How do i get my nephew to stop lying?

Question

He lied 2 times to my wife and once to me it hurt a lot and i dont kno how he we can get him to stop. He has been living with us for 6 months and hes lied 3 times. Taking his video games and other stuff like that doesnt work what to do anymore

PLZZ HELP
p.s. hes 15

Answer 1

Three times in a six month period isn't actually a huge amount for a teenager, dependent upon what he is lying about.

It's a tough call, though. The age to nip lying in the bud is before they turn 8 yrs old, as it is much harder when they are pre-adolescent and adolescent.

You could try showing him how ethics and integrity will be important factors of his success as an adult. Church probably wouldn't hurt. Also, tell him up front what punishments he can expect for dishonesty, and what rewards he can expect for continued honesty. Then stick to it.

Answer 2

Lying is zero tolerance in my household. The importance of not lying should be taught to the child at a young age. He's 15 and he's set in his ways sort of. Whoever he's been staying with hasn't showed him the consequences of lying. I'd say keep trying, taking things away and punishing him for his lies. My mother told me not to trust a liar, cheater, or a thief they usually go hand and hand. Once again be persistent about your disciple with him and take away things that mean something to him for lying. That is a ground rule in my house that I don't tolerate. Also explain your reasons of why you want him to tell you the truth and why you need to believe and trust him at all time in case of emergency.

Answer 3

Sit down with him and explain to him why you don't want him to lie and that it hurts you guys. Talk to him like an adult. My husband and I have his younger brother living with us (he's 12) and for the first months it was horrible. He had no real parenting, in and out of foster homes until we got custody of him. Almost 8 months now and things are going smoothly. We sat him down every time there was a problem and talking to him like an adult works. We tried the grounding, taking video games and television away and that did not help. Good luck.

Answer 4

i think all of u should gang up on him. have a meeting with him, a serious talk. be nice and very calmly ask why he wants to lie, tell him he does not need to lie. and tell him that lying is a horrible trait he should be ashamed of. but that it's okay and he can learn from his mistakes. tell him u'll give him time to change. hope this works. becoz i think if u scold him loudly or beat him he'll just be more stubborn and think u guys hate him or dont care/love him....he could also be learning this from a friend or learnt it from tv or someone and think it's a smart way to get what he wants without consequences. so let him know u know he is lying....

Answer 5

He's taking advantage of you. Is he lying about BIG thing or little things? If big things, I would refer you to Tough Love. Take the door off the hinges and leave him 2 changes of clothes and a matteress on the floor and tell him he has to earn your trust and his priviliges back....but maybe some counseling. The fact that he is living with you and not Mom and Dad means he has alot of stress in his life already.

Answer 6

you won't have the ability to alter a individual, i recognize somebody purely like that. She instructed my buddy what dates she would be likey to ovulate that have been a week off bc. she had to get pregnant until now her. She confronted her and she or he denied it. mendacity is purely outfitted in peoples character you purely won't have the ability to alter it. attempt to not teach you anger in the direction of her bc. she would have the ability to truly up the pace. next time attempt guffawing it off in front of her. She'll experience like a fool. good success

Answer 7

u'r not gonna get he to stop lying. everybody Lie's my mom cant stop me from lying and you cant stop him. he hast to learn on his own.