20 y/o college student in a relationship of 1 yr, living with a great guy whom I love. My problem: I find myself being overly clingy and moody with him. Little things, like him playing video games, grow into huge problems. I usually catch myself and apologize, but I get depressed because I see what I've done. He doesn't deserve this, but I can't help getting angry or sad over tiny things that take him away from me for even small time periods. Despite this, he's asked me to marry him when we graduate. This has brought up things that I'm not ready for, like the topic of children. He doesn't want any and I don't know what I want. Plus, it scares me. I feel like I have more growing to do. I love him deeply but I'm not sure if he's "the one." I don't want to be obsessive or dependent, but I don't have any good friends. He's all I have. I don't recognize myself anymore. I love him and don't want to lose him, but I miss the strong, independent girl I used to be, the one he fell in love with.
2007-03-12 06:24:33 · 8 answers · asked by Morgan 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Also: he's my first real relationship. I've dated around and was with one guy off and on who treated me very badly. I know I don't have much relationship experience, but I honestly don't want to date anyone else. I love him so much and I don't want to lose him. I don't think it gets a whole lot better than him.
2007-03-12 06:35:53 · update #1
You need to do some soul searching. You were independent, But now you have a significant other. For Some reason this isn't sitting well with you. Obviously you love him you have made that very clear. I see you don't know what you want. It's impossible to have a stable relationship when 1 of the halves is fickle about important life decisions. You can still be strong and independent with a man. I'm sure he still loves you regardless of how you have changed. It seems also that you require more time than he is offering, my solution to this is communication. Just because your not ready for something doesn't mean you can't discuss it with an open mind. Trying being more simple and less complicated, For yourself that is. The main thing you need to be is happy. Focus on that and then the rest of the answers will come to you in time. i wish you the best of luck with your endeavor
2007-03-12 06:39:25 · answer #1 · answered by aphotic nostrum 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You hopefully have alot more growing to do. You can't be happy with someone else if you're not happy with yourself. The times that he's on the video game go take a walk or bake a cake-hell
2007-03-12 13:31:24 · answer #2 · answered by Khalil 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Getting mad over him playing video games are normal... I am 22 years old and i am married and have two kids, and i get mad when my husband plays video games, and doesnot pay attention to me or my kids... I would marry him if you love him.. And eventually once yall get married, and settle down, he will want to have kids one day... But don't rush it. I got pregnant when I was sixteen, and now i'M 22 WITH TWO KIDS AND A HUSBAND... Enjoy your married life, when yall do get married, and then decide to have kids... Beleive me, when you have kids, your social, partying life is over... I never even got to be a teenager, But of course that is my fault... But I married my High School Sweetheart, and had two kids with him..And that's all I need.. Once you have kids you will be the same way.. Butplease like I told you before, don't rush it. GOOD LUCK TO YOU AND YOUR BOYFRIEND.
2007-03-12 13:36:26 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel kind of similar to you, because I am in love with this guy but I don't know if he the one. I have not been in to many relationship I just don't want to make a mistake than later regret it.
2007-03-12 13:30:23 · answer #4 · answered by angle2005star 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't let go of a good thing... if you love him... why would you do something that he doesn't deserve... think before you act... if you need some growing-up to do... then grow up with him... i'm sure all of us men needs a lot of growing-up to do.. but we usually want to keep a good thing... especially an understanding woman.... and plus... you wouldn't want to let go of him before you find out if he's the one or not...
2007-03-12 13:39:31 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
baby girl, you need to find your center; go back to what is important to you; what makes you happy. meditation works well. just for few moment, you need to concentrate on nothing else except yourself. close your eyes block all thoughts. just answer who you are, what is your core believe. take a few deep breaths. once your mind is calm, you'll see things clearly. and about blowing up, just think before you say things that might hurt others.
2007-03-12 13:39:04 · answer #6 · answered by harmony 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want a happy relationship and marriage you will need to zip your lip and maybe the way he thinks will change.
2007-03-12 13:30:26 · answer #7 · answered by felippie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need time for yourself and figure out what you want and what makes you happy. Once you get there, everything will fall into place.
2007-03-12 13:47:25 · answer #8 · answered by It is what it is 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋