I'm sixteen and have recently started having sex. My mom always told me to tell her when i did, but how do i tell her?
2007-03-12 08:01:18 · 39 answers · asked by girly girl 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
The next time you are talking to your mom alone, start out with "you told me I could always talk to you about anything right?" That will open the door. I am a mother and I still remember being afraid to tell my mom things like that. I am a lot more open with my children. Your mom might be the same way. Including her in your life now will make it easier when you are out on your own and need someone there for you.
2007-03-12 08:07:21 · answer #1 · answered by cutie322434 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just be honest, open and most importantly,... calm... if she was telling you to tell her, then make sure you do, but also be smart about it and tell her what type of protection or BC you are using... honestly, I really don't know what the hurry was, but I just hope and pray you are being careful, there are so many STD's and horrible things that can happen if you aren't!
I also worry about the effects this will have on your future, like when you are old enough to settle down and get married and have a family! 16 is still really way too young, for so many reasons... but I hope you are sure you know what you are doing! Good luck dear....
2007-03-12 08:07:53 · answer #2 · answered by MaggieO 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be honest. She will probably be suprissed even angry. Remind her that she asked you to tell her when you did. But you dont need to sugar coat the conversation even if she gets upset. Listen to everything she says with an open mind even if she starts in on a lecture.
Make sure your on birthcontrol to go with using condoms! You need to protect yourself.
Somethings from a girl who became sexually active even before 15: Beware that later in life you will wish you would have waited. I know that in todays society its very hard to wait and you take heat from your peers on it everyday. But you have to do what feels right to you and sex should never become a casual thing. It should be thought about and not to be done in just the heat of the moment. Now i know i sound like im lecturing you but I am just speaking from experiance. I just turned 20 so im not that much older than you are. If you ever need someone to talk to, feel free to contact me on IM or email.
2007-03-12 08:11:06 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should tell her as soon as possible by just pulling her aside and telling her that you need to speak with her. Tell her that she always told you to tell her when you began having sex, and, well, now is the time. Tell her you are interested in learning more and you should find out about birth control. Good Luck! Just do it soon. I found myself having to tell my mom about a pregnancy instead of just sex.
2007-03-12 08:05:25 · answer #4 · answered by nwest1999 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When your mom told you that, she prepared herself that one day she'd have to have that talk with you. Just find a time when it's just you and her and tell her that you have to talk to her. It's better that she knows, because that way she can lead you in the right direction of stuff - birth control, etc. She's going to know more about sex than your friends at school or someone that's just a few years ahead of you. It benefits you both, and it'll keep your bond.
2007-03-12 08:08:16 · answer #5 · answered by HappilyEverAfter 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She probably wants to know so she can get you set up with a gynecologist. When you become sexually active, you need to get on a reliable birth control, and be checked out regularly.
Just tell her. The same way you would tell her anything else. She was your age once, and she knows exactly where you are coming from.
I told my stepdaughter that same thing, and she DIDN'T tell me. Consequently, she was not on birth control, and ended up pregnant at 15.
2007-03-12 08:08:05 · answer #6 · answered by kj 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just be honest with her. Let her know you have something important to talk about.
Honestly, no mom wants to know that their child is having sex at the age of 16, so expect her to be disappointed, but let her know that you're telling her out of respect for your relationship instead of keeping it a secret.
2007-03-12 08:05:43 · answer #7 · answered by reandsmom77 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her you trust her and want to be honest with her at all times. This will let her know that you are taking her into your life and it may disarm her from attacking you. If she still gets angry when you tell her about you having sex, remind her that you are trying to be honest with her and you are trying to trust her. Listen to any advice she tells you because she will always be the one person that can help you and will always be there for you. When things get rough, you will be glad she's there for you.
2007-03-12 08:06:27 · answer #8 · answered by Honesty 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would wait for a time when the two of you are obviously alone and when she seems calm and then tell her that I have recently lost my virginity and etc. It's hard to tell you the exact words to say being that I do not fully know about your relationship with your mother, she might be understanding and then again she might be less trusting of you and disappointed, who knows, go with you instincts!!
2007-03-12 08:06:06 · answer #9 · answered by Breann 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell her...
Start out by saying, 'Mom, there is something I need to tell you. You said that I should come to you when this time comes so I am out of respect and trust.'
Or something along those lines...
Then tell you that you are interested in all forms of birth contol and protection against STD's and would like her advice and help.
2007-03-12 08:04:50 · answer #10 · answered by What Do I Know? 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋