I really need your honest help on this.
Please, only serious answers!
What do you do if your approached by a girl who works as a pole dancer at a club comes up to you, say, at a concert where your band is playing, & promises loyalty, faithfulness etc if you love her & be her man.
I want a woman, & I want a good one, but, I need advice here, is this a good idea? Will she be faithful to me? What do you all think? Would love to know what to do.
She seems nice, but, I just want to know, I need advice pls. Thank you!
2007-03-12 08:11:54 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
This is *not* a good idea *at all*!!!!!
Her profession for one. How're you going to tell jr. as to how you met mommy? "Uh, I met her in a strip club where she dances vulgarly for men"
A "good" woman does NOT do those things for a living! She has no decency! Women who have jobs like these don't even like *themselves*, so what makes you think that she'll be 'loyal' to you?
She has to like herself first, before she can like anyone else.
STAY AWAY from her! She's BAD news!
2007-03-12 16:51:20 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
A lot of people make stereotypical judgments when it comes to strippers/pole dancers. I have done it before myself. Recently, my boyrfriend's best friend starting dating a stripper (that he met away from the club). She is such a nice girl. And she absolutely adores him. They are about to move in together and both are so happy. She still dances a couple nights a week (apparently he doesn't mind because she won't let stupid guys do dumb ****; she's headstrong). she does dances because her parents are broke and it's the best way to make some quick money for right now. From what I know she has always been faithful. In addition, they get along really well. So, that just blew my stereotype right out of the water.
I would say get to know the girl. Give her a chance. There is more to go on as far as relationships are concerned than the person's choice of employment. Maybe talk to her, find out why she starting dancing and if she is planning to continue down that road for awhile. Maybe you can't deal with having a girlfriend that strips. Find out if she would be willing to quit if she were in a relationship. If she has other good qualities and you two get along really well, then perhaps you can ignore that slight issue. It's all about what you do and don't want in a girlfriend. My best advice: Don't judge her on her job, but judge her on her other characteristics, on her personality. Good luck!
2007-03-12 13:25:31 · answer #2 · answered by eastchic2001 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
So your in a band and she just comes up to you and introduces herself and tells you to be her man? Then you find out she works as a pole dancer-stripper needless to say? Well if I were you I'd be a little concerned about her and her job, but I'd also probably see how it goes. I'd give it a try if I were you. It never hurts to try and see how things go. If you think she is pretty and seems nice then why not right? Maybe even go to her work and see what all she does and what goes on there. If you don't like it then tell her you don't and see how she reacts to it. Either she will like you enough to quit and find something else to do with her time and make money elsewhere or she will tell you to find another girl and that she likes her job. I hope whatever happens you end up happy and I wish you the best.
2007-03-12 08:19:22 · answer #3 · answered by Shellybelli24 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Most girls who make the first move don't show good signs. I'm not saying that the girl who asked you out is bad but that really is probably not a good sign. you can give it a try anyway.
if I were you, I won't date her.
-1stly bcos. she dances in a club meaning,she dressed half naked.
-2ndly bcos she makes the 1st move. how far am I sure that she has not been asking guys out b4?
-3rdly bcos a normal person won't suddenly walk up to a stranger and startmaking promises from no where.
She must drop that silly, humiliating job b4 I start dating her.
I understand that you want a woman, and a good one. look for someone responsible or dialogue with that girl. tell her what you expect from a woman you want. and watch the results.
Better still, you shouldn't be dating a girl who xposes her body. she is not different from a prostitute. I believe 100% and plus that she is not a virgin.
think, are you looking for virtues, ideal, love and trust worthy women or you are looking for prostitutes?
good luck.
2007-03-12 08:38:35 · answer #4 · answered by b-ball rooky 2 · 2⤊ 2⤋
Get real, man! She strips for money ! I had one once. NEVER should have !! I had to get tested for AIDS after we split up. Not only was she sleeping with the DJ's in the place, but the other dancers, too! Crying the whole time how she loved me, and I was #1, and how she never wanted to be without me, and blah, blah, blah, on and on..........
Do yourself a HUGE favor, and run! Beauty is only skin deep........ ugly is to the bone, and that is a fact!
2007-03-12 08:23:37 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
A pole dancer? Go to her job, check out her dancing. If she's doing it for the great pay and saying it's just a job, check out how she communicates with other men. If you feel uncomfortabvle. I'd think twice about her motives and your having a real relationship. Good luck hun.
2007-03-12 08:16:41 · answer #6 · answered by asoldierswife 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
First you should know that a girl's occupation doesn't make her who she is. Secondly, I'm going to tell you the secret of a good relationship. Know who you are and what you want. Then get to know your potential lover as a person before all else. If you know this girl as a person, you will know these answers for yourself. Commit yourself when you are in love, not when you want to be.
2007-03-12 08:18:42 · answer #7 · answered by Jennifer P 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Date her.
When dating ANYONE, you usually can't tell from Date 1 if they're going to be faithful and loyal. In fact, it's the people who seem the most genuine that screw up which is why it hurts so bad.
Give her a chance. You have nothing to lose. You can't go into a situation expecting the worst. That's not a way to live life.
2007-03-12 08:19:37 · answer #8 · answered by notsoswan 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Just because a woman is a dancer doesn't mean she won't be loyal, faithful, etc. If a man is a garbage collector does not mean he is trash? Woman can make very good money at dancing but only for a short time (we all know the body begins to wear down with time). You need to date this woman to see if you are compatible before making any judgments about her. Good luck and God Bless.
2007-03-12 08:15:11 · answer #9 · answered by tersey562 6 · 4⤊ 3⤋
i think this would be a thing where you could trust your gut feeling . It is really up to you to decide if you can live with that that your girl would be an exotic dancer . I have see many relationships go appart because of it. Get to know her first .
2007-03-12 08:15:55 · answer #10 · answered by silverearth1 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋