we are all equal and I did not care about this.
You should talk to your family about this issue. Explain why you date outside of your race and if they would support you.
I don't buy the purity of the races bunk. If everyone was mixed, racism would be brought down to its knees. It is nice to dream.
2007-03-19 23:33:44 · answer #1 · answered by Randy P 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YES you should continue your ways. A pat on your back for being an open minded, real person! It's sad...as much as our society has changed from the old days, interracial dating is still taboo to many. I'm sorry you have been harrassed for being open minded, but you are in no way harming anyone so they have no right to tell you who you can or cannot date. I've personally have also dated interracially before, and I never saw a problem with race in the relationship. Love is love...it doesn't involve color!
2007-03-12 08:20:55 · answer #2 · answered by M 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you like dating people because of the beauty you find in them, then you should continue doing what makes you happy.
People are people. Skin color is no more significant than the color of one's eyes.
Only ignorant people....or people who live sheltered, doomed lives would say otherwise. And judging from the way you composed this question, you certainly seem to be on the smarter side of the spectrum.
You need not worry about what people think about what makes YOU happy. These same people, who have mates the same as their own race are not happy because they share the same skin color...they are happy because of the person.
I am a product of a 40 year happily married interracial couple. It can work. At their core, they are just two people that are soul mates....soul mates do not have a color assignment.
2007-03-12 08:27:09 · answer #3 · answered by Bathroom Graffiti 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Go ahead and go on doing what you feel, man! You date whoever you want to date! Nobody should have anything to say about you dating outside your race. I know it's a great thing! God created this whole world for us to go out and experience and experiment in it! Your family and friends should not have anything to say about who you choose to date because at the end of the day, it's all about you and not them! When you were born, you came into this world by yourself. When you leave, you will leave this world by yourself. What i'm saying is somewhere between coming in on your own and leaving on your own, you sometimes have to learn to make it on your own, especially if you don't have that kind of support behind you!
I, myself, am attracted to women of all races! There is no discrimination and there shouldn't be! It's always nice to keep your "options" open and to broaden your horizons! Doing the same thing gets kinda boring after a while, ya know?
At the end of the day, there are only two people that you should answer to: yourself AND God. So you shouldn't give a s--t what anybody thinks about you and your ways!
Keep on keepin' on, brother!
2007-03-12 08:39:04 · answer #4 · answered by Nate 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes you should continue with your ways. There isn't anything wrong with dating people outside of your race. It's 2007 people need to get over this race nonsense. There are always going to be simple minded neanderthals out there that say you cannot be with this type of person but you need to do what you think is right. I completely understand what your going threw,being a nineteen year old African American man who is marrying a Caucasian woman.
2007-03-12 08:25:07 · answer #5 · answered by Stephanie's Man 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess since your getting hassled them some poeple think its not acceptable but most people do not seem to have a problem with. I dont know why your friends and family would hassle you. I think you should continue dating whoever you want. As long as they make you happy I dont know why people would care. Of course people are different in may different ways, not just their race. And we are the same in many ways. We all want to love and to be loved and to be in a happy relationship. It shouldnt matter what everyone else thinks you should do.
date who you want. good luck
2007-03-20 07:57:59 · answer #6 · answered by jon jon's girl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's understandable that you would have a question like this. It is true that when i visited MOntreal, Canada, i observed that there were so many interracial couples and no one looked twice--it's just not an issue it seems. i doubt you'll move to Montreal now so i just say, expect that some people WILL think u are a "sellout" but if my Black grandad didn't marry my Irish grandma and if my Black/Irish daddy didn't get with my Puerto-Rican mama, i wouldn't be here!! So, i'm GLAD and grateful people of different races hook up!!! And one day you'll be so in love you won't care about society---you'll be too sprung!!!
2007-03-12 08:25:37 · answer #7 · answered by SUGAR 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do your own thing brother.
If I listen to my often closed minded family and friends of old, I would not have the most beautiful boys in the world.
Your statements about being attracted to women for their beauty and intelligence sounds like you have the ability to chose a woman based on the content of her character not the color of her skin.( a la Rev. Martin Luther King).
How can we as African Americans cry for equality and acceptance and then turn someone away for the very principals that we cry about being discriminated for.
Date who you please.
Families are there to guide us not control us.
It sounds like your family has raised an intelligent and articulate young man.
They should rejoice in the fact that you are not ignorant and closed minded.
2007-03-20 08:10:55 · answer #8 · answered by makeda m 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think there is nothing wrong with dating interracially......look at Heidi Klum and Seal, they made beautiful babies together. Unfortunately, some people are ignorant and prejudiced. As for friends and family members, they just don't want you to get hurt. Hopefully they'll come around when they see that you've met a nice girl and are in love and happy. My husbands friends and family gave him a lot of grief over me.....we are both white, be he is Jewish and I am Christian. His parents were going to sit shiva for him (that's what Jewish people do to mourn someone who has died)! Eventually they came around when they saw that we made each other happy. Good luck!
2007-03-12 08:21:31 · answer #9 · answered by Kirsten 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound like a good guy with an open mind. Obiously you are looking for someone that you can have intelligent conversation with. If the color of the skin they wear does not bother you, then it should not bother anyone else. We live in a very sad day when you have to come on here to get the support of strangers just to be able to be able to see if your dateing outside of your race is "ok". People speak out of ignorance when it comes to things that are outside of their proverbial bubble and our sociaty tells them that its ok to do these things. Ignore your family and friends. If they dont take the time to get to know your potential partner then they are judging on skin alone and that is racism. You are inteligent enough to realize that they are being this way, and you should distance yourself from it if you can. Dont let their lies of hate leak into your life or you may miss out on that one woman who really completes you. Be true to yourself, love yourself, embrace who you are and take all that with you when you enter a relationship, not the words of the ignorant. Sociaty in general may not accept you, but I do, and there are plenty of us out here who feel the same way. Good luck hun.
2007-03-12 08:27:10 · answer #10 · answered by shadowsthathunt 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋