I have a 25 month old daughter that has started calling me by my first name instead of mommy or mama. The first time she heard it was when we were at the grocery store and she heard my husband call me by my name. What's funny is he usually calls me "Honey" not by my name. So it's funny that she picked it up that quickly. I try not to respond when she uses it but that is not always possible. She still calls me mama too but it's just very weird to hear her call me Amy. I'm a stay at home mom so I'm with her constantly. I know she knows I'm her mom. I just don't like to hear my child call me by my name. I thought she atleast had to be a teenager before that started! =)
2007-03-12 07:49:53 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
Well, she's two and she's just trying something new. When she says your name just say "Mommy" after she does it. One thing I had a friend of mine tell me when her son started doing this was to sit down and have a talk with the child. Tell them that yes your name is Amy but that everybody in the world gets to call you that. Then say, "Did you know only 1 person gets to call me Mommy? Who do you think is the ONLY person who gets to call me Mommy?" Let her answer and make sure she understands she is the only one who gets to call you Mommy and make a big deal of it. This worked for my friend, pretty soon he was telling everyone he saw that he was the ONLY person that could call his mommy "Mommy", it was pretty darn cute! Take care.
2007-03-12 08:08:11 · answer #1 · answered by disneychick 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All children go through this phase. I wouldn't make a big deal out of it because she is getting the attention she wants.
Keep ignoring her till she says Mommy and then turn immediately and say, "Oh did you want me?" Don't let her know that you heard all of the Amy's. Also be sure to respond quickly when says Mommy even if you can't give her what she wants right then. Acknowledge that you heard her and you'll be over to help or listen as soon as you can.
When she does say Amy and you can't really ignore her or it isn't working just say, "You mean Mommy?" and she'll probably ignore your question a few times but keep saying it till she acknowledges your question and says, "yes Mommy."
Be consistent with making her say Mommy and correcting her each time you do that. Don't make a big deal of it and have your husband refer to you as Mommy when she is around till this phase is over.
Take Care. SD
2007-03-12 08:00:03 · answer #2 · answered by SD 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I haven't reached that point with my daughter as of yet, but I am waiting.
My sister had that issue with the younger son more than the older son. She would just correct him each time, telling him that she was "mommy" to him. She then asked us to refer to her as "so and so's mom" when we spoke of her for a bit.
Ask your husband to speak of you as "mom", and to address you in that manner. Also explain to your daughter that you are mommy to her, and that you should be called that. Tell her that it is a special thing to call someone mommy, and that she is the one that can call you that, and no one else has that special job. Continue to ignore her when she calls you by your name. Maybe don't respond at all to her until she calls you appropriately.
I am sure the reason she is continuing is the reaction she got the first time she did it. I would have laughed and thought it was "cute" in that situation, but that is the wrong thing to do. Just hang in there, and keep to your guns. Eventually, she may have to have a time out for "disrespecting" you by not calling you by the name you ask her to.
Good luck!!
2007-03-12 08:06:43 · answer #3 · answered by volleyballchick (cowards block) 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lol, my son is 25 months and does the same thing sometimes. If I'm not mama or mommy, I'm Nina or sweetheart. I just ignore him when he calls me by that and then turn around when he says mommy or mama, it usually works. My brother said my nephew did the same but it was just a short phase.
2007-03-12 10:03:37 · answer #4 · answered by Nina Lee 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Little children say words like that. It is a phase, she'll grow out of it. For now, just say my name is mom not Amy. Or do something that will just force her to start calling you mommy. Like, play a game with her that you used to do when she still called you mom. Then she'll just naturally say mom or something?
2007-03-12 07:55:16 · answer #5 · answered by I'm mad 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just do what you are doing, try not to respond to "Amy", only mommy. She will forget all about this soon. My daughter did this as well, but to my husband, she did it for about a couple of weeks and just stopped.
2007-03-12 07:54:41 · answer #6 · answered by Stuck in the middle of nowhere 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's a phase. She'll get over it. My step-son did the same thing with my husband for a while. It's just unique and different. Maybe encourage your husband to call you Mom when your daughter is around. Other than that, just wait it out. Good luck!
2007-03-12 09:00:52 · answer #7 · answered by Barbara B 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have the people around you call you mommy when your daughter is around. Having your husband and her grandparents address you as mommy will make her want to say mommy more. It worked with my kids. Also looking at pictures and having her point out people in the pictures as mommy, daddy, grandma, grandpa, uncle.... That will help her identify names with different people.
2007-03-12 10:22:11 · answer #8 · answered by momma 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ignore her request when she calls u amy, tell her my name is mom, mama, or Mommy, and ONLY respond to what she wants when she says mom, mama, or mommy. Try having your husband refer to you as one of those aroud her, and see if that helps...
2007-03-12 08:13:05 · answer #9 · answered by miss me! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All four of my children did that to me. If you don't react to it, just answer them, (or sometimes I would call them mommy), they eventually stop and go back to calling you mom, momma, mommy. They are learning, and actually I think it's good they know your name so if they ever get separated, they can tell someone your name. Wouldn't it be really bad if they DIDN'T know your name?
2007-03-12 08:03:03 · answer #10 · answered by bina64davis 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋