I met a girl at a friends wedding about a month ago - she seemed really positive and fun and we talked a bit (mostly about her) and i notice she kept sitting next to me, coming outside when I was..etc
she crossed my mind a few times since then so I got her number from my friends new wife, and gave her a call. She was driving at the time so I told her I'd call her back in 15 but she didn't answer. i text her to say i don't understand what i said in the matter of minutes to make her ignore me and that i would take it as if she is having a bad day... she text me back to let me know she was having a bad day and that she would be free the next day should i wish to call. i was busy all week so i called her at the end of the week but no answer. she text me a few days later apologising, & she was having it hard and busy with work, but saying i should call her sometime during the day. considering the trends so far i am no fool - she will not answer.
what the hell went on?
2007-03-12 06:02:14 · 29 answers · asked by tripppah 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
she can't wait around all day for your call. she has things to do too.
2007-03-12 06:05:12 · answer #1 · answered by John Becker 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Let me make sure I get this. You called her, for the first time, and she was busy. You say you'll call her back and when you do, she doesn't answer. So you send her a TEXT message asking why she's ignoring you? What in East Hell is that about? I don't know about her, but there are times when I set my phone down in the car and when it rings again, I'm scrambling for it, trying to find it. When driving, that's dangerous, so sometimes I just let that sucker ring. I'll get back to them. Besides, that's what voicemail is for. She may not have been ignoring you, simply busy.
If I was she, your text message would have annoyed me and I'd have written you off, just that quickly. If you're going to be paranoid like that and we're not even in a relationship, I'm not about to see how much worse it might get later.
Next point, she told you when to call her back. You did not. Then you call her DAYS later and when she doesn't answer, you again assume that she's ignoring you.
There's something I'm missing here. At the wedding, from what you said, it didn't seem like you were all that interested. Your interest was delayed and you had to get her number from your friend's wife. Considering it took awhile for you to show that interest and take that step, maybe she moved on, thinking you weren't interested. Now you're calling, out of the blue, trying to make demands on her time?
What is she supposed to do? Drop everything she's doing because NOW you're available and NOW you want to talk to her? That isn't logical.
So my advice, if you're seriously interested in pursuing something more with her, call her ONCE more. If she doesn't answer, leave a message. Don't text. Leave a voicemail message. This means that you are leaving the ball in her court, to decide if she wants to get to know you. Give it 3 days, if she hasn't called, move on. She's not that into you.
2007-03-12 06:17:10 · answer #2 · answered by Infamous B 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She is interested in you, but sounds like a busy person. Let's see, so far you have called her 3 times and have had a hard time finding her with free time to talk. Not a big deal in my book. There are no huge "signs" here, other than her acknowledgement that she would like to talk to you.....sometime. Don't get a tude, I think the best thing to do now is to laugh about it and say, "hey, you're so busy, why don't you call me when you have some time to talk". Then let the ball be in her court, and you'll find out the answer to your questions.
2007-03-12 06:10:06 · answer #3 · answered by Caper 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it sounds like she's having a bit of a time with life right now and just may not have time for anyone. There are some people however that fly by the seat of their pants all of the time and instead of committing to a couple of good friends they try to text message, call and e-mail everyone and wind up not being able to really be there for you. I would say if you want to give her another try then why can't she contact you? Give her your number and tell her when her life slows down then give you a call. It will give you the info you need by her stopping to give you some personal one on one attention.
2007-03-12 07:07:00 · answer #4 · answered by nm 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you over reacted when she said she was driving and then didn't answer when you called back. That probably scared her off. If I told a guy that I was busy and he should call back, and then he freaks out and messages me accusing me of ignoring him (when I hardly know him), then I would be wary.
Leave your number and stop calling her/texting her. Let her figure out if she wants to give you a chance or not.
2007-03-12 06:07:54 · answer #5 · answered by mikah_smiles 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to get beyond the bad timing and busy schedules. At least give it a try and call her. Ask her when a good time is and let her know when you are available. You will never know unless you call again.
2007-03-12 06:17:31 · answer #6 · answered by True 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're really interested, keep trying. If not, blow it off. You never know what's going on, 'cause you don't really know her that well, yet. I would at least keep trying until you meet up at least once and see what the chemistry is like. It seemed to be pretty good at the wedding. Could be just circumstances. Maybe she's coming down off a bad relationship. Who knows. You'll never know if you don't try.
2007-03-12 06:08:24 · answer #7 · answered by thankamy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe something really did come up at work. I'd try ONE more time. If she doesn't answer, leave a message to get her to return your call. If she doesn't answer or return call, drop it and find some one else to cross your mind. Write her off as a game-player.
2007-03-12 06:07:43 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-02 00:08:40 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you met her at a wedding that is when s are easy. A little hormone clicks on and then they have to meet a guy and get married too. Or she could also be ignoring you because she no longer feels like she needs a man right now.
2007-03-12 06:11:17 · answer #10 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Oh my goodness a girl with a life outside of you. Give the girl a break. Text her and tell her to call you when she has time. And when she does... just be your own happy self.
2007-03-12 06:09:04 · answer #11 · answered by lily 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋