I need some help urgently please?

Question

I have arrived home to find that my cat 17 years old has died, my husband and neighbours are out and I can't bear to move her i'm too upset but I don't want to leave her there cause I can see her it's making me more upset I live in a bedsit and don't want to sit in the bathroom what can I do

I can't go near her I can't accept she has gone, I keep expecting her to get up and come running I want to put a blanket over her but i can't go near her I can't see through my tears, I'm too shaky too phone anyone or move

Thank you so much everyone for your answers so many good ones it has to go to vote

Answer 1

i am so sorry to hear that. in my opinion you should get a towel or sheet and cover her up. leave the house to go to a friends or even the pub for a stiff drink and get hold of your husband. he should come home and put her in the car away from you. it may help to say your goodbyes before you cover her and then make that the last time you see her.

17 years is a very good age for a cat.

Answer 2

When Being Strong Hurts More Than Grieving Can
The death of a pet is never an easy time. Whether it is an older animal, who may have been a part of the family longer than most of the furniture and some of the children, or a pet who has been with you for only a few years, the loss can be truly traumatic. And if the end comes through a conscious decision for euthanasia, other emotions become entangled with the basic sense of loss. Once it's over, you may prefer to think that the experience is behind you. Unfortunately, it is not.

There will be a hole in your household and in your life for a while, and for the first part of that "while" the hole may seem huge. There ARE ways to fill the gap. However, the loss itself is not something you can simply ignore, assuming that your world will adjust itself. Instead, you must deal with that something, just as you would deal with the loss of any other good friend. Yes, it is a different kind of relationship, but to behave otherwise is to try and change your attitude in mid-stride. You cannot expect yourself to think of your pet as a friend and then to dismiss those feelings as disposable because THIS friend happened to be an animal. It is NOT silly to miss your pet, and it is NOT overly sentimental to grieve.

Another difference lies in the always complicated idea of "what happens next". Many people, especially older folks, express a very real concern that they won't see their animals in the next life (whatever that may be) because they have been told that animals have no souls. Maybe you, like me, are a little unsure about what exactly " the next life" holds for any of us. However, if having a soul means being able to feel love and trust and gratitude, then aren't some animals better equipped than a lot of humans?

But still, he was pet and not a person, and that makes it more complicated to sort out exactly what you are supposed to do and feel. Although we recognize the individual personalities in pets, that doesn't mean that they are just little people. The relationship you have with your pet is different from any human relationship you may have. We have the responsibility to care for animals and to learn from them. As we domesticated pets, they became dependent upon us for their needs. Part of caring for them, especially in a technologically advanced society, often means deciding when an animal can no longer live a happy life or even a content one.

When an animal is made a pet by a responsible, caring person, he is being given exactly what he needs and wants: his "creature comforts", companionship, and the opportunity to return the favor through loyalty and affection. Dogs, especially, are naturally eager to please the "leader of the pack", and the owner takes on that role. So the dog is never happier than when he knows that he is pleasing that person. When he is too old or too sick to respond in the way HE thinks he should, he can't understand why and feels the anxiety of failure.

Because their natural life-spans are shorter than ours, we usually outlive our pets. However, the life you shared cannot simply be abandoned. Don't deny yourself the thoughts, memories, and feelings that your pet's life deserves. You may decide to fill the hole with another pet. However, you can never replace the special bond you held with the one who is gone.

Answer 3

So so so sorry. Please get her a towel and cover her up, even if only up to her neck. My partner did that for my Boy when he died. Can you walk around the block? How's about making yourself a cup of tea or coffee - plenty of sugar - to help with the shock.

She's had a good long life at 17 yrs old! And it sounds like she went suddenly rather than suffering for a long time. Much better for her, but I understand how you will miss her. Remember, she wouldn't want you to be too upset.

Answer 4

Call a vet and see what suggestions are available! If it is too hard to look then simply cover her with a blanket until your husband or someone else arrives (that can assist you)! I am deeply sorry for your loss! Call a friend or anyone available to you that you can vent to if necessary!

Answer 5

I'm so sorry for your lose. But 17 is a good age. I'm sure you have a wonderful time with her. That's why you feel so bad now, because she brought you so much joy.

I know it's hard to accept when you lose a friend you have loved so much. But she gave you no reason to fear her while she was alive, why fear her now. That's not you friend, that's just a shell. You can still touch and stroke her to say goodbye though, there's no reason to be afraid.

I know it feels bad now, but this feeling will fade and you will have just the happy memories of all the joy she brought you.

Answer 6

I know im answering this question hours after you put it on, but i do hope your ok now. I really feel for you it is awful to loose an animal especially after so many years. I can honestly say that if you have just found her lay down dead she has more than likley died in her sleep. Hope your husband came back shortly after you posted your answer. Take care and god bless xxxx

Answer 7

awwwww I'm so so sorry for your loss cover her with a blanket and go to a friends house and have a good cry then when you husband is back give her a funeral.
good luck
hope my advice helps
well if you can't phone any one I know it sawnds hard but may be you could sleep and when you husband gets back do wot i sayed before

Answer 8

Put a blanket over her but dont cover her head. Can you call your husband at work and see whether he can come home???

Im really sorry for your loss

Answer 9

Put something over her, like a cloth. Call the local humane society and tell them, they should send someone over to take the cat for you and talk to you.

Most importantly, let yourself mourn however you can. She was part of your family and has passed and though I'm sure she wouldn't want you to be sad, that she'd be happy to know she meant so much to you. Say some words for her.

Answer 10

Oh, poor baby. It sounds like she lived a long and happy life though. Get a nice box, put her favorite blanket or toy in it, then place her in it.

Decide where you want to bury her or if you want to get her cremated. Call the vet and they might be able to send someone to help you.

I'm so sorry!