theres this guy i like and i know he likes me because he told me,and hes great because we have like everything in common.at first when we met ,my friend tried telling him to make the first move and he told her he doesnt make the first moves and neither do i.finally i just started flirting with him and he started flirting back all the time.we were in his car and at a red light he patted my leg then put his hand back on the steering wheel smiling sending me the message that he was glad i was there.but theres one problem he never calls me,i have to be the one to call him and hangout.i dont want to be leechy so i havent called him for like a week,but i dont want to loose him so i called him,but it went straight to voicemail,which i figure hes at work.why doesnt he call me? how can i help this? whats going on??
2007-03-12 07:13:34 · 12 answers · asked by emeralcoastsurfgirl101 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He won't mind you calling...as long as you don't make it a habit.
I wouldn't worry too much, he is probably just busy. This may come as a shock to you, but many guys don't have their life revolve around a girlfriend. They do often have other things to do.
Call him and you should be able to figure if he wants to get into you or not.
2007-03-12 07:20:25 · answer #1 · answered by Just a friend. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, have you talked to him about this? He is a guy and most of the time they just don't think like we do. So he wont know what to fix until you tell him whats wrong. If he continues to do something that hurts you (not calling) after you guys have had a discussion about it, then he isn't respecting you. As much as it might hurt you at the time, let him go. There are plenty of guys out there who will treat you right, and be a better fit for you. Hope this helps!
2007-03-12 14:23:35 · answer #2 · answered by Rebekah C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A lot of guys in my experience who are like that are simply not looking for another relationship. And when I say another they are already in one. They try to have a girl on the side when the other one is not in compliance with whatever it may have been that he wanted from her. That's where you or maybe not you comes into play.
On the other hand he could be too busy? Who's really to say but you, him, and the other woman if that's the case.
2007-03-12 14:19:37 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
he could be under stress refer to this quote from an answer i already gave a few minutes ago.
" I think he cares alot about you.
he might be in some financial problems but
when people have problems like that sometimes they need to deal with it by themselves and those types of problems create stress. and most people know and do not cope well under stress.
I think he has figured out that he might say or do somethin under stress to you and he doesnt want that to happen so he is putting you out of the way (to the side ) so that when he does blow he wont hurt the people he loves.
I know, my first girlfriend came right before my exams and she wasnt really worried about hers because she didnt have parents like mine, but the week before the exams started she started callign me , my cell , my home, and than my computer like aiming me every other second and than i just blew up adn started yelling at her which i really regret now.
(try staying out off his way)
Hope this helps and it works out. please email me if it doesnt
drawingnerd@yahoo.com "
2007-03-12 14:20:01 · answer #4 · answered by Dillon C (who else) 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That boy needs to learn how to be a man. He should be the one flirting and calling and hanging out. You should be the top of the pedestal. Just ignore him he is not worth all the trouble.
2007-03-12 14:18:38 · answer #5 · answered by soccerbabe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe he's just not that agressive of a guy, make a move and see what happens, but from what i've known, most girls don't want to do the asking out, they want a confident man who is more agreesive than positive and sure of himself. if he doesn't make the first move, he may be just a really passive non-agressive guy.
2007-03-12 14:19:03 · answer #6 · answered by www.japanvideogames.com 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find someone that's good enough for you cause clearly he isn't, especially if he can't even pick up the phone. Sounds like a jerk..the guy should be the one to call..someone should tell him to man the f*ck up.
2007-03-12 14:20:55 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah i had that feeling if your right to know to call him , call him. if this comforatable get lots of trusty friend around yoou when u are making tha call. don't be scared try it. or wait next time when you go out with just say " you don't mind it i call you on the phone " you know lilke that
2007-03-12 14:18:39 · answer #8 · answered by Tianna J 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i think that you are in big trouble because you wouldnt worry about him calling you if you really didnt have these feelings for you but it is evident that he dosent feel the same so i mean why keep trying?
2007-03-12 14:22:52 · answer #9 · answered by octashiathamoneymaker 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't call again! If he wants to see you he'll call. You don't want him to think your easy. You deserve someone that cares enough to call and treat you better.
2007-03-12 14:18:23 · answer #10 · answered by Joyce S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋