How can I become at peace with the fact that everyone I love will pass on someday?

Question

I moved to FL about 10y ago from PA where my parents, grandparents and other family live. When i left, my grandparents were full of life and very healthy. Since then, my great uncle (whom i think of as a father) has suffered a stroke, and the health of my grandparents, now in their 80's is deteriorating. Being in Florida, I feel like I am letting down my family by not being there to help take care of them. Although my grandmother/grandfather will sometimes say something like "I wish you were closer", they vocalized their understanding that I am starting a new life in FL. I have a wonderful new son (almost 7mo) who is the joy of my life and although he makes me very happy, I almost feel guilty that I am enjoying life/family without my parents/grandparents, ect. How can I find peace within myself. Just yesterday, I felt a sense of panic about their safety (or because of my own inability to be near them). How can i overcome these feelings? I love FL but I miss them so much.

Answer 1

To be perfectly honest with you. You will never have that peace unless you believe there is a life after this one. That's the ONLY way.

I used to have the same emotions as you, my friend. That was before I realized that this life is not all there is.

Heaven is the place that has been created for us, but we must choose to follow the directions of how to get there. If we don't, we will not go to heaven. It's really that simple.

If you believe your relatives and friends who die before you are going to heaven, and in fact they are, then they followed the directions of how to get there. In order for you to go there with them you too must follow those same directions.

Do that.....You'll find the peace you're looking for.

Don't do that.....You'll always feel the way you do right now.

If you have done that already, then, my friend, I say Peace to you. Start living in the Victory!


Have a blessed day!

Answer 2

It is a fact of life that death is inevitable. You will also pass on as well one day. But the human spirit is quite resilient enough to absorb the shock of death when it happens. So do not go through the grieving process several times. If they do pass on, hang onto the fond memories that you have of them and treasure these.

You can't let your life stand stiil because you want to hang around your old folks. Send them your love and visit them regularly.

It is the circle of life. Like the tides and the seasons. Like night and day. Aint nothing you can do about it.