A co-worker of mine died last tues from a long battle with throat cancer, He was a pest to a lot of people..just stopping by their booth and rambling about lots of non sense and interupting the production day! He really got on my nerves a lot cause it seemed that he had to walk by my station to and from the bathroom daily and he never failed to stop and go on and on about any and everything.Well the last time he stopped by, i sort of gave him a good going over cause he just would'nt stop talking and interupting my work so i gave him a mean stare and smacked my lips and said"paleeze stop it, i don't have time for this today" well he left and the next day he was found dead in his apartment by his oldest son! Should i feel bad that i was mean to him on his last day? Why do i feel so sorry?
2007-03-12 06:35:47 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
You feel so sorry because you were rude to him and the next day he died. He didn't die because you were rude to him, he died of throat cancer.
2007-03-12 06:45:19 · answer #1 · answered by Babe 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Well, as Malachy McCourt says, "Live every day as if it were going to be your last, and eventually you'll be right." Lesson learned here: be as kind as you can to everyone every day.
I would feel absolutely terrible if I were in your shoes. You didn't hasten his death, but surely you were aware of his health problems and perhaps his rambling and talking were a way of dealing with what must have been deep anxiety about his illness.
There's no going back now and undoing what you did. Yes, feel guilty about it -- that's a good sign, that you do have remorse.
You can make up for it a little by being nicer to people who come your way, even those who annoy you to no end. Also, be sure to write a very nice note of condolence to his son.
Take care, and God bless!
2007-03-12 07:23:39 · answer #2 · answered by meatpiemum 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with the last response. You had no idea that he was gonna die and you shouldn't beat yourself up for it.
Whats done is done. However maybe you should rethink your approach to people in the future. I try to be nice to everyone I know and don't know. You just never know what people are personally going thru. A simple compliment to other's is a great way to feel good about yourself and make them feel good too. (something like 'I like your hair' or 'You sure look nice today'.)
If you are way busy at work and don't have time to ramble, there are polite ways of saying this. Say something like 'Ya know I'd love to talk to you further, but I am really slammed here. Could we talk later?' Get your point across in a nice way and you'll feel better about you too.
2007-03-12 07:05:16 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should feel sorry!!! For all you know, this man had no friends outside of work and maybe limited family. He probably viewed you as a friend. A lonely guy comes around for a chat and you yell at him? You just got a load of bad karma. Try being nice to everyone, even if they're bothering you. They may not be all right in the head, or they may just be lonely and looking for a friend. I bet you'll feel a lot better about yourself.
2007-03-12 08:31:42 · answer #4 · answered by LittleItalianInMe 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You feel so sorry because it's always sad and/or painful when someone dies, especially when it's someone you know. It's also natural to feel bad about being "mean" to him on his last day, but how were you supposed to know? Do yourself a favor and take this as a learning experience. The next time you're dealing with someone like that who is interrupting your work, stand your ground but try to be a little more tactful
2007-03-12 06:45:11 · answer #5 · answered by sarge927 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
the sorrow your feeling is natural and normal, but it is enhanced by unnecessary guilt. you were not the reason he died, his cancer was. sure, you can feel sorry and remorseful, i support that. i'm not saying don't feel bad. i am saying don't blame yourself for his death. he probably heard a lot worse from other people in the years before he died, and those didn't affect him too much. your comment was out of frustration and stress. i don't think you wanted to hurt him, If you want, visit his grave and apologize to him there. sometimes that helps.
i'm sorry, and i hope i have been able to help.
2007-03-12 06:46:13 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can tell that you feel bad by just asking this question because someone you know has died. You feel so sorry because you wouldn't have never thought in a million years that it would end this way and it's okay to feel like this. When a person dies and we have no way to make amends, we as humans do feel this way. I think this person knows you're sorry because your thoughts went to his spirit, so don't feel too bad, it's okay.
2007-03-12 07:56:39 · answer #7 · answered by Dimples 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's understandable that you feel bad, but feeling bad doesn't change what happened to him. Being kind to people can be difficult, but the fact that it's difficult isn't an excuse to not be kind. i would probably "talk" to him, let him know that you are sorry, and try to move past it and learn from it.
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2016-10-02 00:10:45 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely not, he was annoying. So you said what you had to say. Even though he could've have been avoided but you probably could've taken so much and no more. Sorry he died though but he's in a better place... leaving this corrupted world behind.
2007-03-12 06:46:24 · answer #10 · answered by NicOOd 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋