I'm getting married on June 23 of this year. I just recently took on a part-time job to suppliment my income through college, and I feel like I need to notify my new employer soon as to the days I'll want off for my wedding and honeymoon. However, I don't know how well it is going to go over with my new boss, if I ask for twelve days total off. I wanted that many so that I would have off the day before the wedding through our week-long honeymoon plus travel time (we're travelling from Southwest Louisiana to Gatlinberg Tennessee).
Is asking for twelve days off (without pay of course), too much? What do you suggest?
2007-03-12 07:59:14 · 7 answers · asked by RaginCajun 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
I suggest that your wedding is 1000 times MORE important than your job. After all, you can always get another job - but your marriage is FOREVER! And your wedding if only for ONE DAY. Not to mention, if your boss doesn't realize how important this is, then, why would you want to work for a terrible boss like that anyway.
If you boss isn't an Ogre, and you are only worried because it's a new job, that's understandable. But no matter what, remember - this wedding and your marriage is always more important.
Let your boss know as soon as possible. Go in tomorrow (or when you next scheduled to work) and say: "Hi! Listen, I have something really important I need to talk with you about when you have a free moment - Its NOT an emergency, but it is rather important." By putting it that way, if you talk to your boss when he/she isn't stressed out, in the middle of a deadline, etc... they are more apt to react positively to your request for time off.
If your boss is a bit of a hardss... he might put you on the spot by saying: "Why didn't you mention this at your job interview, if you knew you were going to have to take so much time off soon?" Just want you to be prepared for that. My answer would be, "I didn't think it was relevant. I wasn't even sure I'd get this job, and if I did, I figured its something we'd work out after the fact. I didn't want to jump the gun and discuss it during the interview, because I didn't want to seem like I was making assumptions.
Just approach your boss when it's not a busy day, or when there is some kind of "business crisis" going on. The best time for this, is first think in the morning, when everyone is just getting in, turning on their computers and getting their first cup of coffee. Just find a good time for your boss and bring it up then.
Offer to find a "temp" who you are willing to train yourself before you leave to take your place while you are out for 12 days. That should make your boss more likely to accept the idea.
If after all that, your boss says "no" - then bye-bye job! You are taking these 12 days off with or without their approval.
It's too much stress and pressure to find a job before the wedding, so, work the job as long as you can until you need too, and then tell your boss, "Hi! I'm not going to be in today, as you recall, I told you I was getting married June 23rd, and well.... today is the 23rd so I won't be coming in. Oh, also, consider this my notice, because as much as I enjoyed working with you, I would rather start of my marriage by going on the traditional Honeymoon with my husband, not with my boss and wo-workers at the office."
These are some ideas for you to consider. Good luck - I hope your boss does let you have the time off. But if he doesn't honey, jobs come and go, your wedding is far more important.
2007-03-12 08:26:16 · answer #1 · answered by f w 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Congratulations!! June 23rd is my birthday, good day to get married :) I don't think your boss will have a problem with you asking 12 days off. But personally i would ask for 2 weeks. It'll sound better to ask him or her for 2 weeks off then to ask for 12 days. (it sounds like less time lol) That way you'll have two days off before your wedding day and will be less stressed. Plus you'll get an extra day after the honeymoon to relax and maybe sleep off your jet lag with your new hubby :) It'll be easier to go back to work when you've had an extra day off to adjust, instead of getting back and jumping into work. Good Luck and Congratulations!!
2007-03-12 08:27:04 · answer #2 · answered by Jessica 4 · 4⤊ 0⤋
You'll really want to relax after all your planning so however long you feel you need, plus travel time and the day before so consider all of that. Ask for what you need and hopefully, they will understand it is a wedding and give you the time off. I would think that you would need at least 10 days.
2007-03-12 08:05:57 · answer #3 · answered by abbacat 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I'm getting married June 22!! I would definitely talk to your boss ASAP about the wedding. Explain exactly why you need that many days off. I think your boss should be ok with it considering you are getting married.
2007-03-12 08:03:43 · answer #4 · answered by jaimejunebug05 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
You just have to ask the boss, I'm sure they know you are getting married. But ask asap so you can adjust your honeymoon days if you have to cut it short, or not have one now and postpone it.
2007-03-12 11:04:57 · answer #5 · answered by Lydia 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If I was an employer I'd have a definite problem with someone who just joined my company taking off for twelve days.
2007-03-12 08:18:06 · answer #6 · answered by Kimmy 4 · 2⤊ 2⤋
talk to them say you need these days off for your wedding an even if you are at work you will be spacy an not doing your job properly anyway you are only part time so that should only be like taking 5 or 6 days off of work good luck if not find you another job
2007-03-12 08:17:51 · answer #7 · answered by rodeogirl 6 · 0⤊ 3⤋