My current girlfriend has starting asking me about my ex-wife looks. You ask me this is a lose, lose situation. If I tell her that she is not attractive, she will not believe me. If I tell her that she is attractive I believe this may sadden her. One day she will see a picture of her, and see that she is pretty attractive. As of now I have no pictures of my ex-wife, they are all put away in storage. I love my current girlfriend, and I see myself marrying her in about a year, and my ex-wife, as beautiful as she is, she was a horrible wife. Yes I feel that my current GF is insecure and does not realize the beauty that is within her. I always tell her how beautiful she is inside and out, but she continues to ask about my ex-wife's appearance. Also she tells me that she wants me to be honest. How should I answer her?
2007-03-12 07:03:36 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
How about you be honest and just tell her the truth?
If she wants to know, just tell her. If you think she was attractive, then tell her she is a very attractive woman, and be over with it. And don’t jump over stating something like “she was an attractive woman, but you look much better”… wrong!!! Don’t mix your ex with her.
Just answer, and be over, make it like it doesn’t really bother you (and it shouldn’t). She was cute, attractive, a perfect body, whatever. Who cares, she is gone and she was a horrible wife.
If she wants to see her, show her a picture, just don’t choose the worse one nor the best one, just an average one. Don’t forget, she might one day look at more pictures, so is better to show her a regular one that she can see who your ex really was.
Just make sure to let her know that you don’t care about her anymore. This way she will not be worry about looks or anything like that. It sounds to me she might want to know so she can fix herself to get your attention better.
But if you show no interest about your ex, and the other way around with her, as you should be drooling all over when you see her, then she will know you are happy with her no matter how she looks and she will be herself.
And don’t be afraid to stare at her, her eyes, her hair, her face, her breasts, her legs, her a s s everything! Let her feel sexy, wanted and you will see a change on her attitude about her looks.
Trust me, I know (and she will become even sexier in no time after she gains more self condidence).
2007-03-12 07:17:50 · answer #1 · answered by Dan D 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand how she feels. When I'm in a relationship, I HATE hearing about his exes because I don't want to think about them being with anyone but me. But at the same time, I'm curious and I just want to know that I make him more happy than any of them did. I love my boyfriend to death, but he was with a girl for 6 years and at one point they got married. They had it annulled a month later but during the 6 years she was horrible to him and treated him like crap. I know that he loves me, but there are times when I worry that he still feels a connection with her and may decide to go back to her. Just make sure that she knows how much you love her. Do little stuff so she knows that you care. Send her a text that says she's beautiful or go to her work and leave a note on her car that says you love her or surprise her at home and just spend time with her. Make her feel special and she'll eventually get more comfortable with the situation.
2007-03-12 07:13:13 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
EVERYTHING YOU JUST TOLD US!!!
Be honest with her! That will make her feel so good to hear a straight answer.
Even the part about the ex. This GF knows you were married before, and if you really consider her to be worth marrying, then you owe her the truth!!
2007-03-12 07:12:57 · answer #3 · answered by juicy13500 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dealt with a similar stuff, bro. yet whilst the female is worth your at the same time as, then you certainly elect the circulate. Do you tell her all the time which you think of she's the main appealing female in the international? See, that's the place I went incorrect. i might in no way have ever cheated on my lady pal, yet I in no way informed her all candy stuff. She might seize me asserting to my acquaintances how hott different ladies have been yet i would not say it to her in any respect. I in no way relatively confirmed her any know whilst she gave me the international. So, i don't be attentive to in case you're in a similar spectacular seize 22 difficulty i become in as quickly as I broke up with the female of my desires. yet try possibly exhibiting her extra affection and making her be attentive to that she's the only one you choose to be with and that those different persons will in no way advise that plenty to you. except you have tried that, then possibly she's only too a good number of a jealous individual for you. ultimate of success for you and the placement.
2016-11-24 22:40:02 · answer #4 · answered by niewiadomski 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her the exact same thing you just said on here. That was not only honest, but a wonderful thing to say.
2007-03-12 07:09:07 · answer #5 · answered by dorky_goddess 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋