my bf is really lovely, attentive, kind, generous and hardworking.... he's the first guy that's ever treated me this good.. before i met him i was going from one turbulent relationship to another... we have been so close and i want it to stay that way... on the weekend he mentioned going on vacation to the dominican republic alone.. he said the reason being that he gets to have that experience alone.. but he did mention on taking me to florida.... i'm hurt by the fact that he wants to go alone... can somebody help me understand this??/
2007-03-12 05:51:22 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well..it seems like your boyfriend is testing you to see your reactions...and apparently it seems like ur handling it very well....I have a boyfriend that treats me just the way yours does, and i was just like u, jumping from relationship 2 relationship b4 i met him, but now that i found one that treats me so right, its so hard to let him do things on his own because ii dont want to lose him...but if he never did anything to you for you not to trust him, then y not let him go?! like i said, hes testing you and my boyfriend does that to me to see how i would react and even though i kno hes testing me, i still get mad! lol..but as long as he hasnt lied or cheated on you, then you should let him go and trust him..that will make him feel closer to you because he knows you both can trust each other...it will make ur relationship even closer..hope it turns out well!!! ;)
2007-03-13 04:33:51 · answer #1 · answered by JB. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Relax, seperate vacation can be a good thing. You should think about taking a vacation by yourself at the same time. I have don't this a few times and it is GREAT. you will learn so much about yourself.
I backpacked for 3 months in Europe (without boyfriend)
I did a road bike tour in Arizona for 11 days (no boyfriend)
I hike the Appilacian trail for 5 days (no boyfriend)
I did a 10 day camp and kayak thing (no boyfriend)
I went to Australia and New Zealand for 2 weeks (no boyfriend)
Each time I did have a boyfriend and choose NOT to have him there. It will make you a much stronger person. It also makes your relationship stronger...if your relationship is not stronger afterward, then you are in the wrong relationship.
2007-03-12 13:07:34 · answer #2 · answered by Amy B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are not joined at the hip! There are myriad things you will BOTH want to do alone throughout the course of your relationship. Don't feel hurt or threatened by this fact. Besides, he wants to take you to Florida, right? Don't look a gift horse in the mouth and be thankful for having landed a good guy after all the duds you previously dated!
2007-03-12 12:59:37 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
By taking you to Florida, he’s showing you that he’ll take you with him wherever he is, but if he wants to go to the Dominican Republican alone, respect that decision. Don’t ask him why you doesn’t he want to take you because he’ll see that you’re going to keep on asking until he says something and that’s when a problem will start. Just tell him that you’ll keep in contact everyday so you won’t start to get worried.
2007-03-12 12:59:04 · answer #4 · answered by ღ 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't want you to feel bad but ... I have been to the Dominic Republic and there are very many readily available good looking woman all over the place.
2007-03-12 13:00:51 · answer #5 · answered by Spookie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Remember that you have to give your partner his own space, and respect some of their needs.
You don't want to be the kind of girlfriend who is bussy, insecure, jealous, dependant, all the time, you can get him tired of you.
You have to be self secure, and know that if he really loves you he will come back to you, and respect what you two have. We usally know what we have, and if he wants to cheat, he can do it in the same citty that you two live.
2007-03-12 13:12:14 · answer #6 · answered by Popocatepetl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are a lot of beautiful mulatto girls there that for five dollars would make all his dreams come true, Why would he take a stone to a river, or a sandwich to the banquet?
2007-03-12 15:11:54 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're depending on this guy for your happiness and not on yourself. That's the first and biggest mistake you can make with your life. Your happiness should be up to you ONLY!!!
2007-03-12 12:55:33 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he just needs a little time to himself to think and clear his mind.
2007-03-12 12:54:38 · answer #9 · answered by Skye 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is a red flag. I would definitely not understand that and I htink you should talk to him about it.
2007-03-12 12:56:52 · answer #10 · answered by Kristin 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋