My boyfreind tries to make out and all, but I'm not ready, what do I do??
2007-03-12 06:50:37 · 23 answers · asked by Sarah S 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Tell him how you feel, if he doesn't accept that then he's not the guy for you.
2007-03-12 06:52:54 · answer #1 · answered by beanie_babymama 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell him you're not ready. He'll wait if he loves you. If he won't wait you don't need him. Simple enough?
Never, ever let anyone pressure you into doing anything that you a) do NOT wanna do and b) you know isn't right for you. Guys are really good at trying to get us to do one or both of those things but stand your ground. I'm guessing you are young. On the other hand, I'm 42 and have a son that's 15. My son wants to wait until he's married to have intercourse because he knows he isn't emotionally equipped to handle the outcome. I made the same decision and have never regretted it because I can see how well rounded it has made me emotionally to wait until I was fully mature.
Here's a golden nugget that I want you to always remember. Love and sex do not equate. Love is an emotion, sex is a physical act. Love does NOT come from sex, but sex comes from love. If you can hold onto that, you'll be fine.
I hope I've helped:) Stand your ground. When you're older you'll see how wise it was to do so;)
2007-03-12 14:01:58 · answer #2 · answered by cherokeemaydyn 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Never do anything you're not ready to do. Let your boyfriend know that you are attracted to him (because he might think that you're not), but you're just not ready yet and that that kind of pressure turns you off. Let him know, straight up, that you need things to slow down because his pace is too fast for you. Tell him that you hope he can respect your choice. If he pressures you, then that means that he's not respecting you, and you have to let him go. And don't be afraid of losing him if you don't do something you don't want to do. You'll be better off without a guy like that than losing respect for yourself for not having stuck to your guns and taken better care of yourself, and nobody is worth that.
2007-03-12 14:00:51 · answer #3 · answered by Purple 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him to back off in a really firm direct way.
Don't let him threaten or pressure you into going faster or further than you're comfortable. Chances are you won't be with this guy for more than a few months. You'll be supremely pissed at yourself if you let him push you into intimacy.
If you two do stay together longer than the average, you'll still be happy you did things at your own pace.
If you're looking for an actual statement, try this...
"Look _____, I know you want to do more, but if you love and respect me you won't pressure me. If kissing & _____ is getting you too worked up, maybe we should stop until you have better control of yourself."
I guarantee he won't want to go backward, so he'll lay off or quit the relationship. Either way, you'll know how deep and true his feelings for you are, which is way better than finding out he was just in it for they home run.
2007-03-12 13:58:45 · answer #4 · answered by alisongiggles 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well i wasn't ready either. It was hard for me to accept but then i started thinking, other people are doing it, its a normal human interaction so i mise well give it a try, if i dont like it then i don't have to do it, so i tried it, and i liked it, and now i want it, all the time too lol. i guess its a lust or love thing... Everything happends for a reason remember that, dont let him force you if hes a good man he wont. so when your ready go for it, or when your in that situation dont let yourself be keep busy and dont go to the movies then
2007-03-12 13:54:12 · answer #5 · answered by Skye 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Simply tell him. Just say, "Look I really like you (or love you) but I'm just not ready to take this step yet." If he respects you or really cares about you and your feelings then he will back off until you're ready.
2007-03-12 13:53:28 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
tell him your not ready. if he still tries to do things, tell him that u r serous and if he does it again until u r ready that u will break up with him. Don't let him controll u! U can not fear him. if u do, he will take advantage of it and never stop. but u have to be serous!!
2007-03-12 14:26:34 · answer #7 · answered by Snow 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
easy! tell him youre not ready and you wanna slow down. if he gets pissed, get a new bf, you w/ as *** hole, and if he understands, you'll feel better about not making out and about the wonderful guy that youre with!
if you go farther then you want, you will regret not sticking up for yourself sooner or later...
2007-03-12 13:54:14 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just tell him how you feel, and tell him that you are not ready, if he cant understand , then he is not the one, and find someone else
2007-03-12 16:20:12 · answer #9 · answered by kitty 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell him you are not ready
2007-03-12 13:52:12 · answer #10 · answered by Mike 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't and ask him to stop pushing the issue. If he doesnt stop pushing the issue, leave. Men like that are not worth the headaches.
2007-03-12 13:52:51 · answer #11 · answered by dakota_gal_1968 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋