alright so here's the story!
I'm a senior in high school and my best friend and I both have the last period lunch of the day. None of my friend's have that lunch and those that do leave for an internship so i can't really eat lunch with them. I give my friend rides home EVERYDAY because she doesn't have a car. Every single day she has been telling me that she has to go to guidance. Litereally every day to find out about colleges. Today she told me that she had to go to guidance during our lunch (again for the 5th day in a row) i saw her at her locker i said are you coming to lunch she was like "no i have to go to the libary" I said didn't you say you had guidance? she told me she went during homeroom but she sits RIGHT IN FRONT OF ME in homeroom and she was there! So now i'm refusing to give her rides home considering i have to sit by myself at lunch now. Is that mean of me? I just keep making up excuses and she gets REALLY MAD AT ME...am i really being that big of a jerk?? Am i?
2007-03-12 06:26:34 · 34 answers · asked by pantherkick07 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
she talks trash so bad to me about her other best friend. She says how she could never go to college with her. Complains about her every day to me and told me she didn't even want to go into the college she got accpeted into because her "best friend" that she "can't stand" that is "annoying" is going there its' weird....
i know that she has talked bad about ME to the other girl she claims is her "best friend" i've heard her when she thought i wasn't around. I've confronted her about all of this!!
and her "other best friend" always thinks i'm lying and she manages to somehow turn the story around all the time!
am i being a jerk? by not giving her a ride home!
2007-03-12 06:28:04 · update #1
o yeah p.s. now she's rooming with her "other" best friend at college that she claimed to me "she couldn't ever live with"
2007-03-12 06:31:33 · update #2
No, you're in the right. She's being a jerk.
2007-03-12 06:31:10 · answer #1 · answered by chrissy_lyn_99 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No I dont thinke from what you telling me that you really are, now if there is more to it like the reason she started lying to begin with I mean at one point it more than likely was going right, and honast with your friendship or it wouldnt have gotten to the point that it, I'm speaking in good ways. Anyways if she is giving you the run around than no its not wrong to do what your doing and really she doesnt want it if she is making exscuses for it anyways seems your the one asking for it and getting the denial so its not like your actually stopping the actions she is. But the issue as to wether your a jerk or not doesnt lie on wether or not your doing it because your alone at lunch I mean that shouldnt be the base of wether or not you would do something for someone you do it because she is your friend I would hope, if your not and only seriously doing it because someone is your companion at lunch then you not really a friend yourself, I dont know but what I do know is there is more to this than what you said and you'll have to look at all of it to get an answer, being honast with yourself, good luck Kim
2007-03-12 06:33:47 · answer #2 · answered by KIMBUR 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like this girl is using you. I don't think that you are being a jerk, just maybe a little childish. You need to be honest with her. If she is talking trash, then confront her with the person who is saying that she is talking trash. Tell her that you feel that you are being used for your vehicle. She is obviously lieing to you. You don't need friends like that. Sounds like you need to make better friends. Make some new friends, and put her to the side. Let her know that it isn't your responsibility to make sure that she gets where she is going, unless there is a "taxi" sign on your vehicle, tell her sorry, I am busy, or just a plain "I don't really feel like running you all over the place". Her true colors will show, if she is really a friend, then she will make the effort to BE your friend. Good Luck!!!
2007-03-12 06:35:51 · answer #3 · answered by Austins Mom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know what.....and I'm sure you've heard this before....
With friends like that, who needs enemies?
This girl is OBVIOUSLY using you for a ride home. Let her take the bus. Besides, does she give you gas money? Does she spend time with you, ever? Does she even make intelligent conversation without talking about someone else behind their back???? Think this over... I think you're doing the right thing. In a few years when you're making something of yourself and she's stuck with her head in high school, this will all make sense... and believe it or not.... you'll laugh.
2007-03-12 06:34:53 · answer #4 · answered by Miss Aly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
look sweetie, it doesn't sound like she is a very good friend. As you get older you will learn that there are people in this world that are takers. and she is one of them. A friendship is supposed to be give and take and it sounds like all she does is take. You need to ask yourself, are you getting anything positive from this friendship? Other than just someone to sit with at lunch? If you aren't, then it is time to cut your losses and move on.
I know that it is hard to have a lunch period with out your friends, but look at it differently. Use this as an opportunity to get to know other people. Or perhaps you could use this time to go to the library and take care of some of your homework.
Good luck hon.
2007-03-12 07:40:47 · answer #5 · answered by Nik 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No id think your probably doing the same thing that I would do.. You should not hide the real reason that u wont give her rides home.. Just tell her that " You dont want to fall out with her and really like her as a friend but that you feel like she is taking you for granted a bit.. " Be honest and talk with her,,, thats the only way forward, trust me.... Best of luck
2007-03-12 06:33:37 · answer #6 · answered by Point 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A ride home is not a big deal, but there are things going on that you are not aware of and she is not telling and is not very articulate in talking to you. You are finding things out that don't quite wash. She doesn't have to guidance every day. I think she is seeing someone as more than a friend.
2007-03-12 06:35:31 · answer #7 · answered by Monsieur Rick 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow that a lot of drama confront her again alone and if she telling you the same bull from before just let her know what ever she hiding you'll keep it a serect an you have the right 2 be mad an not give ride shoot she can ride the bus but on the real honesty at times is the best solution
2007-03-12 06:35:52 · answer #8 · answered by maudhaitian2 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you are not being a jerk. Let her walk. Tell her the next time she wants a ride that the Shoe Leather Express is now boarding!She is nothing more than a Gossip Queen. I am sure you would do better for yourself by making some new friends.
2007-03-12 06:35:06 · answer #9 · answered by ~Jennifer~ 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Run! Not only does it seem that she is using you, she also lied to you. Im sorry but she sounds very self centered. let someone else give her a ride home. If walking on your supposedly friends, lying to them and cutting them down behind thier backs is what she is doing ... Who needs a friend like that? unless you like being treated like dirt, which Im sure you don't.. Who does?! I know we should forgive people for thier downfalls, but there is a limit to what you let someone do to you. I feel you are being used for a ride home and maybe for whatever else would be convienient for this particular person. With friends like that, who needs enemies? Run! Run Forrest run!!! Really though, run for the hills. Im sure you have some real friends honey.. This one may not be so real.
2007-03-12 06:39:26 · answer #10 · answered by Godlover 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to her again, ask her what she's trying to do by lying and why did she lie in the first place.
You might want to talk to her other best friend in private, get her view on this and compare it with yours. Then maybe both of you can get a clearer view of this person.
I don't think you're being a jerk, but who knows, maybe you are in her point of view?
2007-03-12 06:33:26 · answer #11 · answered by Shan 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋