I don't necessarily need to be in a relationship but I think that if the situation is right, what's the problem with just going ahead and making things official.
I'm dating a guy right now (only two dates so far) and I know he said that he hasn't really been up for a relationship but that perhaps if the right person came along, he would. What's really the difference between exclusively dating someone and being boyfriend and girlfriend after all. Obviously he has comitment issues, how can I assure him I'm worth the time? I don't want to force myself on him and scare him away. Should I just be patient till he comes around or give him a little talk (after a few more dates).
2007-03-12 06:11:12 · 8 answers · asked by Alexandra F 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I would be extrememly careful here. You may ensd up with a person who truly doesnt want to EVER settle down with you. But if you insist on this path I would always keep things "light". Dont be to huggy kissey or touchy feely. Dont talk about the what ifs of a future. Dont move in. Who knows maybe you can turn things around for the guys. Good luck to ya.
2007-03-12 06:18:15 · answer #1 · answered by Devdude 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
OK STOP! If you need to sit there and sell yourself to this guy on why you are worth his time, you need to ask yourself "why do I think so little of myself that I'm serttling on a guy who doesn't want me?" He clearly stated "I'm not up for a relationship" That is code for "I'm looking to have sex with a girl without making a comitment." You need to run as fast and as far away from this guy and don't look back. And don't kid yourself, you do want a relationship. You should have one if that's what you want. That is the point of dating, to find companionship. And you shouldn't feel bad for wanting a relationship, and you shouldn't make a guy try and like you. If a man is into you he will make that clear and pursue a relationship with you. So ditch this guy and his "comitment" issues.
2007-03-12 06:22:51 · answer #2 · answered by beanie_babymama 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well if you want a relationship its pretty obvious what you should do....... You should move on and date someone else that wants a relationship. Because the boy you are dating now probably isnt going to change his mind anytime soon, and he doesn't see how good of a person you are to be with. So i say #$@% him and get a guy that wants the same things you do.
2007-03-12 06:16:07 · answer #3 · answered by Skye 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
no don't give him the "little talk". if he doesn't want a relationship discussing one in any way shape or form is only going to scare him away...and he will be gone for good out of your life.
your best bet is to remain a FRIEND in his life. instead of "dates" per say "hang out"....he may or may not end up seeing you as "worth the time" eventually....it happened to me..it can happen to you! good luck..and if he never "comes around" then that is how it goes...while being his friend dont' be waiting and hoping....as i said BE A FRIEND in all ways!
.remember friends first, lovers last!
2007-03-12 06:24:24 · answer #4 · answered by LM 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
ever watch Sex and the City? when miranda was wondering why that guy hadn't called back. and burger (one of carrie's men) said, well if a man wants you , he'll do anything to be with you. otherwise, he's just not into you! you can be patient. but it sounds like your trying to make a block fit into a key hole. it's not going to work out. you knwo what you want, you know what you need and if he cant give you that then move on. life is too precious to waste on trying to change anyone to fit our lives.
2007-03-12 06:16:40 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you should just wait a few more dates before you express your feelings. Also if he is the one for you he will make that move first.
2007-03-12 06:15:58 · answer #6 · answered by angle2005star 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well youguys definately need to be talking about these things, don't ever just assume your seeing someone exclusively b/c that's how feeling get hurt. i say just take it slow and see what happens, you've only been on 2 dates, no need to rush things, if it's meant to be, it will.
2007-03-12 06:17:36 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell him .. I understand .. how about us just being friends ?
your making it complicated for yourself honey
2007-03-12 06:20:09 · answer #8 · answered by Kara 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋