I have a four-year-old daughter and a two-year-old son, whenever I tell them to go play, they get upset and cry. What am I doing wrong? Does anyone else get this from their kids? I'd like them to be able to play on their own but my daughter tells me they cry because they don't like being "alone" -- they aren't alone -- I am there with them!
2007-03-12 07:03:55 · 9 answers · asked by socmum16 ♪ 5 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
well i cant really say as i am a mum ..
but it was liek 10 years ago when i was tha same age ..
i remember what i did when i liked to play was ..
barbies lol
swings
learn how to ride a bike
rollerblade
dance
watch coronation street n footbal :S lol
umm .. play ball games with my family
be with friends tha same age hu lieked to du tha same things!
its pretty confusing as i dont have tha same personality as your children ..
but think bak to when you were a child what did u like to do and maybe try that on your children ..
ther is many options ..
and it seems youre tryin ur best .. see what your friends/sisters or huevas children like to do ..
dont worry something good will happen out ov this ..
GOOD LUCK XX
2007-03-12 07:12:28 · answer #1 · answered by ♫ = ♥ 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Oh my son is 3 (my duaghters' 6 months, so she doesnt count) and he just cannot play by himself. I eventually found something to work- As long as their is the tv on or a movie on and his toys in front of him, he will play, but god forbid I am not in the room, he wont' play. I can finally sit down and do what I am doing right now--- haveing Mommy time.
2007-03-12 14:11:19 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like you have been holding them a little too tight. you need to help them be on there own. school will start soon for your four year old . i had this problem with my first born he is three now. make there bedrooms lots of fun. keep them clean and have special fun things for them to do in there. my son loves to play basketball so we put a special basket ball goal into his room that he loves to go play with. we also have a art set in his and his brothers rooms where they love to play. also there is this chalk board paint that makes a chalk board on there walls that they can draw with chalk and earse and have fun with. and its not a big mess to clean either. your right to want them to be more independent. start off playing with them and slowly break away. good luck .
2007-03-12 14:11:08 · answer #3 · answered by littleluvkitty 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would buy 2 whistles give her one whistle and keep the other. Tell her that whenever she gets upset of afraid to whistle and you will whistle back so she knows that you are right there for her. This worked well for my sister's children.
2007-03-12 14:13:50 · answer #4 · answered by Amber 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u just got a few spoiled kids. i saw this on supernanny. u just start a game with them and play for a few minutes than slowly walk away.
my son is 4 and for the past few days he has been following me around. i'll be in the kitchen cooking and i will turn around and he is sitting by my feet coloring, playing with his cars. i'll move into the livingroom and he will be right by my feet again.
2007-03-12 14:18:23 · answer #5 · answered by Miki 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
dont make eye contact with them while your in the room...they will start playing on their own without you telling them
2007-03-12 14:19:26 · answer #6 · answered by c t 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
guessing it's just an insecurity. next time they are playing in front of you (when they do) try sneaking away. also just reassuring them that you are nearby with a check in periodically. good luck.
2007-03-12 14:10:12 · answer #7 · answered by dadknows 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
buy a swing
2007-03-12 14:08:09 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
beat them until they "play nice"
2007-03-12 14:22:58 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋