2007-03-12 07:39:45 · 11 answers · asked by GLENN M 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I know what you mean. I kind of have the same problem. I get in far too deep way too fast. (i wouldn't say obsessed but certainly too involved)
All I can say is to try and figure out why you are doing it. Are you just afraid of being alone? Are you in need of intimacy so much that you need to try and create it right away?
Try to stand back from the situation when you see yourself following the same path. If you find yourself thinking about the person too much occupy yourself with other things. Don't see them as much as you want to. Even if you are free and can see them, give yourself a limit. (don't talk everyday or if you do only talk for a short while then make yourself get off the phone) Being around someone or talking to them too much can make us feel closer to them than we actually are.
Take up a hobby, read books, start watching a new series. Do something to help occupy yourself. This might help you from spending too much time and energy thinking about or talking to the person. And less time devoted to them may help you from getting too serious or becoming obsessed.
If nothing seems to help, see a doctor. Seriously, maybe they can help if it really bothers you.
Good luck.
2007-03-12 07:46:46 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What I did was before I went back out there I took a long look at myself. Then I figured out just what I wanted in a partner. Not thing's like color of hair or what not. The real issues, like being faithful, good comminicator etc.......Keep thing's simple when u go out, don't expect anything to happen just a good time. You need to figure out why u get obsessed, look within ur self. Are u afraid of being alone or that u need someone else to make you happy? You maybe looking for love in all the wrong places.......Learn to love urself first. Don't let urself settle for anything less than what u deserve. Good Luck !
2007-03-12 07:54:51 · answer #2 · answered by cindy j 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try not to spend too much time together or only call a couple of times a week. Get hobby and have a life of your own when you spend time away from a person it makes them miss you more. It's nothing wrong with thinking about that person alot but don't call 10 times a day it just gets annoying. I broke up with a guy becuz of that. There's nothing attractive about being emotionally dependent on someone.
2007-03-12 07:51:27 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are used to having a partner in your life. Unfortunely the people you date don't understand that. In order for your life to get back on track you need to focus on YOURSELF, not hooking up with another to fill the void you are feeling.
The void is not going to go away until you realize what your wants and needs are in a relationship. Focus on you, not anyone else right now.
If you need affection and attention, a dog is a great companion. Or spend more time with family and friends to get you past this point and to the point of being single and happy with or without a partner.
2007-03-12 07:44:43 · answer #4 · answered by MJ 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Keep on reminding yourself to take life day by day, stop trying to push commitment when it's not ready. Focus on school and your career and when you're dating, focus on having fun and not trying to tie yourself/the guy down right away. Or better yet, just work on yourself for a while until you realize that you don't need a guy to succeed in life and that one day, you will be with them because you want to be, not need to be.
2007-03-12 07:45:06 · answer #5 · answered by HappilyEverAfter 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your becoming obsessed you have too many insecurities and no one like an obsessed BF/GF...can you say stalker
2007-03-12 07:43:27 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
try to take it slow. dont rush into something ur not sure of. u dont get to fully know somone over night it takes time. if u try it to fast without getting to know the quirks u will end up with a crazy one.
2007-03-12 07:43:53 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Control your emotions and give time and space to every relationship.
2007-03-12 07:43:34 · answer #8 · answered by ANU U 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
happens to lots of people. set limits for yourself - maximum time together, and take it slllooooowwww
2007-03-12 07:42:44 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lets chat and see how you are!!
2007-03-12 07:42:43 · answer #10 · answered by MafiaGal 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋