Am I expecting to much to want to marry someone I'm "in love with"? I have guys that really like me and they are great but that "thing" isn't there.. I want to be head over heels for someone and spend my life with them but is that unrealistic? Is it better to be alone and wait for the one,or settle for someone you just have luke warm feelings for...I don't want to spend my life alone but I don't know if I'm delusional.
2007-03-12 06:19:27 · 8 answers · asked by chica11 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think you have the right feelings. I couln't give you an advice about what is better as long as I'm not sure myself. How old are you? You'd beter wait a little longer then rush and married just for the sake of it. I'm not married but I've heard sometimes is not a big deal. Wish you good luck!
2007-03-12 06:24:57 · answer #1 · answered by Pearl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As long as you feel like you're "settling" for a guy, then committing to him is a bad idea - a *very* bad idea. Eventually you'll resent him for tying you down, and he'll be hurt/resentful that you don't care for him like he wants. Then, what if you meet some guy who is perfect for you, and the spark's there, but you've married someone else who cares about you and you thought would "do"?
If you decide not to wait for the real thing, then make sure you're doing it with your eyes open and without illusions - if it's a good man, then a version of love which I'm assured can be plenty satisfying can grow from the experiences and concerns you share with him, but it may never be quite as exciting as being in love from the start.
2007-03-12 13:34:21 · answer #2 · answered by Megs 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No that is definetely not being unrealistic. You have every right to want that
You won't be alone.The right one will come along and do not settle for anything less,ever.
Marriage or any commitment is a big "job" and without that it will lead you nowhere.
Anyway, it is better to be alone than be with someone that you just have lukewarm feelings about.Enjoy your life and your friends and in the meantime keep looking.You are definetly not dillusional.I wish you the best.
2007-03-12 13:33:18 · answer #3 · answered by sonnyboy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NEVER settle! You will find the love of your life. He will come along when you least expect it. I felt the same way, I almost married a guy who wasn't right for me. I'm so glad I didn't because I would have missed out on the man I'm with now. So just focus on the things in your life that make you happy, love will come along soon enough.
2007-03-12 13:27:20 · answer #4 · answered by beanie_babymama 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No way! You are definitely not expecting too much. It's good to set high standards--that way you'll get a great guy. Just keep waiting, you'll eventually find the right one for you, and there will be a connection between you two...and fireworks and chemistry...hang in there! :)
2007-03-12 13:24:27 · answer #5 · answered by horsesareforever 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's better to wait. If you settle, you will only end up leaving that person when you find the "one" and that isn't fair to the "lukewarm guy". Just wait, you'll find it, and when you do, you'll know exactly what's right.
2007-03-12 13:24:47 · answer #6 · answered by Brandy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just wait never lower your standards for anybody that someone will come when you at least expect it when your not looking he will pop in your life and you will be very over the hills for him he could be right in your face but you can't recognize him because your to busy trying to find him trust me wait and it will be worth it.
2007-03-12 13:27:02 · answer #7 · answered by Mz.Tweety 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No your not expecting too much! Thats not unrealstic, if you dont feel a little spark or could see yourslef with them in your future, then they just aren't right for ya.
2007-03-12 13:22:59 · answer #8 · answered by Skye 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋