there's this guy who's really great in all ways (funny, smart etc...) but when ur together, he gets hot all the time. he wants to make out with u but ur not ready. i'm thinking of giving him a chance and then maybe i'd earn some respect for my body but i'm not guaranteed he's gonna change u know. i dont want to be seduced by him and yet i can't ignore his other wonderful qualities that makes me smile each day.
thx
2007-03-12 06:45:07 · 14 answers · asked by evanescent_eclipse 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Don't give up your dignity so quickly. Talk to him, tell him how you are feeling towards his actions. Tell him to slow down and let the relationship develop further first and not try to force you into things you are ready to do yet.
If he respects you, he would stop trying to do all those stuff until you are ready. If he doesn't respect you, his actions and qualities that makes you smile might just be a bait.
2007-03-12 06:52:28 · answer #1 · answered by Shan 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well first off, How do you know him?
Second, what is his track record with previous relationships?
Yes, these questions are very relevant in considering your next step.
I had a friend for 10 years, that I never did anything with until one year. But, we still remain friends because we had respect for each other.
However, if you just randomly know this person and is known to be a bit of a player take that is a warning.
However, if you have known each other for a long time and and he seems sincere, his hormones may be getting the best of him and he may be utterly fascinated with you!
Think it out, if you think it is something you are going to regret, then don't do it. Your instincts know best!
2007-03-12 14:01:19 · answer #2 · answered by pattiof 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is a classic manipulator. He uses his other "good" attributes to try to get what he really wants...which is sex. If you're not ready for affection or lusty behavior, then he should acknowledge that and respect your boundaries. Since he's not being respectful, you need to ignore ALL of his qualities and just walk away.
I guarantee that as soon as he gets what he wants, he's going to drop you like you're infected with Ebola. Just stay away from this guy...he's bad news.
2007-03-12 13:51:36 · answer #3 · answered by Brutally Honest 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Talk to him and tell him how you feel. If he won't back off, maybe he is just an idiot and can't control his sexual urges. Like a chimpanzee.
2007-03-12 13:48:48 · answer #4 · answered by Doug K 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would but, maybe don't...make out but like.. a kiss on the lips, that's all
2007-03-12 13:49:19 · answer #5 · answered by Sarah S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lol i have the same problem, yea i wasn't ready but i let him force me into it, and i trusted him.... so i did it. i let us make out, and now im ready for more more more! just let things happen
2007-03-12 13:48:29 · answer #6 · answered by Skye 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if u think that u can change him and gain that respect that u crave then go for it but if there a little bit of dought then i would rather not go for it!!!
2007-03-12 13:55:03 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hmmm..
maybe I would but if he keeps looking at my body in craving it..than that will make me uncomfortable..and I'd be looking at him as a sl.ut.lol
so no I wouldn't.
2007-03-12 13:52:11 · answer #8 · answered by Gõlden angel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if hes funny make it a joke ahahh
2007-03-12 13:49:37 · answer #9 · answered by gossipgirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
girl, maybe the dude really likes you-
or maybe he's just really horney.
I would date him unless he really starts getting on your nerves.
2007-03-12 13:49:32 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋