Is there any hope for us?? a mans point would be appreciated?

Question

My BF broke up w/ me and gave me no reason. just a few days prior had told me he felt he was falling in love with me, blah blah.... Then just a few days past and he stopped talking to me entirely. we hadn't fought or anything. everything was great. i tried calling and txting w/ no response. i went into that crazy, physco, ex girlfriend mode 4 some reason and called and txt him a million times. He has very randomly sent me a txt w/ "i miss u" or "i'd like to see u" crap then don't respond when I write him back. WTF?? why tell me that then ignore me. i do think he cared about me even though his actions now isn't showing it. the other day he txt me "I'm done". I get it, I was crazy for bugging him, etc. I should get the hint, move one... but honestly FROM A MANS point of view, if u really liked this girl, I mean really liked her, could u 4give her for her moment of crazyness? What would it take 4 U 2 4give her? Any suggesions on what I should or shouldn't do? it's been 2 weeks w/ no talk

ANYONE HAVE ANY IDEAS??

Answer 1

If I was a MATURE man, I would not act at all like your ex-boyfriend acted. Of course, if I liked someone a lot, I would look for ways to forgive her.

Another thing you should realize is that EVERYBODY says, "I love you" and thinks they are in love with so-and-so, but until they have had years of experience in long-term relationships, they don't know jack about what love really is, or how to make a relationship actually work.

Your ex-boyfriend is into playing passive-agressive mind games, and he is obviously successful given your reaction to them. What you need to do is NOT react at all to what he says, You need to ignore him and go on about your life as if he doesn't exist.

If he really loves you (doubtful), then he'll come running back to you. If he doesn't come back, then you never had him in the first place, and all this "I love you" and "I miss you" was just a bunch of manipulative crap.

The ball is in your court.

PS: It is incredibly difficult for others to try and read a lengthy paragraph that contains those silly substitutions for words, like 2 for "to," and 4 for "four," and U for "you."

Plus, it does not do much for someone's image either, so I would try to refrain from using them on anything that is not a cellphone. After all, you are what you write.

Answer 2

sorry i'm not a man but as no one else has replied yet i thought i'd give you my opinion... x

i think there's definately something going on that you don't know about. maybe he's scared of his feelings, if he's never been this much in love before if could be that the whole commitment, rest of your life thing is going through his head and he can't handle it. he might just need a bit of time and space to get used to the idea...

he obviously doesn't want it all to be over or he wouldn't have text you saying that he misses you and wants to see you.

you need some closure on this - you can't just move on because you want to know what happened. would it be possible to write to him - say something like 'if you don't want to go out me anymore i will deal with that but i really need to clear up what happened to move on' that sort of thing? keep it rational and don't put any pressure on him (other than that you deserve a meeting with him).

i don't think you've done anything that he needs to forgive you for - he broke up with you for no reason it not surprising that you were all over the place.
good luck with it all xx