I have lived with my boyfriend for close to a year now. I sometimes feel like he isn't that into me bc he's not a touchy-huggy-feely guy...doesn't like to kiss me goodbye, never hugs or likes to snuggle (save wrapping his legs around mine when we sleep). He will kiss me if his co-workers/friends are over at our house...but when we're alone he won't...I have to beg for a kiss when he heads off to work. Are some guys just like that? I mean, he wouldn't still have me living with him if he wasn't interested anymore, right? (PS, I know for a FACT that he couldn't be seeing anyone else...he comes home right after work every day). Thanks for any and all input! :)
2007-03-12 06:03:32 · 16 answers · asked by tinkerbell_pixy24 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Mabye he's depressed about something. Try to have a serious conversation with him. See what up, how he's feeling about work and fiances. Let him know how much you appreciate and love him. And that you are proud of him. Then stop trying to kiss him - even when people are around. Two can play that game. He'll come around.
2007-03-12 06:09:43 · answer #1 · answered by Mo 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
We've all heard the phrase "why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free". He's getting the intamacy for free, he has you probably cooking and cleaning for him. But he's not willing to be affectionate and mkae you feel loved. He does it in front of firends for pure show. I've been in the same sitiuation you are. He's not the right guy for you. When a man loves you he can't keep his hands off of you. Quite a few of my relationshsips have been like yours. My husband is completely different. He's been very affectionate since we first met and he likes to have it reciprocated. If he doesn't enjoy doing the same things you do ex: snuggling, kissing, hugging. Then you need to find someone who does. You don't sound happy, and you should be happy with the man you're with. You two live together, that sounds serious. Can you really see yourself spending the rest of your life with a man who doesn't want to touch you?
2007-03-12 13:14:02 · answer #2 · answered by beanie_babymama 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That's a hard one. Some guys are not as affectionate as others. This usually has to do with the way they were brought up and how comfortable they are with feeling close. The question you probably should ask yourself is are you getting what you want out of the relationship? Is this something you can talk to him about? If so, talk to him. If nothing changes maybe it's not for you. Communication is important.....
2007-03-12 13:16:09 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Was he always like this since you have known him? If so he may be the type of person that is not very affectionate accept to display it when others are around. I f he has changed then you will have to look at the warning signs and maybe think that he may be losing interest and confront him.
2007-03-12 13:16:14 · answer #4 · answered by chazzz 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Guys don't feel like constantly showing and proving they want to be with a girl. We're just wired differently. Guys don't require a lot of attention as girls do and we can't give you all that attention without it feeling weird. Can't you girls understand that and just accept it as the way we are?
2007-03-12 13:09:58 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him how you feel maybe he doesn't realize you want to have more of a intimate relationship.. so men have to be told " hey i want some lovin" ... If he really loves you then when you tell him what you just asked us... he'll either change for the better or show you if he really is staying because he loves you or not... yes it will be hard to talk to him but its better to get it out now then have get engaged or more serious then find out that he doesn't feel the same way you do.. talk to him he'll understand ... mine did.. and i have been married for almost 4yrs.
2007-03-12 13:10:46 · answer #6 · answered by Americasgirl 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I've read, that when a man is only affectionate in front of other people, he's trying to prove that he's not gay. I hope that's not the case. He may not like girls, but desperately wants to be seen as "normal" by others.
2007-03-12 13:09:28 · answer #7 · answered by darkyhatur 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's losing interest, and it seems very rapidly- how do you know he's not seeing anyone at work???- if he's always back from work on time- where else would he be able to see anyone??- why do you think he's not interested in kissing you before work- because he's looking forward to soemthing better at work!!!
Good Luck!!!
2007-03-12 13:09:05 · answer #8 · answered by Alvin S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listen, speaking from experiece, the guy is not interested at all. No affection at all....means there maybe someone else or you just don't do it gor him anymore. I say move on. Women need affection. Somethings not right!!!
2007-03-12 13:08:56 · answer #9 · answered by sistahgirl1230 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'm not like that, but some guys are. although it sounds like he may have some kind of emotional issue that prevents him from affection because that seems more extreme then just not being "touchy-feely"
2007-03-12 13:08:35 · answer #10 · answered by LawDude 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋