im a youthworker, and my employer says i talk to much,and that im not to talk to him about anything thats not work realted, i feel this is odd because one time there were no kids in atall,and just myself and 2 male staff members.
the silence was awful, surely its normal to make general chit chat ,he makes me feel that im not normal, is it because im a woman, i dont talk too much, my boss isnt chatty either, also its just the rule for me, and wouldnt dare tell other staff not to talk, is he just a sexist pig,
2007-03-12 06:46:39 · 10 answers · asked by caseydaisey1000 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
i dont talk too much at work atall, just that it seems one of the men i talk too,is just weired,and doesnt even like me talking even if its about work,or to other memners of staff, even when its just staff and no kids,
2007-03-12 07:12:25 · update #1
actually its not that he is working himself atall, because if there are no kids in ,then theres nout to do, exept wait for them to arrive, or play games on the internet,so its not that i would be stopping anyone from working, also,its only me,and other staff can speak,
2007-03-12 07:21:13 · update #2
Ethically your employer is an a*s*s, and may be unethical. In some service organisations supervisors are supposed to listen to employees, even personal issues and help or refer to someone who can.
Employees often need help and that includes conversation if they are to be in top form working with clients.
--That Cheeky Lad
2007-03-12 12:40:40 · answer #1 · answered by Charles-CeeJay_UK_ USA/CheekyLad 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Many people finds it annoying listening to chit-chat, maybe you need to take some consideration yourself. You need to respect that people are different, some prefer working in silence rather than chatting. I don't think it's got anything to do with you being a woman.
I don't mean to cause any offence, but I remember many years ago when I was working as a nurse and there was this colleague that used to talk non-stop and in the end we had to tell her to keep silent, because the rest of us found it unbearable.
I am not telling you to keep quiet all the time, just be a bit considerate.
On the other hand if you feel that it's just you they are after, then it's a form of bullying and that is very serious in a working place, then you need to go and see someone about it, before it turns into a big problem.
2007-03-12 14:14:42 · answer #2 · answered by Tuppence 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It could just be that he is such a focused individual, that he is easily distracted and needs quiet to get his work done. He should certainly have been more diplomatic re addressing the issue, but sometimes blunt is best- there is no room for misunderstanding. I think you can't prove sexism, so you must simply decide if you can tolerate his dicate for silence, and if no, start a job search. He may sverey well be a sexist pig, but proving if may be difficult or impossible.
2007-03-12 14:16:20 · answer #3 · answered by GEEGEE 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it has to do with you being a woman. Your employer simply doesn't like chit chat. There is nothing you can do other than to go find a different job with a more entertaining boss. Women do talk more than man, that's a given fact. Some men like to chat, but most just want to talk only as necessary.
2007-03-12 13:52:13 · answer #4 · answered by VW 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Here's the thing. Work is for work, and you are there to work. It should not be for social chitchat. If you don't like the silence, bring in an I-pod or some device that lets you listen to music or news through a set of earphones.
No, he is not a sexist pig, he is all about the job. That's it.
2007-03-12 14:15:02 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
It's possible that you talked about topics that he or the others aren't comfortable talking about. Could that have happened? Also, if you're working, it is reasonable to ask that you keep the conversation to work-related topics. He might be thinking about other things related to work and your chatter kept him from doing work-related planning.
Sometimes silence can be really nice - especially if others have work to do. Just a thought.
2007-03-12 13:52:09 · answer #6 · answered by Stef 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
That guy's got a screw loose somewhere. If he doesn't want you to talk to HIM, then fine...oblige him, it's his right. But he CANNOT tell you not to talk to other people, if it's not compromising your work. I would take this up with HIS superior...he's got bosses too. He is creating a hostile work environment and should be dealt with. It's also legally considered sexual harrassment if he is requiring you to abide by rules that the other employees (both males) don't have to.
2007-03-12 15:22:49 · answer #7 · answered by LolaCorolla 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Maybe he genuinally doesn't like chatting to you!? It's his choice, and he's in charge, so if I was you, I'd just put up and shut up lol.
2007-03-12 13:53:34 · answer #8 · answered by Anon 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it sounds like he does not like you, he also sounds like a bully don't try to relate to him if you find yourself stuck with him again try leaving the room, if it's possible, if not talk to other people he cant stop you doing that.
2007-03-12 14:18:39 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
SOUNDS LIKE A SEXIST PIG TO ME..........
2007-03-12 13:50:49 · answer #10 · answered by michael b 5 · 1⤊ 2⤋