im having trouble concentrating on my job and have no appetite,any helpfull advice from those whove been there.?
2007-03-12 06:32:16 · 25 answers · asked by Alfred E. Newman 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
ahhhhhhhhhhhh you poor thing, the only cure for a broken heart is time, you will get over it and you will also learn from the experience and take that knowledge into your life. we all get hurt in our lives some more than once, but its better to know now than later no matter how hard it is right now, you must eat and you must carry on ,the best revenge is for them to see you getting on with your life, trust me that will bug them far more than seeing you waste away, that only serves to make them feel more powerfull that they have that hold over you. think of all the positives in your life, family, friends etc and get out a little no matter how daunting that feels right now,you will start to feel better, and whilst you still may feel crap right now at least by showing them you are moving on will give you the power over them and the fight back in your belly, trust me on this it will get easier with time good luck you will find the right one for you and this will become a distant memory that lays the foundations for a happy future, i wish you well. emma
2007-03-12 09:39:58 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just keep moving - it feels horrible for a few days after a break but if you keep busy and try to stay focused on the task at hand things will start to fall back in place. On the way home pick up a box or 2 then when you are home start to pack up all the little reminders, photos, clothing, etc. Put these things in a closet so you don't have to look at them - you can determine where they wind up in a few months but for now remove them to a sealed box. Join a new book club, take a paint class at a Home store and just keep busy before you know it you will start to feel better more like yourself again. If you aren't hungry have a "soup at hand" so you stay healthy - the last thing you need is to be sick and miserable. Drink lots of water and take a daily multivitamin it will help you stay physically better which will help you get mentally better. One step at a time and soon the break will be miles behind you. Good Luck!
2007-03-12 06:40:48 · answer #2 · answered by Walking on Sunshine 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I have just been thru a breakup. First I was constantly crying. Not eating. Not sleeping. Not wanting to do anything. Tried to meet someone else, that made me miss him even more. Then I tried to put on a brave face and pretend - it worked for a bit, then I went thru another emotional phase that was even worse than the first!
Then i stopped to think what the hell am I doing? If this guy makes me feel this bad and cry all these tears - even after everything that has happened - we are still not with one another - then he clearly aint worth my time. Somone bigger and better will be along very soon. We are good, beautiful people. Lifes too short to stress about love. Believe me - I have learnt the hard way.
2007-03-12 06:49:48 · answer #3 · answered by Ms.Trouble 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Time is the great healer. It is better to be sad now, than to be sad forever with that person. I have been wrongfully cheated by my ex girlfriend. It was very painful. We had gone out for 3 years. I hated the world, I hated her, I cried everytime I saw 2 people genuinely in love. I felt like I would never love again or be loved by anyone ever. I sank into a great sadness and hopelessness after that, I began to pray to God for help. God helped me overcome this painful situation. God did something that nobody else can teach you. He opened my eyes. I stopped focusing on a woman's physical appearance (you know), and I started focusing on the inner beauty of women. I noticed that the beautiful (physically ones) were empty and vain, and the average (had great beauty within). I started going out with this girl, she may not be Miss America, but she loves God and me. My life and the way I see life, and relationships is not the same. I hope that my advice helped you. Let me know if there is anything else I can do to help you.
"The beauty of the exterior fades and vanishes with time, but the beauty within lasts forever".
Jean Jacques Rousseau
"True love suffers long and is kind, it bears all things, believes, never gives up, and endures all things".
1 Corinthians 13:7
2007-03-12 06:45:34 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi, I'm sorry you're feeling the ailments of heartbreak- people don't often sympathise with wounds that don't cause us scars. I haven't been there myself, but I have met a great deal of people who have and who have come to me for help. I practice Angel Magick, and strongly believe that if you invoke the correct angels, and listen to their love and light and advice, then you can feel better in yourself. There are different angels for your concentration, your appetite, and even your sense of being.
Eventually, you'll be able to stand on your own, but you sound like you need reliable and un-biased advice, and the angels can provide this as well as their love.
Something important to remember when you are feeling heartbroke is that things will get better with time, and if you let go, you can meet someone else who can be even more special.
I would recommend getting in touch with your spiritual side, especially the realm of angels. Perhaps meditation and ritual will help you also ^_^
Don't hesitate to cotact me, as I like to help!! My email is missytetra@yahoo.co.uk. I hope you find your pathway. In love and light x x
2007-03-12 06:43:57 · answer #5 · answered by missytetra 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ive not been through heartbreak but i kno it isnt a nice thing to go through. just keep positive, busy and suround urself with the people you love like family. this is how i see it.. if you well and healthy and all your loved ones are okay theres nothing to worry about there are many opportunities out there for you to find someone special and i dnt mean going out and seeing someone on the rebound!! take some time out, get to know yourself.. have some "you" time. this will help you get your selfesteem back up and you will be fighting fit as soon as you know.. then there will be no stopping you! so go get um tiger!! love G x
2007-03-12 07:20:47 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I still am there, with a girl for 5yrs & then after a year and half got with another girl for nearly 2yrs. I broke up with her 3wks ago.. I still hurt like crazy over both of them to be honest..
Sorry to tell u this, but nothing helps, only time..
Go out and have some fun with friends, and just try your best to concentrate in work, try to keep urself busy when in work..
Its gonna take a bit of time for u to be a 100% again.
TIme Time Time
2007-03-12 06:39:13 · answer #7 · answered by Point 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No compassion from the mob I see...your heart is breaking and they want you to be man ..and be strong.........well ....I take a different position...it is OK to hurt and quite normal..psychiatrists say breaking up is the second hardest thing after losing a loved one to death ....so yes..you are going to feel ill for a while ..just means you have feelings and are human...so what to do...keep very busy..force yourself to go out with friends..talk to people on line..write more in yahoo answers ..whatever it takes to get you through it...IT will pass with time....but try to eat because not eating releases other enzymes which may make you feel worse...talk to anyone who will listen to you as well ..good luck ...you will survive
2007-03-12 06:50:40 · answer #8 · answered by connie b 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i'm sorry for all your difficult cases. this would properly be a great Bible verse for a youthful guy with a broken heart: Isaiah 40:29-31 He provides capability to the weary and will enhance the possibility of the susceptible. Even youths enhance drained and weary, and youthful men stumble and fall; yet people who wish in the Lord will renew their capability; they're going to run and not enhance weary, they're going to stroll and not faint.
2016-11-24 22:36:13 · answer #9 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
firstly and foremost be honest with youreself i know cos i been there , its easy to say but dont let it effect ur work and eating , i was always told by my mum theres plenty more fish in the sea , but it will take time took me 2yrs to trust another woman but im glad i didnt give up so dont do that it will get better it just takes time , keep busy and spend evenings with ur friends thats when youre at ur lowest good luck
2007-03-12 07:06:09 · answer #10 · answered by MALCOLM C 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋