I am in a good relationship and after a few months have gone by we finally said "I love you" to each other, but the problem is we ran out of things to talk about and I really don't want to lose him, so what can I do?! Please help me!
2007-03-12 05:59:51 · 18 answers · asked by julygirl_101 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You should do some soul searching and decide if he really is who you want to be with. If you have nothing to talk to him about now, what are you going to do a year from now or twenty years from now?
What do you two have in common? What are his likes and dislikes? You could make the effort to learn about something that he likes (sports, cars, golf, stocks, etc.) and talk to him about that. He could teach you more about it and then you have something to talk about. Get interested in his interests and it will expand your discussion topics.
Have you touched on the "controversial" topics yet? Religion, politics, family? You could learn more about him in discussing these topics as well. However, be careful not to take a discussion and turn it into a huge fight over a disagreement in beliefs. Take the time to see his side of it (if it differs from yours). He probably has good reasons for his beliefs and it will benefit the relationship if each of you listens and considers the other's beliefs, if just for the sake of consideration.
Good luck and I hope it works out how you want it to.
2007-03-12 06:10:58 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
How did you run out of things to talk about? Don't you have friends, family, hobbies, jobs? If you're not together every minute of every day and you have a couple of interests in common, there should be something to talk about. Sign up for an evening class on some subject you're both interested in, read books or watch movies and compare opinions... If he has a favorite thing to do that you don't know much about, get him to teach you... or the reverse if there's something you know that he's curious about... Take a weekend off to go someplace or do something that's totally new to both of you... Sharing new experiences gives you memories together to talk about, and you'll both have different ideas/viewpoints to compare, and be able to learn more about each other.
2007-03-12 06:08:47 · answer #2 · answered by Megs 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the communication is slowing and there is nothing to talk about, then the relationship may be in trouble. If you really want the relationship to work, you have to fight to keep the communication channels open. Talk about the weather, sports, your day, just anything to keep the communication lines alive. Otherwise it will becomes a sexual relationship.
2007-03-12 06:16:00 · answer #3 · answered by MoPleasure4U 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
impossible to run out of things to talk about.
i can talk for days to a person i haven't met.
especially if the person i am talking to is into getting to know another person.
you two only been together a few months. if you ARENT close or comfortable, you won't have nothing to talk about because you wouldn't be able to talk about personal stuff and embarassing things, etc
2007-03-12 06:03:05 · answer #4 · answered by John Becker 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go out to new places together, like the museum, or a movie you haven't seen to have new and fun things to talk about. Tell him about your day and ask him about his own day. If you really don't find anything to talk about, you probably don't have that much in common. Find out what he likes/dislikes, what's the latest book he's read, what he likes to do in his free time, etc.
2007-03-12 06:02:56 · answer #5 · answered by Queen Bee 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
take a break from each other. i am not saying break up or anything like that. just don't hang out with each other all the time. go out with your girls and he needs to hang out with the guys. that way when you guys are together you will have something different to talk about. best of luck
2007-03-12 06:09:57 · answer #6 · answered by simplyme 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you know everything about your guy? Does he know everything about you? If not then trust me there are a lot of things you can talk about. You could always try talking about the day's events, which my guy and i never get tired of doing.
2007-03-12 06:05:49 · answer #7 · answered by fanciful me 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you stop being best friends with people because you run out of things to talk about? I'm sure you'll think of something. It doesn't have to be intensely interesting every time you talk to him.
2007-03-12 06:04:48 · answer #8 · answered by Kristin 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just casually talk about things like the news and movies and stuff like that. How was school? How was your job? How's your day been? So did you hear about this?
2007-03-12 06:03:02 · answer #9 · answered by Liquid Snake 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well, if you are looking for things to talk about, ask him about his interests. get him talking about it, then comment. ask odd questions, like "what do you regret most in life," "if you could be anything in the world, what would you be?" stuff like that. try doing things together, like bowling, go to concerts, sports events, watch movies, go skating... do things, and then talk about them :)
2007-03-12 06:07:14 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋